Do you ever get the feeling that a guy is saying one thing while he means something completely different? You know that there’s a deeper message behind what he just said but you’re not sure what it is.
Add to that the fact that we women love to focus our attention only on the things we want to hear and you get complete chaos.
It comes as no surprise that we often deal with misunderstandings as each person has their own understanding.
But don’t worry. After you read this article, you’ll know what a guy meant when he said a certain thing to you.
Welcome to the world where we decipher their sentences and give them the initial meaning that was likely hidden behind.
1. “I don’t want a relationship right now,” means, “I don’t want a relationship with you.”
Usually, when a guy tells you that he doesn’t want a relationship right now, it’s more likely that he doesn’t want one with you.
He knows that it would hurt your feelings to openly tell you that you’re not the kind of girl who interests him.
Plus, he risks losing you, which isn’t what he wants right now.
The chances are that he needs someone to be there for him as an option he can count on all the time.
Maybe it’s because he just got out of a serious relationship and had his heart broken.
r it could be that he can’t picture himself with you, which is a thought that hurts like hell.
No matter what, giving him time to think won’t change his feelings. He’s set on the idea that he doesn’t want to have anything serious with you.
The only good thing is that when you hear this sentence, you’ll know its meaning and you can leave before you fall for him even more.
2. “I’ve been busy,” means, “I’m no longer interested in you.”
Yes, life gets busy, but it’s never a good excuse enough to tell your partner.
Because when you care about someone, you always make sure to find time for that person.
Even if you had the busiest week ever, you’ll make sure to squeeze your girlfriend into your schedule and see her for at least fifteen minutes.
But when a guy realizes that you’re not his cup of tea, he starts looking for excuses.
He doesn’t feel brave enough to tell you that he doesn’t like you anymore so he just plays the, “I’ve been busy,” card.
This gives him a reason to not call you or meet up with you.
Plus, if he ever feels in the mood to see you, he always has you on the side, since he never actually broke up with you.
3. “I need some space,” means, “I need some time to see whether this is the right relationship for me.”
No, you aren’t being too pushy. Yes, you’re giving him enough space to breathe and lead his own life.
But the thing is that he’s not really sure whether he wants to be with you anymore.
Maybe, as he’s getting to know you, he realized that you aren’t the type of girl he’s been looking for.
And now, he just wants to make sure that he won’t make a mistake but he knows that you’ll get upset if he tells you that he’s questioning his feelings for you.
In that case, you might even leave him. And what if he decides in the meantime that he does want to be with you?
It’s all too complicated and he doesn’t want to go through that. So, he makes his life easier by simply letting you know that he needs some space.
Once he re-evaluates his feelings, he’ll either get back to you or leave you for good.
4. “Who was that guy?” means, “I’m kinda jealous and I need to know that you still like me.”
Men get jealous, that’s a fact.
But because they’re proud creatures, they hate showing you their jealousy, as it makes them look possessive and that’s not what they want.
But out walking with your guy, you met a co-worker or an old friend of yours, who hugged you and asked you how you were doing.
When he walked away, the first thing your guy said was, “Who was that guy?”
Now, do you think that he actually wants to know who that guy was, or is it that he’s being jealous and feels threatened by him?
Of course, it’s the latter one. He’s afraid that this guy might take his place and wants you to reassure him that he’s still the man of your dreams.
5. “You’re overreacting,” means, “You’re right but I can’t admit that.”
You know when you have a fight and your guy tells you that you’re overreacting. Is there anything worse than that?
Well, the fact that he’s saying it only because he knows that you’re right is the thing that makes it worse.
If you’ve noticed that your guy keeps blaming things on you, saying that you’re overreacting or being dramatic, know that he most probably knows that he made a mistake.
He knows that your reaction is normal but can’t admit that to you.
So, he plays dumb and pretends that you’re being irrational while he knows that he’s not in the right.
6. “You deserve better,” means, “I’ll never be able to give you what you need.”
We all know about this one. It’s the best friend of any break-up.
Every time a man is about to leave you, he tells you that you deserve better.
He makes sure to let you know that you can find someone who’ll treat you with more respect.
But what he’s actually trying to say is that he would never care about you the way you wanted him to.
He would never be able to love you as you expected him to because he’s not that into you.
Even if you feel that he’s the guy for you, trust me, it’s better that he left you.
He wasn’t boyfriend material in the first place and the fact that he didn’t have enough courage to openly tell you that he didn’t like you speaks for itself.