Growing up, we watched dozens of romantic movies that had one thing in common: ‘Love conquers all!’
Love is presented as something worth fighting for, no matter what you are experiencing in a relationship.
But sometimes, you will find yourself in one that doesn’t seem to be going the way you want it to.
If that ever happens, keep in mind that some things are not worth fighting for, no matter what we have previously been taught.
Fighting harder will not bring you happiness or satisfaction so you should get rid of it as soon as possible.
This can sound harsh but the sooner you realize where you stand, the better you will know what your next step should be.
Even though you’re hooked on the love drug, you notice that something isn’t right.
If you feel this way, then keep looking for the signs that potentially mean it is time to end your relationship, as it is not destined for the long haul.
1. You are together only because you are used to him
Sometimes all of the love can turn into comfort and this is a dangerous zone from which it is hard to escape.
You begin to think that you two are still in love with each other but the spark is gone and the only thing left is the habit of being together.
This means that you two will not make any effort for each other as you’ve entered the ‘everything is acceptable as they will not leave me‘ stage.
You’ve become a part of the routine and your relationship is based only on the good memories of the past.
It doesn’t matter that your connection is long gone as you are used to the two of you being together.
Instead of reacting and doing something about it, you find yourself in an ‘OK’ relationship which is acceptable only because of the length of time you’ve been together.
The problem with this relationship is that you will never grow as it is stuck somewhere in time. There is no love.
There is only the appearance of it, which is false and belongs in the past.
If you are staying in the relationship just because you invested time in it and because you are used to them being around, then it is time to end it.
Let’s put it this way. You always go to work on a particular bus. You see the same driver, passengers, and environment.
Everything is familiar and you feel comfortable in it. However, at some point, the bus starts to arrive later and later, so you always get to work late. The driver is stressed and disrespects you.
Would you keep taking the same bus to work or would you change things and look for a better option? Think about it!
2. You are not being yourself
If you have to pretend and act around your partner, then it definitely means that you two are not meant for each other.
Being yourself and feeling comfortable in the relationship is the make-it-or-break-it point.
If you ever feel that you need to choose your words wisely and tiptoe around your partner, you will never experience real happiness.
You will always be conscious of what you say and afraid of his reaction, which can only lead you toward relationship anxiety.
If your partner doesn’t accept you the way you are, how could you expect something different from him?
You should always be enough, no matter what type of relationship we are talking about.
If in your relationship you wear a mask according to the occasion, then you should freely leave and lock the door behind you.
3. You are not happy
Truth be told, being happy is the primary reason why we choose to stay in a relationship.
But what to do when you haven’t been happy in what feels like forever? Do you try harder or walk away?
If you are living in the past and only remembering the times when you were actually happy, then try to think about what went wrong.
Relationships aren’t about the constant feeling of happiness as there is no such thing as a perfect relationship.
However, if you feel like you haven’t been happy in a while and that you are stuck somewhere where the only emotions are anger and sadness, things are probably not going to change in the future.
Feeling like you are stuck and thinking about how life would be much easier without your partner are clear signs that you two should end things for good.
4. You don’t trust him
‘Trust’ – the well-known foundation of any relationship.
If your current partner has betrayed your trust, the chances are you will never be able to fully trust him again.
Trust is built over time but only one wrong step is enough to completely destroy everything.
When you get to the point where there is no trust and you constantly think about where he is, what he’s doing, or if he has lied to you, you can expect that you will never be able to fully trust him again.
”A relationship without trust is like a car without gas. You can stay in it, but it won’t go anywhere.”
It is easier to walk away instead of mentally suffocating yourself with constant questions and doubts.
Trust is hard to repair and questions from the past will always make their way to the present.
If you know that the trust can’t be repaired, set yourself free, and start enjoying life instead of fighting with your mind.
5. You can’t see a future with him
In the honeymoon stage of a relationship, everything seems perfect.
He is funny, knows what to say at the right time, and makes you feel loved and secure.
As time passes, you begin to notice things that you don’t agree with.
His values don’t line up with yours, his morality is at a low level and his beliefs are completely opposite to yours. How could you have missed that?
The thing is, at the beginning of a relationship, we all tend to present ourself in the best way possible.
Later, piece by piece, we show our real face.
After you fully get to know someone, you may realize that you two could never work and that if you stay together, your future won’t be bright.
Let’s say that you love kids and would love to have some one day, while he would never want that even in his wildest dreams.
An important decision like this can be a problem when trying to find a solution.
Yes, you can compromise on minor disagreements like the restaurant where you will have dinner tonight but life-changing decisions shouldn’t be agreed upon through compromise alone, as one of the partners will always feel like they had to sacrifice something.
If you notice that you two are heading in different directions, then try to have a conversation about it, and if you see that it probably won’t work out, decide to leave.
Spending your whole life with someone is a huge decision and you should always feel satisfied with your choice.
If your gut feeling tells you that this is not the right choice and your mind is in agreement, it’s best to leave.
Not all relationships are destined to be. Sometimes, it is better to leave than to feel like a bird stuck in a cage.
Your wings already exist. All you have to do is fly.
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