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This Is What It’s Like To Date An Overthinker

This Is What It’s Like To Date An Overthinker

At first, everything will seem fine.

She’ll seem like a regular girl and you’ll feel an instant attraction when you see her. She’ll be quiet and humble but will stick out in a way because she’ll be so different from all of the other girls.

“I like her,” you’ll say to yourself, still unaware of the battle that she’s having on the inside.

Then as you get to know her better and as your relationship grows, you’ll realize that the girl you fell in love with is an overthinker. You’ll realize that her anxiety makes her do things she would rather not be doing.

But guess what? She can’t control it because being an overthinker means being in a constant battle with your mind.

The more she falls in love with you, the more her behavior will change.

Trust me, she would love to be that girl whose mind isn’t running at a hundred miles per hour but she can’t make it stop, no matter how hard she tries.

She’ll read between the lines of every single text you send her. She’ll ask herself what you actually wanted to say because she always feels like there’s something deeper than a simple, “Are you free to hang out tonight?”

“What if he wants to leave me? Maybe he’s cheating on me and wants to admit it? Maybe he’s tired of me and can’t take me anymore?”

This Is What It's Like To Date An Overthinker

She’ll ask herself these questions throughout the whole night instead of trying to fall asleep.

And no, it’s not because she wants to analyze every single word you send her.

It’s because her mind makes her do that, no matter how much she resists.

Her mind creates all sorts of problems that don’t even exist. It tricks her into believing that there’s something wrong when everything is going well.

That’s why she asks you ten times a day whether you still like her. That’s why she keeps checking on you to make sure that you aren’t mad at her.

Text her, “Love you,” instead of, “I love you,” and she’ll assume that she did something to upset you.

It’s just how her brain works and she can’t make it stop, even though she tries so hard.

She’ll try to be different for a few days. She’ll act as if everything’s fine, while on the inside, her body is trembling.

This Is What It's Like To Date An Overthinker

All those questions pop up and she’ll try so hard to resist asking you any of them. But after few days, she won’t be able to take it anymore.

She’ll crack and be her usual self because that’s the only way she knows how to live her life.

Whenever she tries to change, her mind shows her why it’s impossible.

So, she fights with her own self, trying to be different, trying to change her ways when she already knows the truth – It’s impossible to live your life any other way when you’re an overthinker.

Overthinkers are made to overthink, and no matter how hard they try to stop their thoughts from flooding their mind, there’s always a crack that lets them in.

That’s why when you date an overthinker, you have to be patient. That’s the only way you can show her that you understand what she’s going through.

Telling her to slow down or just stop thinking doesn’t help her. If anything, it only makes her suffer even more.

This Is What It's Like To Date An Overthinker

When you let her know that what she’s doing is wrong and she’s supposed to make it stop, you make her overthinking worse than it was.

“He hates me! He’ll leave me! I’m not good enough for him!”

That’s what you make her feel when you tell her to stop. Because trust me, she would stop if she could.

This exhausting process of thoughts running through her mind is harder for her than it is for you. That’s why she needs your patience.

She needs you to tell her that things are fine and that you haven’t changed your mind about her.

She needs you to let her know that you’re there for her and that you understand everything she’s going through.

Even if it means that today, you’ll have to tell her twenty times that you love her, you need to be ready to do that.

This Is What It's Like To Date An Overthinker

Let her see that she’s the only one for you.

Let her know that you’re an understanding guy who’ll always be by her side. But don’t just tell her that. Show her!

Because you can be sure that she’ll question your words, no matter what they’re about.

She’ll analyze them just to be sure what your real intention was.

But when you show with your actions that she can trust you and that you’ll always be there for her – that’s when you make her life easier.

That’s when you let her know that everything really is fine and that you’re not leaving her.

When you date an overthinker, you have to be ready to be her biggest support.

Because there will be some times when she’ll be falling apart but she won’t have the strength to call your name.

This Is What It's Like To Date An Overthinker

That’s when she’ll need you the most – to recognize the pain that took control over her.

She’ll need you to hold her tight and fix all those broken pieces because sometimes, she can’t do it on her own.

Listen to her, hear her out, and understand what she’s trying to tell you.

Don’t make her regret opening up to you. Don’t tell her that she needs to change.

Every other guy before you did the same thing, and the harder she tried, the worse her overthinking became.

So this time, she needs someone who’ll be there for her and who’ll show her that she’s not alone.

Don’t play with her feelings and be real with her. If you can’t keep up with her flood of thoughts, leave before she falls for you.

This Is What It's Like To Date An Overthinker

She’s already afraid that one day, you’ll leave her and she’ll be heartbroken because she fell for you, so don’t make her feel that way.

It’ll be hard, it’ll take some time to finally understand what she’s going through.

But trust me, it’ll be worth it because no one can love you the way an overthinking girl can.

This is because she already analyzed all of the ways you could hurt her and instead of running away from you and saving herself, she chose to stay.

When she falls in love with you, she’ll always choose to stay, even when her overthinking pushes her to run away.

That’s why she’s worth it!

This Is What It's Like To Date An Overthinker