After being left so many times throughout your life, you actually start to feel like it’s all your fault. You keep convincing yourself that you’re the reason all of your relationships failed.
Right now, you’re probably beating yourself up for going through yet another failure. You’re making yourself responsible for your ex-boyfriend’s departure.
“I wasn’t good enough. I was asking for too much. He probably fell in love with someone else as I couldn’t give him what he wanted.”
You torment yourself with these words and pin all the blame on yourself. But you don’t understand that you were never part of a problem.
You simply fell in love with a man who could never plan his future with you. While he became the most important part of your life, he still wasn’t able to feel the same way about you.
He could never imagine a future with you as he wasn’t ready for a serious relationship. He wasn’t ready for commitment, for waiting for you at the end of the aisle and coming up with names for your kids.
You loved him deeply and wanted to see the two of you succeed, but his outlook didn’t match yours. So, while you were falling harder in love with him, he realized that the only reason he was still with you was that he didn’t want to be alone.
He was never meant to be a permanent part of your life, to begin with. He was only there for a short stint and never intended on staying any longer.
So, instead of trash-talking yourself and believing you were the problem, stop wasting your time dwelling on the fallen relationship. Instead of feeling broken because he left, save your energy and wait for a man who’ll plan his future with you.
You need a man who knows from the start that you’re the one he wants to grow old with. Instead of playing games with you, he makes sure to treat you as his priority.
He imagines your future together. He talks about moving in and eventually getting married. You’re in all of his plans as he truly considers you the most important person in his life.
Wait for a man who can’t imagine a day without you. From the moment he wakes up till the moment closes his eyes at night, you’re the only constant thought on his mind.
The idea of seeing you happy is his main driver. He’d do whatever it takes to see your smile.
With him, it’s perfectly normal to spend nights and days talking about your next move. Even if you’ve just met, he proves to you that he wants you to become an integral part of his life.
Even an eternity with you doesn’t feel like enough. You could spend days together and he’d still miss you the second you’re not around.
I get that you’re broken right now. After all those failed relationships, you don’t think that finding such a man is possible.
You still feel like you’re the one at fault for every failure you’ve been through.
But the truth is that you’ve never actually stumbled upon the right guy. You’ve never met a man who sincerely wants to plan his future with you. One who, even when you’re old and gray, still thinks you’re the best thing that’s ever happened to him.
This guy wishes for a forever with you, he wishes to call you his for the rest of his life. He’ll love you even on your worst days because he understands what real love is actually about.
So, the next time you meet a guy and it becomes clear that he’s not there to stay, please don’t waste your time with him. Don’t try to change for him because he’s not the one you’re looking for.
When his eyes don’t reveal the truth that he wants to spend the rest of his life with you, then please walk away. Save yourself the unnecessary pain and let him go.
The right one will come when you least expect it. He’ll give you everything you’ve been missing because he’ll immediately recognize you’re the woman he’s been looking for.
He’ll plan his future with you, reveal to you his wishes and desires. You’ll find yourself having long conversations with him about your life together. And you’ll wish for things to always remain that way.
He’ll throw you off your feet once you realize that he’s not afraid of commitment. He’s not afraid of spending the rest of his life with you.
Honestly, that’s exactly what he’s looking for. And he’s everything you’re looking for…
So, take a deep breath and count to ten. Think about all those who tore your heart into pieces and left.
Now ask yourself if you really think they were right for you. Did they genuinely want to commit and stay with you forever?
The answer is obvious, right? They never planned their future with you and that’s why things between never worked the way you wanted them to at the time.
While you were secretly hoping for those guys to change their minds, they knew that they could never make you a permanent part of their lives. That’s why all of your previous relationships fell apart.
But one day, a different man will walk into your life. He’ll introduce himself and you won’t even be able to imagine that he’ll become such an important part of your future.
He’ll change your life for the better and show you that he wants to stay with you till the end of his days. It’ll feel like a dream because it seems so unreal to finally find everything you’ve been looking for your whole life.
But this man – he’ll make you believe in fairy tales. He’ll show you that you deserve to be loved and that he’s there to give you the right kind of love.
He’ll immediately start planning his future with you and from that point on, you’ll be living your best life. The one you never want to end.