I know how it feels to be disrespected. To be put down and walked over like a toy, and not a human being with feelings.
After many times of feeling this way, I’ve come to a point where I can’t tolerate this behavior anymore. I know how it hurts and I don’t want to feel that ever again.
I’ve been in many different relationships in the past, and all of them taught me one thing:
I have to demand respect, and if a guy can’t offer me that, then I have to walk away.
So, this one is for my next partner. I hope that you’ll know how to appreciate me and treat me right.
If I can respect you, then I sure can demand your respect for me. It’s common sense and something no one ever should ask for.
Don’t make me ask for it because you know that I won’t.
If you show me that you don’t respect me, I’ll walk away. It’s that simple.
Maybe you think that I’m not capable of leaving you, but boy, how wrong you are.
After being mistreated many times in my life, I’ve learned that I don’t deserve to feel small and insignificant.
I don’t deserve to sit in the corner of the room and let you speak on my behalf.
I have my own voice and I can speak for myself. There’s no need for you to do it for me.
Also, my previous experiences taught me that sometimes, you won’t like my opinion.
Maybe it’ll be completely opposite to yours and you won’t agree with it.
But even then, I deserve every right to be respected.
Don’t look at me and roll your eyes just because you don’t like what I’m saying. Don’t give me that look that means that I should stop talking.
That’s not the way you respect someone and if you ever dare treat me like that, know for sure that I’ll walk away from you.
I was quiet to this kind of behavior more than once in my life. I’d put my head down and wouldn’t say a word because I was scared to talk.
The irony! A woman who always believed in her rights was scared to stand up for herself.
But at one point, I realized that I can’t take this behavior anymore. I was tired of being the one that’s supposed to obey others.
It’s only then that I realized that if you don’t respect me, you also don’t value me or anything about me. You’ll never see that I’m worthy of your time and energy, and I’ll never be your priority.
Also, I know that your disrespectful behavior will harm my self-esteem.
And I sure don’t want to be a girl who doesn’t think she’s good enough because I know how terrifying that is.
If you don’t respect me, you’ll never make me your priority.
There will always be someone in front of me and I’ll have to wait for you to notice that I need you.
That’s also something I don’t want.
I know what it means to beg someone to pay attention to you. I’ve been there.
I’ve played the lead role in that story and I don’t want to go there ever again.
That was a life-changing experience and it taught me that no one ever deserves to feel useless.
You ignoring my words and my feelings because you don’t respect anything I have to say – I can’t take that.
I know I’d hit rock bottom because I wouldn’t be able to deal with it anymore.
The constant pressure of thinking that I don’t deserve the right kind of love would ruin me.
So, from now on, I want you to know that I demand respect.
If you don’t know how to treat me right, know that I’ll walk away from you.
I’m a strong woman who knows how capable she is. I can do anything I put my mind to.
Go on, think that I’m weak and that I’ll never leave you because I’m incapable of living a life on my own.
But know that you’re so wrong.
I would rather be alone than with someone who doesn’t respect me or my choices.
Because being with a person like that is a sure path to insecurity and ruining everything I am.
I would rather be alone than with someone who doesn’t respect my time and always chooses me last.
That scenario is part of my past and I have no intention of going back to it.
I’ve learned my lessons the hard way and I know all too well why I’m asking you for this.
Because if I let myself fall into the claws of a disrespectful guy once more in my life, I won’t be the same person ever again.
Those who came before you have tried to shape me to fit their standards. And at first, I didn’t know how to say no.
I thought that they were doing the right thing and that it was me who needed to change. But I was wrong and I don’t ever want to feel that way.
Now I know what I want and I won’t stop until I get it. I know my worth and all of the power I hold inside of me.
So, when I tell you that you’ll have to treat me with respect or I’ll walk away, know that I truly mean that.
It’s not a joke or a mind game that I’m trying to play with you.
It’s a serious ultimatum. The only one I’ll ever give you.
From now on, it’s either you respect me or I’m out.