You probably heard the saying “Tell me who you hang around with, and I’ll tell you who you will become.” There’s no denying that this is 100% true.
You see, the people who surround you ultimately have the biggest effect on who you are as a person. And in most cases, we spend most of our time with our partners, so there’s no surprise that they have the largest impact on us.
Some women out there spend their time in relationships where their needs and emotions are completely neglected and they’re left alone to deal with their inner demons. As a result, they silently carry those emotional scars into their future relationships, only to experience the same fate over and over again.
Most men are unable to see those scars as they’re kept well hidden, but that doesn’t mean they’re not felt.
Those unhealthy and toxic relationships cause women to have a distorted image of themselves that has nothing to do with their true selves. After all, toxic men will do anything in their power to make the other person feel worthless and small.
But once a woman gathers enough strength to break free from that vicious cycle of torture and shame, she’s no longer the same as she once was. The harsh words and painful actions never leave her mind. They keep haunting her until she finds the one who’ll set her free.
The longer she’s exposed to an emotionally unfulfilling and toxic relationship, the harder it is to feel like herself again. That’s why those scars stay for a long time as she carries them into future relationships.
1. She never prioritizes herself or her needs
An emotionally neglected woman’s needs and wishes were not met in her previous relationships. She was taught that what she wants is irrelevant and insignificant, and therefore didn’t dare to ask for anything.
And even when her partner gave her a little attention, she’d feel so grateful for it, she wouldn’t dare ask for anything more.
Because of that, an emotionally neglected woman becomes depressed and sad, and feels completely unfulfilled. She’s afraid others might see her as selfish if she tries to change that. That’s why she’ll never put herself first.
Her needs have never been something of importance, and it will take some time before she learns to prioritize herself above everyone and starts to fight for what she needs and wants.
2. She develops a fear of rejection
A woman who’s never experienced love, who’s never received the support or emotional stability she needs, thinks that she doesn’t deserve anything better.
Having a manipulative partner who only makes her feel worthless and unloving teaches her not to open up to others who may be able to help her.
Thriving and feeling satisfied in this kind of environment is practically impossible, and sooner or later she starts believing that she’ll never get out of this situation.
As a result, she adapts to her toxic man and becomes used to expecting nothing but rejection.
She doesn’t believe that anyone is capable of loving her. So she sticks by his side in the hopes that one day she’ll break free.
3. She doesn’t feel worthy of attention and love
The biggest scar that an emotionally neglected woman has is that she doesn’t feel worthy of love and affection. She believes that she has zero right to ask for it and that’s why she settles for crumbs of affection.
In her mind, asking for attention is considered selfish and wrong. She never gets to be showered with love and she’s never been told just how magnificent and strong she is.
Even if she meets a man with pure intentions, it’ll take some time before she believes she’s worthy of his love.
Her journey’s been covered by thorns and spikes that have left her emotionally wounded.
But the beauty is that she hasn’t given up on herself and never will. She’s been emotionally neglected but that doesn’t mean she’ll never heal. She just needs time and support and she’ll learn to live and be happy again.
4. She’s led by fear of failure
A woman who’s never heard a kind word and always been told how she’s never good enough will be driven by a strong fear of failure.
She’s unaware that she’s still doing great, even if she fails a couple of times. Nobody has told her that failures are part of everyone’s life. That you need to occasionally hit a bump or two before you can succeed.
However, an emotionally neglected woman only associates humiliation and shame when it comes to failure, having learned that from her abusive ex.
5. She always expects disappointment
She was always pushed away by her emotionally absent partner who caused her to have trust issues. And that only continues into future relationships.
Whenever someone gets close to her, she expects that they’ll disappoint her. Even if the other person means her well, she’s still hesitant to trust them because her past experiences have taught her to keep her guard up.
She doesn’t believe that anyone wants to protect her, so she learns to handle everything by herself. Also, the reason she chooses to be alone and single is that she doesn’t feel safe in relationships.
But with time, she’ll learn that there are good men out there who will keep her safe. And that’s when her scars will finally heal.