You didn’t leave me because you no longer loved me. The feelings were still there, I can bet on that.
You still knew that I was the best person you ever met, but there was something else bothering you. You were afraid. The emotion that made you stop in your tracks and prevented you from staying with me.
You left me because you were afraid of the strength I hold inside of me. You left me because you realized how strong I was and how I’d never allow you to treat me any worse than I deserve.
Throughout our relationship, you tried to be the one in charge. You were that stereotypical man who believed his masculinity would disappear the second a woman showed him she could live without him.
You feared the moment where you’d realize how strong and powerful I am, so you tried to cover it up with your behavior.
Maybe that’s why you were texting other girls while still in a relationship with me. Maybe that’s why you acted like a single man whenever I wasn’t around.
You needed food for your ego because deep down, you felt weak. Deep down, you felt like you couldn’t do much to make yourself feel in control.
Standing next to me made you feel like you weren’t strong enough as you knew that I had the guts to do things you could never do.
I had the guts to stand up for myself and defend myself without your help. I didn’t need you to be my hero because I was already my own heroine.
Honestly, I realize that it’s not easy to be with someone who doesn’t need you to boost their confidence. I realize that you wanted to feel needed in the relationship and that’s not something I could give you.
I never wanted you to be a guy who would fix me while I was broken. Or the one who would help me build myself up from scratch.
When I fell in love with you, I simply wanted you to be my romantic partner and nothing more than that.
But I guess that’s what scared you the most.
You were afraid you couldn’t put up with my expectations. Your self-esteem was way too low to deal with a strong woman who knows what she wants.
Maybe that’s what made you think that I would replace you with the first man who would walk into my life. And maybe that’s what made you act the way you did.
Instead of being my partner, you started to work against our relationship. You didn’t feel relaxed, so you started doing things that were deeply hurtful – things to intentionally sabotage us.
Once you finally realized you’d never be able to stay with me and actually feel like you deserve me, you blamed the breakup on me.
You called me crazy and acted as if I was the one who pushed you away. In reality, your fear of being with a strong woman is what made you run for the hills.
The idea that I’d never beg you for anything and that I’d instantly leave you at the first sign of you mistreating me was something that was stuck in your head. You knew that I wouldn’t tolerate mistakes and that I’d never let you play with me.
And maybe you never had it in mind to mistreat me. Maybe you never wanted to disrespect me.
But again, the fear of spending your future with a strong woman was what made you run away and there wasn’t much I could do about that.
You already know that you won’t see me chasing after you as I could never stoop so low. You know that the moment you walked away, you closed the door of my heart and will never be allowed back in.
And when you realize that you made a mistake and let the fear control you, it will be too late to beg for my forgiveness.
You lost a strong woman because you were a weak man who was afraid of being in a relationship with me and now, the joke is on you. You had your chance but you decided to waste it, that’s why you’ll have to live with the consequences of your actions.
I just hope that one day, you’ll figure out that you’ll never be able to have a healthy relationship with anyone before you realize that the others’ worth doesn’t damage your own.
Being with a strong woman doesn’t make you any less of a man than you are.
That’s something you must remember if you don’t want to waste your time running away from women who know what they want out of life.
And if you can’t do that, then maybe you don’t deserve to be in a relationship whatsoever. Maybe you’re too weak to be with anyone since the moment they show you that they don’t need your help, you’ll immediately feel threatened.
Until you have it all clear in your head that a strong woman doesn’t need you to be her hero, you won’t be able to date one. She simply needs you to be her partner and nothing more.
You don’t have to be tough all the time. You don’t have to lead her through life. She can easily do those things by herself, without anyone’s help.
So, the next time you find yourself in the company of a strong woman, remind yourself of the mistakes you already made. Don’t act all macho, because that’s what actually makes you weak.
And don’t blame her for not needing your help because she’ll definitely not fall for that.
Strong women are aware that they scare weak men, so if you know that you can’t be with one, don’t even waste her time trying to keep her around. The result will always be the same.
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