You are invited to a party, and you decide not to go because lying in bed reading your favorite book sounds like more of a fun and relaxing experience than socializing with a bunch of people.
If you’ve ever avoided a crowded gathering of people in order to stay home or if you’ve ever felt drained by a meaningless conversation you found yourself in, then there is a high possibility that you are an introvert.
Even though the term introvert usually has negative connotations and people equate it with being shy, you need to know that those two things are not the same.
Who are introverts?
The same as extroverts, an introvert is born one.
A large amount of introversion is determined by a person’s genes, while some part is determined by the experiences they go through.
Introverts tend to feel like they are different, and that they don’t fit in because of the negative social bias against this personality trait.
However, people don’t understand that significant parts of an introvert’s personality are influenced by their experiences and genes.
Children who are supported and encouraged to speak up are most likely to become extroverts.
On the other hand, those who are bullied, made fun of, and encouraged to change their shy personality are more likely to become introverts.
Studies show that 30 to 50 percent of the U.S. population are actually introverts, so even if you don’t see yourself as one, you probably have some friends and family members who belong in this category.
Introverts are not shy by definition but they are quiet, reserved, and focused on their inner self.
The only thing that makes them different from extroverts is that they need more alone time in order to regain their energy.
Introverts can also enjoy social interactions but the length of time they can spend leading a conversation is much shorter than with extroverts and afterward, they need some time alone in order to recover themselves.
Introverts are not antisocial, they just have a smaller circle of friends who understand their needs.
They can engage in a meaningful conversation but they hate small talk.
Other people may see them as arrogant or vain as they sometimes choose to be quiet rather than speak, but introverts are highly self-aware, and they know and appreciate their value and time.
They work best alone, in a calming environment, as introverts usually can’t work well when their surroundings are noisy.
They need to focus in order to achieve great results.
Introverts are thoughtful and can usually conduct detailed research of anything you assign them to, which makes them highly valuable in fields that require analysis of all of the possible strengths and weaknesses of a certain project idea.
However, it is always easier for them to write down their thoughts than to verbally express them, as they really like to take their time to think about what they want to say.
Their inner world of imagination is enough to keep them occupied and that’s why they don’t feel the need to constantly be surrounded by people.
They are enough for themselves!
How to take care of yourself when you are an introvert?
You’ve now realized that being an introvert is completely normal, and that you should never beat yourself up because of it.
The question is how to treat yourself when you are an introvert? How to regain your energy and show people your true value?
Firstly, give yourself enough alone time so you can process your thoughts and regain your energy.
Introverts need the time to process everything they have gone through that day.
Their alone time makes them fully aware of all of the events that happened, which prepares them for the next day.
Secondly, accept that what is fun for others might be unpleasant for you.
When you are surrounded by people who all enjoy the same things, but you don’t, you tend to feel like you don’t fit in or like you are missing out on something.
Instead of beating yourself up, you must realize the way your mind and body work.
Your alone time is more valuable than spending time with others just because you feel the need to be like them.
Instead of doing that, try to focus on your well-being and listen to your inner self. You will be much happier once you start doing what feels good for you.
Next, feel free to say no. Even though you may feel guilty or selfish for doing this, saying no is the first thing you should start teaching yourself.
You should say, ‘No,’ to anything that will not make you feel happy or content.
If saying, ‘No,’ to other people’s plans leads you to saying, ‘Yes,’ to your well-being, then always choose to say, ‘No’.
Another great thing you can do is spend more time in nature. Nature provides a great sense of relief, and it can help you relax and unwind easily.
Different activities done in nature can really help your mind so experiment more and try to find something you like doing, as you will feel like you have helped yourself greatly.
Also, surround yourself with people who value your privacy. Real friends will never pressure you into doing something they know is not satisfying for you.
Instead, they will know when you need some quiet time. Real friends who understand where you are coming from will never force you into a conversation as they would rather engage in a comfortable silence with you.
Finally, start and end your day by spending time alone.
This may seem like an insignificant thing to do, but it will help you focus on yourself and your goals.
Being quiet with yourself will calm your mind, which means that you will feel refreshed at the beginning of the day and you will fall asleep easier at night.
Remember that being introverted doesn’t mean that someone is better than you. It just means that your priorities are different and that is perfectly fine.
Listen to yourself and think about what makes you feel good and what makes you feel deprived or drained.
Instead of pleasing others, once in your life, make a decision that you will, from now on, only please yourself!