What is the worst-case scenario in a relationship? The one you wouldn’t wish on anyone?
Well, let me tell you…
It is when you meet the man of your dreams. He seems perfect in every sense of those words. He is smart, caring, and kind.
If you were to describe him with one word, you would say that he is IDEAL. You don’t think that there is anything that you would want to change.
He loves you like no one ever loved you before. You feel the love every time he touches you. You feel the love every time he kisses you.
It’s like he leaves pieces of himself in every glance that he gives you.
Maybe when you were younger, you created a list of things your perfect Prince Charming was supposed to have.
In years and years of dating, you never succeeded in getting what you wanted.
But he, the one who is currently walking next to you, seems to check all of the boxes.
He knows how to make you laugh and he makes you feel like you are the only girl in the Universe.
He saved you from all of the troubles of a scary world (and from the ones you created yourself).
Instead of a damsel in distress, you are now a princess, personally crowned by him.
Everything seems like a fairy tale until one day, you start to talk about your future together.
He tells you that he loves you but he also tells you that he is a guy who hates commitment.
He doesn’t believe in making things official, in labels, or marriage. Your ‘perfect guy’ doesn’t believe in all of the things you want to have with him…
This breaks your heart into two pieces. One of the pieces still loves him and doesn’t care about conventions.
But the other piece is a bit more old-fashioned and can’t live like that.
As time passes, you start to feel like the second piece is overpowering the first.
You simply can’t be with a man who you know will never be ready to commit.
You hate the idea of you two breaking up, so you start to play the blame game. But your blame game has different rules. You don’t blame him.
Instead, you blame yourself. You think that you are the reason why he won’t commit.
Maybe you are too boring to be in a relationship with. Maybe you are not enough for him to make him want to spend the rest of his life with you.
I know that you can’t shake the feeling that he won’t commit because you are not what he wants but I can assure you that you are wrong.
Don’t make excuses, trying to convince yourself that you are a part of the problem. He won’t commit to you simply because he is like that.
He’s not mature enough to realize what he is missing out on. If his feelings were real, he would change his opinion.
You know that you can’t control your heart when your feelings are real. You go head over heels, ignoring your brain and common sense.
Then why couldn’t he be more like that?
People do amazing things for love and he can’t even commit to you and tell you that you will be the only woman in his life.
Instead, you may fall asleep happy and wake up to not find him next to you.
Would you really be able to live a life like that? To be uncertain of every following day?
To live in fear that he would leave you one day like you meant nothing to him?
Could you call it a life filled with happiness? I bet you couldn’t.
Instead, you should do the only thing that’s right. I know that it takes courage but you need to be brave.
Don’t stay with a guy who won’t commit. If your heart is whispering to you that you should walk away, then listen to what it’s telling you.
You know that you can’t live life by his rules. He may call you old-fashioned, but don’t worry about that.
It’s not worth falling in love with someone who doesn’t see your worth.
He doesn’t realize how significant you are because if he did, he wouldn’t have a problem with giving you his time or his promises.
He might say that he loves you but you can’t be sure.
Love means that you are sometimes willing to go out of your way for someone who means the world to you.
It means that you will stick together through thick and thin because you want to go through life with this person standing in front of you and begging you to stay.
Love means that your actions will mirror your words. It also means that you will sometimes compromise in order to make the other person happy.
Love isn’t about the words, “I love you but I can’t commit to you because that is just the way I live my life.” Don’t tell me that that is love.
I would rather call it a selfish decision to live your life waiting for others to always behave by your rules.
I would call it fear of giving your time and energy to someone who means a lot to you because you don’t know if the relationship will work.
Nevertheless, love is the safe feeling that everything will be okay even though you have no idea what the following day will bring.
You never know if it will work out but you always believe that it will. A guy who won’t commit will ask you, “What if it doesn’t work?”
And you, the one who believes in love, will reply, “But what if it does work?”
When you look at it from this angle, you know that this isn’t love. What you have with this apparently perfect guy simply isn’t love.
His words are only an attempt at love. But they don’t mean much when his actions don’t support them.
That’s why you need to be brave.
I know that it will hurt and you will feel like you are making a mistake but if you listen to your heart, then it can’t be a mistake.
If you feel like you could never be completely happy with a guy who won’t commit, then leave him!
Trust me, one day, a real guy will come. He will be meant to be yours and you will be meant to be his.
Everything will feel right and you won’t regret your decision of leaving someone who won’t commit.
If anything, you will be happy that you followed your emotions.