We’re all scared of the truth. We’re afraid to admit that things aren’t going the way we wanted them because it hurts too much to say the words out loud.
It’s hard to accept the truth when it’s completely different from what we expected it to be. And because of that, it comes as no surprise that from time to time we deceive ourselves just to make things seem easier than they are.
We make excuses and give explanations, thinking that would change things. Maybe he will change his opinion if you believe in that thought for long enough.
But the thing is, it never works this way. By making yourself believe in a false reality, you’re actually making your life harder. You’re living a life in denial – and that never turns out good.
So, take a deep breath and read these words carefully:
If he wanted to be with you, he would be.
That’s the only truth.
I understand where you’re coming from. Your feelings for this guy are stronger than you anticipated them to be.
What you feel for him could make you move mountains for him.
And then, you look at him and you see it in his eyes that he doesn’t feel the same way about you.
To be honest, his feelings are far from yours and it hurts to know that.
It hurts to believe that everything you’re offering isn’t good enough.
That your feelings once again won’t be met and that you’ll again be the one who loves harder.
Another relationship, another failure.
Because of that, it’s easier to convince yourself that things are just a bit more complicated.
It’s easier to say that he has commitment issues or needs some more time to figure out his feelings.
Those excuses can make you feel better about yourself. But they’re temporary and don’t work in the long run.
Once you’re left on your own, the truth comes to the surface and you realize that all this time you’ve been fooling yourself.
You’ve been creating your own reality because you were too scared to admit the truth.
You blamed the timing, your surroundings, and life in general because you were too afraid to blame him and confess to yourself, “This guy here has no feelings for me. End of story.”
Instead, you kept waiting. You gave him enough time and space to figure out his feelings.
You gave him a chance after chance, convinced that one day he will change. One day, he’ll realize that he loves you and that he wants to be with you.
He just needs some time to get there.
But don’t fool yourself. You’re not doing yourself any favors.
Instead, you’re only delaying the time you finally acknowledge the truth.
Plus, you’re making it harder to heal when you do eventually pull the bandage off.
The wound grows bigger each day you spend your life living in denial. It deepens and comes closer to the heart every time you lie to yourself.
The truth is, he doesn’t want to be with you. No matter how much time you give him, his feelings won’t ever change.
He can’t control his heart and make it love you more than it wants to.
Just because he makes you feel safe and secure, and as if you’ve found the right one, it doesn’t mean you arouse the same feelings in him.
Sometimes, we give our best to people and they fail to see the potential in us.
They fail to understand us, so our relationship lacks that initial connection that happens.
“We just clicked and everything felt right.”
That’s the thing you miss. You love him, but he only likes you as a person. There’s no chemistry; no deeper feelings of love and appreciation.
“You’re nice but I think this isn’t going to work,” he probably said, and you’ll try to make an excuse for these words.
“Maybe you need more time,” you’ll tell him, hoping that something could change.
If you feel all these emotions for him, then why doesn’t he feel the same way about you, right?
Because there’s a catch. He may like you, but you still won’t be the one.
He may tell you that you’re the best person he’s ever met, but you still won’t be the one.
Because he can’t control what his heart feels for you. And his heart knows that this isn’t right.
The thing you have isn’t the one all those romantic movies are based upon. It isn’t the one people fought about and wrote books about.
That connection badly needed for the right love story is missing and you can’t make it appear by giving him more time.
It’s only making matters harder for you.
So, it’s time to get real with yourself. If he wanted to be with you, he would be.
There would be no excuses, no unnecessary explanations, and no overthinking.
Because when you meet the right person, you feel it in your bones. You know that you don’t want to live a day without them and you want your future to start as soon as possible.
So, please, don’t fool yourself anymore. Don’t play stories in your head when it’s clear that he’s not the right one for you.
And that’s okay. Because when the right one comes along, you’ll be glad that you didn’t settle for mediocre love. A love out of necessity.
You’ll be glad that you let him go because he could never make you feel the right kind of love.
So pick yourself up, face facts, and move on with your life. When you meet the right man, it’ll be clear why all those before him failed to work for you.
When you meet the right one, you’ll know it. And when he meets you, he’ll never let you go.
No second-guessing and trying to figure out what the right step is. He’ll want you and only you.