It’s easy to talk about limits when you’re not in a relationship. But once you fall in love, you forget about everything you were saying before ‘the one’ came along.
You convince yourself that you should fight for love and that it’s not always easy to create a healthy space where you feel happy with your partner.
But how much you should take before you realize that your relationship stands no chance? When is the right time to walk away and save yourself from lowering your standards for those who don’t deserve you?
If you see any of these red flags then you better let go of your relationship. Otherwise, the chances are that you’ll end up hurt and you’ll regret deciding to stay even after seeing that things weren’t going in the right direction.
1. An inappropriate relationship with an ex
There’s a thin line between staying on good terms with an ex and having an inappropriate relationship with one. And if you notice that your boyfriend keeps crossing that line, then you better walk away.
If you let him know on multiple occasions that it upsets you that he constantly goes out with his ex, keeps chatting to her, or always fails to introduce the two of you, then it’s best to go your separate ways.
At this point, it looks like his ex is more important to him than your feelings.
It’s one thing if they decided to stay friends with each other but if he spends more time with her and invests more energy into their relationship than into yours, then there’s something wrong with that.
It all becomes too inappropriate and if he wants to neglect you for the sake of his ex, then there’s nothing to stop you from walking away.
2. Your partner willingly makes you jealous
Have you noticed that your partner willingly makes you jealous? Even though you’re not the jealous type and you don’t want to be a participant in dirty little games, you can’t help but notice that he’s been doing it on purpose.
He wants you to fight for him and prove to him that you’re worthy of his love. He wants you to be good enough for him but that should never be the way your partner treats you.
If you notice that he’s been comparing you with other girls or wishing that you look or act like any of them, you have only one option – to leave him.
This type of behavior shows that he’s immature and not worthy of your time or energy. He’s probably not satisfied with himself and wants to make you feel the same way.
However, you should never let him turn you into a fool and make you lose your self-confidence. The moment you realize that he’s been willingly making you jealous, you should pack your bags and leave right away.
3. He gaslights you
Does your partner make you feel like you’re always wrong? Everything you say is irrelevant and he’s told you on multiple occasions that you’ve been acting all crazy.
If this keeps happening over and over again, it means that you’re being gaslighted and your partner is trying to blame you for things that aren’t your fault.
This form of manipulation helps him get things his way while making you feel guilty for actions that have nothing to do with you.
If he’s a manipulator, there’s nothing you can do to change his behavior. He’ll always look for excuses and put the blame on you.
So, you better walk away from this relationship because sooner or later, you’ll realize how unhappy you are.
4. He treats you badly
Does your partner give you bad treatment the moment he gets what he wants? Before that, he acts like a loving guy, pays attention to you, and makes you feel like you have yourself the best person in the world.
But the moment he gets things his way, his behavior changes completely. This nice and caring guy becomes toxic and manipulative, or maybe even abusive.
And you’ve realized that he acts this way with everyone around him. Even his family members and close friends get the same treatment.
It’s obvious that this guy is bad for you and you should leave this relationship before things get worse. Trust me, his behavior won’t change.
5. He’s selfish
Does he care about your needs or does he ignore them completely? Do you come first or does he have other priorities in life?
Once you answer these questions, you’ll be able to know whether your guy is a selfish type who only cares about himself.
He never asks you how you’re doing, he fails to show any signs of appreciation for everything you do for him, and he always ignores meeting your needs.
The only time you see him acting like he cares is when there’s something in it for him. It’s obvious that this guy is a selfish manipulator and that’s all you’re going to get from him.
So, you better walk away from a relationship that will never make you happy. If he’s unable to put you first now, why would you decide to stay?
6. He’s a compulsive liar
Compulsive lying is one of the aspects of the behavior of a narcissistic person. If you notice that your guy feeds on lies, then there’s nothing for you in that relationship.
It’s impossible to make him stop or help him heal from this because compulsive liars have this need rooted deep inside their bodies.
No matter how many times you confront him, he’ll give you an apology and then continue with what he knows best – lying.
Don’t expect him to change his behavior because that’s not going to happen.
So, if you find yourself in any of these words, then it’s time for you to walk away from your relationship. Even if your partner promises to change, it’s rarely going to happen because he’s used to living his life this way.
So, for the sake of your sanity, leave him and don’t even turn around to see if he goes after you. You don’t need a man like this.