If you think that love is always going to be easy, you’re definitely in for a surprise. If you want to find the right one and to have your happily ever after, you’ll have to put in the effort and time for it.
With that in mind, you have to remember that not every man will be worth your attention.
Always be sure that the person you’re trying to impress deserves your time and effort. You don’t want to spend your energy and precious hours of your life on someone who doesn’t deserve it.
After all, no woman wants to be manipulated and tricked by a toxic player. And the moment you realize you’re in a relationship with a guy who’s stringing you along and doesn’t want to make you part of his life, you have to be able to distance yourself from him and move on.
Your love should never be taken for granted. So, that’s why you must know the signs he’s not worth your time or effort.
1. He’s needy
One of the worst qualities of any woman or man is to be needy or clingy. It’s important that you have a life outside of your relationship. Remember, your friends and family still exist even though you’re in a romantic relationship.
A man who doesn’t have that, who only focuses on the relationship, is definitely not worth your time or effort.
Why? Because after a while, you’ll feel like he’s sucked all the energy out of you and your relationship will become unbearable.
You don’t want a partner who’ll change his neediness into control since you value your freedom and his. It’s one of the pillars of a healthy relationship.
But if he genuinely loves you, he’ll give you all the space and time you need and you’ll do the same for him.
2. He doesn’t encourage you to become a better person
When you’re searching for the right partner, you want someone who’ll push you to become a better person. Someone who’ll bring out the best in you and do anything he can to help you be the best you.
But what if he does completely the opposite? Well, a man like that isn’t worth your time or effort.
He infuriates you and brings out the worst in you. And once you reach your breaking point, when you say enough is enough, he leaves you because he thinks you’re broken and you’re not any good for him anymore.
3. He’s not faithful to you
Some guys have commitment phobia and they can’t stay faithful to just one girl. They believe that they’ll lose their freedom once they enter a romantic relationship, but that’s not true at all.
And maybe your guy is one of them. That’s why he cheats on you and then says how sorry he is and promises never to make the same mistake again. But you know what they say: once a cheater, always a cheater.
A guy like him doesn’t believe in true love. He’d rather choose to play the field than to stay loyal to you.
And the truth is, no woman deserves a man like that. You shouldn’t give him a minute more of your time.
4. He sends you mixed signals
Is your boyfriend hot and cold? Does he act all kind and sweet at one moment and the next, he’s cruel and inconsiderate to you? If so, then he’s not worth your time or effort.
In most cases, he’ll be nice to you because he wants something from you. He doesn’t see anything past his needs and he’ll never prioritize you over himself.
That just shows you how little he cares about you. A man like that doesn’t deserve to be part of your life.
5. He’s different from you
You may have heard the phrase opposites attract, but that’s only true to some extent. It’s quite normal not to have the same interests as your partner, as long as your fundamental values don’t clash.
If they do, you won’t find common ground on important things since your values are different and that will be the sole reason for you two fighting all the time.
And it’s extremely tough to overcome if both of you aren’t prepared to compromise.
A relationship like this is almost certainly doomed to fail. Trust me, it won’t last long before you two go your separate ways.
6. He talks about other women
Does your guy mention his exes in conversations with you? If so, then he’s most definitely not worth your time or effort. He might even start to compare you to them, but you have to remember that he’s only doing that to hurt you.
He’s purposely talking about them because he doesn’t care about you anymore. He doesn’t love you now and he’ll never will for that matter. You’re only his backup plan and he’ll leave you the second someone “better” comes his way.
7. He doesn’t make time for you
Any guy who doesn’t put you high on his priority list doesn’t deserve your attention. To a man like that, everything is more important than you.
Even if you try to chase him (which you should never do), he’ll only ignore you and call you when he needs you.
Usually, these types of men are players and toxic manipulators who are there for you when they need their ego boosted.
8. He refuses to talk to you
Are you the one who always initiates every conversation? If so, then he’s not the right one for you. You’re forever trying to get him to open up to you – he never does so first.
And even if you’re talking, it seems to you as if he’s never actually present and doesn’t actively listen to what you have to say. He never asks you questions and never engages in conversations because he doesn’t truly care how you feel.
If your man is like this, then he’s not worth your time or effort.