To be honest, today’s dating scene is rather chaotic. It’s not uncommon for a woman to fall into the trap of waiting for a guy who doesn’t even know what he wants in his life.
So, are the two of you exclusive or did he suggest an open relationship? Are you questioning his faithfulness to you or is he just testing the waters and doesn’t want to date any girl at this point?
These are some of the questions that go through your mind when you’re trying to find the right one for you. I know that it’s tough not knowing where you stand with this guy but it’s not unusual at all.
The thing about dating is that you should always keep your dignity, no matter what. If he’s keeping you as his second choice, then you should back away from him.
Never settle for anything less than being the one and only choice.
I understand that guys can be like that sometimes. He may want to date other girls, even though he’s been seeing you, because he wants to prove his manliness by keeping you on the sidelines.
By doing so, he gets an ego boost and his friends think that he’s a player, so it’s a win-win situation for him.
Being viewed as a catch is something rather important for a man. He wants to show you that you have strong competition so that you want to devote all of your attention and time to him.
You fighting for his love and admiration isn’t something new to him. He probably thinks of himself as the grand prize you should try hard to win.
Unfortunately, many women decide to engage in these types of contests, hoping that they’ll land ‘the man of their dreams’. They don’t want to be labeled as losers who gave up so they put up a fight.
The other girls are their enemy and they’ll do anything they can to beat them but that’s when they lose their dignity. Their emotions get the best of them and they lose track of what’s most important – not losing yourself.
The truth is that the only way you can win this battle is to leave immediately and focus on yourself and not on the guy. You may think that you’ve lost the fight but you actually keep your respect by walking away gracefully.
Don’t believe if anyone says that you’re weak or scared because those are comments from people who don’t even know you.
You’re a woman who knows her worth and who would never settle for just being someone’s fling.
By leaving this guy behind you, you’ll be doing yourself a favor.
He’ll always be wondering whether or not he made the right choice by choosing another girl and if he realizes that he made a huge mistake (and he will), well, that’s on him and not you.
He can try to contact you again but you’ll be long gone.
You must never forget that you’re the grand prize and that other guys should chase after you. It shouldn’t be the other way around.
When you think about it, if you decide to engage in his little mind games, you’ll be competing against other women for the spot of his girlfriend and that seems a bit much. A man like that doesn’t deserve you.
Every decision that you’ve made has led you to where you are right now. And this situation isn’t any different.
Maybe you weren’t meant to be with this guy; have you ever thought about that? It could be that the universe is sparing you all the trouble you could have with this man.
After all, he’s a manipulator and a toxic player if he’s letting you compete with other women. Believe me, he’s enjoying having all the attention on him while you’re waiting for him to make a decision.
Maybe that’s a sign from God telling you that he’s not the right one for you? Perhaps the right guy is someone you’ll randomly bump into tomorrow at your favorite restaurant.
You never know what the future holds for you and don’t ever forget that there’s plenty of fish in the sea. A lot of fantastic people are out there waiting for you to meet them.
So, why should you settle for this man who probably thinks that you’re just an ordinary woman and that nothing really stands out about you? If he’s wondering whom to pick between you and her, then let him pick her.
In his eyes, you’re nothing special as he sees you as equal to someone else. That shouldn’t and can’t be called true love.
A relationship like that won’t survive and can’t last forever.
Additionally, by removing yourself out of the equation, you’re actually taking control of the situation, which in my opinion is pretty attractive. It makes you look more desirable and wanted by other men.
Don’t let this man decide what your future will look like! If you let him pick her, he’ll think of you as someone who knows that she can do better than him.
Trust me, he’ll regret the day he didn’t choose you over her.
Let’s be real for a second here. You probably aren’t as into him as you want to be if you’re waiting for him to decide.
If you really liked this guy, then you would ask him to go on another date with you. When true love is in play, then there’s no room for other women to come in.
If it was meant to be, then the situation wouldn’t be so complicated or messy. That’s why letting him pick her will prove to be the best choice of your life.