Being involved in any kind of relationship with a narcissist can be dreadful. Sometimes, it can feel more like a game of a cat and a mouse. But what happens when a narcissist realizes you see right through his scheme?
To continue with the analogy, the narcissist is the cat that’s constantly chasing you around. Unfortunately, you’re the one hiding in all the corners, feeling threatened by his presence.
What’s more terrifying is that his claws that can ensnare you in no time. Just like a mouse standing in front of a big cat, you always feel too small and too weak compared to him.
But in this case, it’s not about his size. No, it’s about his wicked mind, and the power and ability to control you. You don’t know how he does it for sure, but it’s working.
It’s like he spilled some black magic and you’re living in an enchanted circle all of the time. But what happens when the mouse finally wins? What takes place when you finally see a way out and you figure out his ways and techniques?
I think it’s definitely harder to grasp the fact that you’re involved in an unhealthy relationship than to break out of it. Not to say that the latter is a walk in the park. Taking that first step is never easy; you will inevitably come across some challenges.
Most people who eventually realize that they’re in an abusive relationship are too scared to break away. They’re too fearful of the possible consequences and what sort of life they’re going to have after all of this is over.
It’s especially hard when you feel like you’re on your own and don’t have anyone who sees things the way you do.
But what happens when a narcissist realizes you see through him? Will he lose it and become even more abusive? Will he back down and leave you be?
How will a narcissist react when he realizes you see through him?
You feel the sweat dripping down your forehead just thinking about it. You’re not doing anything bad, but you don’t want to get caught. But if you do, what will happen?
A narcissist is someone who has an inflated sense of self-importance and thrives on being worshipped. He usually chooses his victims in order to make himself feel more powerful.
However, not everyone realizes that they’re being controlled by a narcissist. The reason for this is that they’re such manipulative creatures.
A person with a narcissistic disorder is sweet-talking and seemingly supportive. He will use various tactics to get into your head and make you trust him.
At first, you’ll feel as if you’re walking on cloud nine. Over time, though, those feelings will eventually fade and you’ll be left in complete darkness.
You don’t have to be an expert to guess how a narcissist will react when he sees you sussed him out. (Well, long story short, he won’t be too happy about it.)
1. He’ll turn things in his favor
When a narcissist realizes that you’re onto him, he’ll definitely try to cover up his tracks. This is the time when he feels most threatened, so he’ll do what he does best – manipulate you.
At this time, he’ll probably try to turn things in his favor. Perhaps he’ll try to gaslight you and get you to believe you’re just imagining things.
This is an infamous tactic of narcissistic people to make their victims lose their minds. He does this to gain your trust and slowly crawl his way under your skin.
2. He’ll put the blame on you
Once you’ve figured a narcissist out and you clearly see the full picture now, he won’t be a fan of it. This means that he’s losing his narcissistic supply: you. At this point, he’ll feel like you’re undermining his worth and destroying all of his work.
He’ll try to point fingers at you. It’s just another way of trying to manipulate you into thinking that all of this is your fault.
He will do his best to make you believe that you deserve to be treated this way and that you’re no good for anything else. If he’s really persistent, he can make you believe you’ve brought this on yourself.
Just don’t give into his wicked ways once again. A narcissist will never change. No matter how many times he says that he will or how “sincere” his pleas seem; he’ll never change.
3. He’ll try to take over control
When a narcissist realizes that he’s losing you and that you see right through his scheme, he’ll become desperate. Especially if he can’t seem to get you back with his other manipulative tactics.
This is when he might try a different, perhaps more aggressive approach. He knows what got you here in the first place. So, he’ll probably try to do the same thing over again.
But you’re smarter than that. He might opt for a more hostile tone or he might swing in the totally opposite direction by trying to get you to sympathize with him.
If this happens, you know that he’s really desperate and hanging by a thread. When a narcissist realizes that you’re onto his scheme, he might play the “confession” card.
He’ll probably tell you how sorry he is and how he wishes he could change. “This is the way I was born; I’m sorry. I love you and I’ll make it up to you. It won’t happen again, I promise.”
If he sounds anything like this, run for the hills. All of these promises are empty and he’s going to break them as soon as you forgive him.
All in all, when a narcissist realizes that the game has come to an end and that he doesn’t hold any power over you anymore, he will probably freak out.
This is totally expected because he’s used to having full control over you and each situation. But it’s crucial to not back down, even if you feel threatened.
If you go back to him, you’ll only keep falling for his trap over and over again.