I’ve been in perfect relationships with people who simply weren’t meant to be mine. I’ve been in completely wrong ones with guys who didn’t care about me, not even in the slightest.
So, I’ve had everything but I’ve also had nothing at all. There was always something missing but I couldn’t pinpoint what.
It took me a long time to finally realize what it was that I was trying to find. Suddenly, I experienced an epiphany and I figured out the last missing piece of the puzzle that I was desperately looking for.
Even though life has given me everything, both negative and positive experiences, I’ve never met someone who showed me what consistency feels like. And I worked out that’s exactly what I’ve been looking for.
I’m tired of mixed signals and a man who needs me in his life one day, while the next, he changes his mind completely. I’m also tired of those who act like they will always be there for me but once they get what they want, they disappear the way dew slowly fades from the grass.
I want a real man who’ll show me that he’s not going to change his mind about me. Someone who’ll prove to me that when I wake up, I’ll always find him next to me.
Even if we had a terrible fight the night before, he’ll still decide to stay in my life because we gave each other promises and we both know that our love is worth fighting for.
I want a guy who won’t let me wonder whether he’s leaving me or not every time we get into an argument. I want him to keep showing me that I’ll always be his only choice, no matter how hard life gets.
Instead of someone who’ll spend time with me only when he’s bored, I want him to choose to be around me because I genuinely make him happy.
I want us to laugh until tears start rolling down our faces because we understand each other completely.
Instead of a guy who’ll be there with me until someone better comes along, I want someone who’ll keep choosing me over and over again, even though I’m far from perfect. I want him to love me for my flaws the same way he’ll love me for my qualities.
And I definitely want him to stay because he wants to, not because he’s afraid that he can’t find anyone better.
I don’t need a man who’ll support me only because he feels it’s the right thing to do. Instead, I want him to be proud of me and to truly believe that I can do anything I set my mind to.
Even if I say that I want to climb Mount Everest, I want him to be my wind beneath my wings, constantly, over and over again, without having any intention of giving up on me.
I want a guy who’ll be there through thick and thin, someone who’ll choose me continuously because he truly believes that I’m the best thing that ever happened to him.
To hold my hand proudly even if everyone around him keeps telling him that he deserves better.
That’s the kind of man who’ll keep fighting for us and who won’t give up on me once things don’t look so perfect anymore.
Because life is anything but perfect; it’s messy and difficult and it takes away those last atoms of energy you carry within your body.
Life will beat you down but I want to be sure that I can count on my partner to fight back with me. I want to know that I can trust him because he won’t bail on me the moment things change.
I’ve been with guys who cared for me but their affection never lasted long. It wasn’t consistent and they kept going back and forth because they weren’t sure about me.
I know that we were never meant to be and I don’t blame them for the way they behaved. But I also know that I can’t take it anymore as I need much greater things from life.
I don’t need to hear, “I love you,” on a daily basis if you have no intention of saying it for the rest of your life.
I don’t need you to text me good morning only when you want me to do you a favor and I definitely don’t need you to call me only when you need my help.
Today, tomorrow, and forever, I want to be your first choice. I want to be that one person you always call first because you’re desperate to share your good news with her.
If I’m not that person to you, then it’s always better to walk away and leave me right now than to act like you can give me everything I’m looking for and then bail on me in the next moment.
So, to the next guy who walks into my life – there’s one thing I want from you.
I want you to be consistent with your actions and to never stop choosing me, as you want our relationship to work. I want to be your priority and to know that I can always count on you the same way you can count on me.
What I want is for you to keep me in your life forever because that will make you happy – that’s the thing that I want. And if you can’t give it to me, then I guess that we’re not meant to be.