I love being a woman. But it wasn’t always like that.
When you’re brought up to think that being a woman is a weakness, you don’t develop a love for that huge part yourself, so you try to ignore it.
The other day, I talked to a friend about our womanhood and all the things that go with it.
She said how she was brought up to always fear life.
Our parents teach us that it is sort of a curse because society is so opinionated about what a woman should do and/or be.
“Your skirt is too short!”
“Your skirt is too long!”
“What do you mean you don’t want children?”
“I’m just saying that it’s weird that you left your career to become a mother.”
And it goes on and on.
All of these people believe that they have the full right to comment on everything a woman does, without ever being asked for an opinion in the first place.
More often than not, we internalize misogynistic comments and start to believe it ourselves.
We start to believe that we are inferior, that if we’re not modest, we’re not good enough.
Women and girls have to be this, have to be that. But we can’t ever be too much of anything.
Isn’t that so confusing?
My friend continued to say how she believed that if she isn’t perfect 24/7, she will never be worthy of love and the sad truth is that she isn’t the only one to believe that.
I too once believed that I didn’t deserve love unless I was always pretty and always submissive, but still educated enough so that a man wouldn’t get bored of me too soon.
The most amazing things we do in life are to be expected of us, so in the eyes of society, there is no particular value in them anymore.
It took me two years of therapy to heal the internalized misogyny I felt, but I still find myself bringing myself and other women down for simply being a woman and the very moment I realized I was doing that, I felt so ashamed of myself.
Being a woman is actually the biggest flex.
Look around yourself.
The only reason why insecure and toxic men bring women down and make them believe that they are undeserving of love is exactly because they are afraid.
A woman who knows her own worth and values, and loves herself, is a dangerous creature.
Imagine if every woman was devoid of all the insecurities society has laid upon them.
Imagine the power. We would be able to make our own decisions and never question our self-worth.
We would be able to love our body for all the things it does for us, instead of crying over the way it looks.
We are soft and strong at the same time.
Don’t believe me? Look at how much pain you endure every single month and I’m not even talking about pregnancies or childbirth.
I am talking about all those times you are sick and you take care of yourself, without the need for someone to do that for you.
How many times have you worked your ass off while you were suffering extreme period pain? You are so strong, so powerful and still so soft.
You still manage to be a person who cries because a movie scene is too emotional.
There are times when you can’t help but start bawling your eyes out over how thankful you are for the people in your life, or even your cat or dog.
I know I have sure as hell cried over how much I love my cat.
It may sound silly to someone devoid of emotion, but being vulnerable in these ways is so beautiful.
We are beautiful, no matter what society might tell us.
I know the feeling of looking in the mirror and hating everything you see.
You try and tweak your imperfections and look for ways to hide them, change them, make them disappear.
Who told you that you weren’t beautiful? Who had the audacity to tell you that something about you was wrong?
Say it with me: “I am beautiful!”
It doesn’t roll off your tongue that easily, I know, but imagine all those things that your body is doing to keep you alive.
The next time you look at it, thank your body for everything it does for you.
We are creative and intelligent.
You and I both know women who have dumbed themselves down to accommodate a man’s perspective of what a woman should be like.
We overthink so much. We think about anything and everything and this makes us take into consideration every single outcome of a situation, which helps us in everything we do.
Women are finally realizing how intelligent they are and they’re choosing careers in fields they find happiness in, without any issues.
But we are creative as well. You have probably started multiple projects throughout your lifetime, always on the hunt for a new creative outlet.
I am so proud to be a woman.
To be this beautiful creature, gentle but loud, pretty but dangerous.
If you don’t think these things about yourself as well, you have to re-evaluate your self-love.
Do you love yourself enough to consider this huge part of your personality a flex?
You are a woman.
Be proud of the fact that you are a woman. Be proud of all the women around you. The women who came before you and who will come after you.
Because we are all connected in one way or another.
Our struggles can often only be understood by other women and we take that for granted but women are there for us to talk to, to embrace, to understand us and be there for us.
I was taught the most important lessons about being a woman by my mother, who sacrificed so much to raise me and my sisters.
The strongest woman of them all showed me how much womanhood can be a blessing, how much importance it holds and that it makes me more powerful than anything else.
I pride myself so much on something that was given to me at birth.
Something I didn’t choose for myself, as it was God who decided that he wanted me to be exactly this. A woman.
A female warrior in a time of female warriors. Swinging our swords in the name of everything that is beautiful and pure.
So in the name of all women out there, in the name of my mother, my sisters, and my friends, I salute you! I toast to you!
Let’s embrace our femininity and use it as our biggest flex!
Don’t let anyone tell you that you shouldn’t be proud of being a woman!