Are you sitting in your room, scrolling through your phone, and waiting for him to call you? We’ve all been there… Trust me, I know how it goes, but I also know that it’s not good for you. Let me tell you a story of how it can affect your life. And you’ll probably stop doing that afterward.
Okay, let’s start with the obvious conclusion – you have a crush. He’s the one who’s constantly on your mind and you can’t seem to focus on anything else.
You’re checking his accounts to see where he’s at and refreshing your inbox to see whether he texted you today. It’s normal. We all did that at some point in our lives.
Another thing I can conclude is that the two of you probably already hung out once or twice. Don’t worry, I’m not spying on you. It’s easy to figure it out since you’re waiting for him to call you. You see, I’m telling you – I know how it goes!
Now, there are some things I don’t have information about, like how many times did you cancel your plans and waited? Two, five, nine? Just think about it and answer it for yourself. How many times has he actually called you when you’ve done that? Probably none so far.
Girl, you can still have your own life and find enough time to hang out with him in case he calls. What’s the worst that can happen if you tell him you’re busy? Are you afraid that he won’t call you again? Let me share some secrets with you.
If you show him you’re busy from time to time it will just make him more interested in you.
How? It’s simple. Everybody wants a partner who has an interesting life. Imagine these two kinds of people. A first choice is a person who’s just laying in bed, watching movies, eating chocolate cake every day, and doesn’t seem so happy about anything.
Or the second one is a person who’s active, hangs out with friends, and visibly enjoys life.
Who seems more interesting? I’m not saying that the first choice can’t be fun too, but the second one will probably have more power in attracting you. So if you’re the kind of person who has lots of plans every day, don’t force yourself to cancel them just because there’s a possibility of something else.
Why would you trade certainty for possibility?
Being in love with someone should be the best feeling ever. Don’t destroy it by stressing too much about it. If you like someone you need to stay true to yourself. There’s no need for you to change and adapt your daily schedule according to that.
Of course, if you have some previously planned dates, you should make time for that. But if there’s nothing you’ve agreed to, you’re free to spend the day as you want.
Go out, enjoy your life, and post a story or two on your Instagram. Show him or remind him of how fun it is to be around you. That’s how you’ll make him call you. That’s how you’ll save yourself from lonely nights spent in the bed because he never called.
And you’ll also get what you want, another date with him.
I know you can struggle with the fear of missing out from time to time. If you don’t go out with your friends, you might regret the decision to stay home. But if you go out you’re constantly stressed that he might call you and you’ll be busy.
There’s no need to do that to yourself. Relax because it’s nothing you should worry about.
If you go out and he calls there are a few options you can choose. Firstly, you can check with your friends if it’s okay for them that he joins you. They’ll most likely say “Yes” because they’ve probably been waiting for a long time to see the person you’ve been constantly talking about.
And then you’ll be able to invite him.
The second option is to tell him that you’re sorry, but you already had some plans and you’re out with your friends at the moment. Then you can take the opportunity to ask him to agree on when and where you’ll meet each other tomorrow or whenever both of you are free.
That way you won’t have to worry about canceling any other plans and waiting for him to call you. Instead, you’ll have a set date and time and you’ll be able to prepare for it. And also plan the rest of the day according to it.
The third option is to leave early and meet him if you really want that. If you’re out with a group of friends, I’m sure they won’t mind letting you go to see a man you’re crazy about. Ask them and if they say yes, suggest he meets you somewhere near your current location.
He might agree to it, or he’ll suggest going out some other day. Either way, you’ll have a date.
You need to learn that nothing is more important than your own happiness. Are you really happy when you’re laying in bed and waiting for his call? What do you think, would you be happier if you didn’t cancel your plans?
It’s normal for people to have plans and other people should always be aware and understanding of that. If you apologize and explain that you’ve already agreed to do something else that day or go somewhere, he needs to understand that.
If he gets mad or doesn’t call you afterward. Then you’ll know that he’s not the right choice for you. He’s just an immature boy who thinks everyone should plan their day according to his wishes. You don’t need that kind of person in your life, especially not as your partner.
So my final piece of advice to you is to enjoy your life. I know you’ve canceled your plans and waited for him to call, but now you know why you should stop. Do what makes you happy and don’t let anyone steal your joy. Don’t feel the need to be available 24/7 and don’t waste your life waiting for him to call.
Because one thing is for sure; if you’re meant to be – you’ll succeed. Even if you were busy when he called you.