Love yourself before you love anyone else, right?
If you think about it, most of us don’t follow through with these words. But why?
You’ve heard the expression a dozen times: “You can’t help someone else until you help yourself.”
Then why is it so difficult to apply those words to yourself?
It’s tough to love someone if you don’t love yourself first.
The reason behind it is probably because society failed to teach us about self-love.
While some people prioritize self-love less than other life values, it’s actually one of the best things you can do for yourself.
Most of us when looking in the mirror see a bunch of flaws and remember the past experiences that gave us those emotional scars.
Because of that, many people fail to love themselves before loving anyone else.
In a world where happiness evolves around material things, it’s important to know the source of what makes us happy.
While a bunch of material things can give you short bursts of joy and then leave you feeling empty inside, loving yourself can be a real game-changer.
Because you’ll find true joy and happiness within you and you won’t need or crave any of that stuff anymore.
And when you do that, you’ll learn to love other people too, especially those you’re dating.
At least, that’s what I learned when I put myself first.
When you begin to love yourself and continue doing so, other things in your life will slowly get better.
Although, self-love isn’t always easy.
It’s rather difficult to find it when you’re sitting alone in the room, crying yourself to sleep, and your heart just aches.
That’s what I felt after my last heartbreak. It was tough to reject the thought of not being worthy of love anymore.
I had to go through hell and back to find my self-worth and self-love again.
But finally, I found it.
And I learned that loving yourself is a must. It’s an essential thing everyone needs to learn if they want to live a life of happiness and no regrets.
For a long time, I held back those thoughts because I was told I wasn’t worthy of love. I bullied myself about it ever since.
But I tore those walls down and I finally learned to love me for me. I know now that I’m a wonderful human being and no one can take that from me.
You only get one chance at this life and I decided I don’t want to waste it on self-loathing.
I hated myself for a long time, though I had no reason to feel that way.
That said, I noticed it lead me to feel resentment toward other people too, even when they didn’t deserve it.
So, I asked myself, “Why should I hate other people even though they didn’t do me any wrong?”
And I finally experienced an epiphany.
I realized that I have a whole life waiting for me on the other side of all that hate and misery.
It’s your responsibility to love yourself before you love anyone else.
Sometimes, when you’re in a romantic relationship with someone, you fail to see that you gave your happiness to the other person.
It becomes their duty to make you happy and fulfilled. And that shouldn’t be the case.
Your happiness and self-love is your responsibility and no one else’s.
If you leave it in the hands of others, you’ll only be disappointed. Because that’s what people do – they make each other both happy and miserable.
You have to love yourself because that’s when I felt true inner joy and satisfaction.
And try to worry less if you experienced a heartbreak recently. Breakdowns often precede breakthroughs.
Countless times I’ve been utterly broken down.
That said, those moments gave me the opportunity to pick myself up and start anew.
The positive side of feeling heartache is that I discovered I’m capable of so much more than I thought I was.
The pain that I felt at that moment was excruciating. But, I rose like a phoenix.
I learned how absolutely unbreakable the human spirit can be. Those were the turning points of my life.
Those breakdowns gave me the chance to love myself again. I knew I wasn’t just a scared little girl anymore.
On the contrary, the breakdown transformed me into the beautiful and strong woman that I am today.
Another thing you’ll learn when you start to love myself is that you’re in control of your own pace.
You don’t have to rush into anything.
When I learned to love myself, I noticed that I wasn’t just tiptoeing through my life anymore, but I was fully present and immersed in it.
I learned to have patience and to enjoy the process of waiting for someone to come into my life. And right at that moment, my vision of love changed.
I learned to accept the mistakes I’ve done and I’ve learned from them.
The beauty of love lies within ourselves. If we realize we aren’t perfect, that’s when we’re going to learn to love other people too.
And self-love takes a lot of work and dedication.
Loving myself was the best decision I’ve ever made.
Because I know that only when I truly learn to do so, I will be able to go out there and search for a partner who’ll accept me for who I am.
Those holes that I’ve felt within myself after the breakup, I filled with my own happiness and self-love.
Of course, I’m not done yet in rebuilding myself. I have a long way to go. But that’s okay with me because I have now the motivation to be the best version of myself.
I have the perseverance to succeed in life and I’ll practice self-love for the rest of my life.
There is nothing wrong with putting yourself first, before loving anyone else.
And it may seem to you like it’s the hardest lesson to learn in life. But it’s not.
You just have to change your mindset and be brave enough to tackle the negative thoughts that you have in your head.
When you gather that courage, you’ll stare at yourself in the eye and you’ll tell yourself: “You’re enough.”
That’s when you’re going to feel true happiness in life. And there won’t be anyone else who can take that from you ever again.