The words “take a break.” We’ve heard it dozens of times since it’s become a common thing for young couples.
But those three words don’t mean what you think they mean.
It’s something none of us wants to hear in a relationship.
Sometimes it can feel like it’s worse than an actual breakup because you don’t know whether or not you’re a couple anymore.
Taking a break in a relationship is never a good idea. It won’t help your relationship or strengthen the bond you two created.
It’s true that some couples benefit from taking a break and go on strongly after it, but the truth is most fail miserably and eventually break up.
Sometimes relationships can be difficult – it can be hard to put up with the mistakes your partner makes.
Arguments and conflicts arise, a difference in opinion creates this tension between you and your partner, and soon enough you agree to take a break and spend some time apart from each other.
It may be the best option for you and your partner when things get rough, but soon you’ll realize that it’s a bad way to confront the problems in your relationship.
As appealing as it may seem, it can be the most destructive thing to ever happen to you and your partner.
Taking a break acts as a temporary band-aid that doesn’t solve any of your problems.
Finally, when you get back together, the same problems will resurface and you won’t know how to solve them. Sooner or later, it’ll lead to a breakup.
So what are some other reasons why you should never consider taking a break in a relationship?
1. It adds to miscommunication
Couples rarely go into detail before taking a break from each other, which can only add more miscommunication since you’ll find yourself in a confusing situation.
Most couples don’t set the rules first, leaving them wondering what they can and can’t do when taking a break.
That can only make communication worse than it was before and will end with one partner being jealous or upset over something the other has done.
It only adds to the problems that prompted the break in the first place, and won’t give you the opportunity to solve them.
That’s why taking a break is a bad relationship idea.
2. It doesn’t fix anything
Ignoring a problem will certainly not fix it. Why?
Because the problems were never resolved and you’re basically starting again where you left off. And that won’t get you anywhere.
Taking a break can be interpreted as a “get out of jail free” card.
It gives you the opportunity to not hurt the other person while you slowly distance yourself from them.
And even if you do get back together after a couple of weeks or months, feeling fresh and motivated again, the bitter truth is you’ll soon face disappointment.
Taking a break means you’re actually running away from each other.
It shows that you’re not compatible with each other to resolve your problems, otherwise you would stay together and put in the effort to find a solution.
Maybe you think that time will bring you a moment of epiphany, but it won’t.
It’s only an empty excuse and nothing else. Your problems will chase you and your partner until you face them.
You know that you’re just prolonging a breakup by taking a break.
3. You question whether it’s worth it or not
When you’re taking a break from each other, you start doubting whether or not your relationship is worth your time.
You have these random thoughts in your head, which leave room for uncertainties.
You start doubting your partner’s intentions and put yourself in a horrible spot.
Those tiny voices start rearing their ugly head and you don’t have your other half beside you to turn them off.
And even if you do get back together after the break, those tiny voices will remain, potentially hurting the renewed relationship.
4. It can cause resentment
Both partners rarely agree to take a break.
In most cases, it’s a one-sided decision where the other partner agrees only because they care to salvage what they can.
That’s why you might be stuck wondering why your partner needed to be apart from you in the first place.
You don’t understand why he says he needs some time to cool off if he tells you that he loves you.
Eventually, that can come back and bite you during arguments or post-break fights. No one likes to be benched and set aside.
5. It creates room for infidelity
Let’s face it, when you’re taking a break, there’s no guarantee your partner won’t cheat on you.
Technically, it’s not cheating because you’re not a couple anymore, but feelings are involved, and that never ends well.
And what’s even worse, even if you reconcile and get back together, it can make things even more complicated and confusing.
The trust is gone and you’ll have a hard time building it back up from scratch.
You won’t resist the urge to ask your partner how many girls he was with when you were taking a break from each other.
That’s why taking a break most often means the end of your relationship.
6. It’s just an empty excuse and nothing else
When you think about it, taking a break is nothing more than an excuse to not be in a relationship anymore.
In most cases, the person who asks for a break already knows what’s going to happen, but is too scared to let you know how he truly feels.
Maybe your boyfriend is afraid of how you’ll react to him breaking up with you, so he’s trying to make the situation better by saying he needs a break.
Or maybe he refuses to accept that taking a break means the end of your relationship.
Sometimes men are cowards and don’t dare be the ones to break up.
The fact of the matter is that it all leads to a breakup anyway.
And isn’t it better to hear the bitter truth than to live with a false hope that everything will be better if you take a break from each other?
The interpretations may differ but the meaning is the same.