Stop waiting for him. He’s obviously not going to come back to you!
It sounds too easy when I put it like that, doesn’t it? It’s so much easier to just give this advice to someone than to actually follow it yourself.
But sometimes we need a little reminder to push us forward. And I believe that you also need to hear this reminder from someone who’s unbiased.
I don’t know what happened between you two, nor do I know why you’re waiting for him.
When you started seeing him, things seemed like the perfect combination of cuddles and kisses. The conversation flowed easily and you found yourself a comfy spot lying next to him. Things seemed to be so natural that you thought of his hug as the place to stay for the rest of your life.
That’s why things hurt so much right now. You laughed a lot together and whenever he’d look at you, your knees would cave a little.
You probably loved those days you’d just spend in bed together, just as much as you loved dancing in the rain with him.
That man gave you so many beautiful memories to mourn right now. Of course, you won’t be able to move on from him overnight.
You need time to heal and recover because the moment he decided to walk out on you was the moment your entire world shattered. You wanted to show him that forever could be a beautiful place if you stayed together.
But he obviously had other plans. He didn’t want to stay, so he watched you crumble right there in front of him before he turned his back on you.
Now you’re here, all alone, wondering if you should just wait for him to come back.
You hope that he will because the thought of never calling him yours again terrifies you. That’s why you haven’t deleted his number yet and every single time a notification pops up on your phone, you think that it’s him.
The disappointment when it’s not is unbearable. You don’t want to believe that he’s not thinking about you when he’s the only thing on your mind.
That’s why you’re still stuck on him. You want to show him that he’s made a mistake. There no reason why he wouldn’t want to come back to you, right?
But you have to understand that you can’t control the emotions of other people. You can’t just decide that he will find everything he needs in you. Nor can you expect him to come back when all he wanted was to walk away.
This is the tough truth that you need to hear.
You’re suffering, crying, and hoping that one day he will change his mind, but the chances of him doing this are zero to none.
You’ll see signs where there are none. When he likes your photo or when he texts you to ask you something, you’ll think that he wants you back. In reality, he probably knows that he’s just prolonging your healing process by doing these things.
He knows that you’ll be more miserable each day and that you’ll just stay in your own little bubble for even longer.
You don’t need to do that! No one has the right to make you feel like this.
So block his number, block him on social media, and start living your life!
Your life is moving past you and you’re definitely not happy at this very moment. You won’t get better just because you believe that one day you’ll wake up and he’ll show up on your doorstep to ask for your forgiveness.
If he couldn’t cherish you and your efforts back then, then he doesn’t deserve to have you in his life.
He doesn’t deserve to come back to you to break your heart once more. He should live with the knowledge that he lost an amazingly beautiful girl like you are.
So don’t waste any more of your precious time on him! There are so many better ways you can spend your time.
Instead of scrolling through his social media and stalking his activity, go out with friends! Plan a weekend trip with them to the spa to destress and recharge your batteries.
Instead of crying over him tonight, take yourself out on a date. Spend the night with yourself, have dinner at your favorite restaurant, and go for a walk. And when you get back home, watch your favorite show. Pamper yourself.
You have so many options open.
I’m not saying that a little trip and some wine can cure everything, but I am saying that things will be easier to handle this way. You’ll be able to get out of your own head for a while.
And even when those thoughts seem overbearing, you’ll be able to move past them. You’ll realize that healing is a long process that starts with finding closure.
Close the door you’ve been keeping open for way too long! Don’t let him inside, even if he says that he’s changed and wants you back. Don’t let him break you once again just because he’s whispering sweet nothings now.
If he was the right man for you, then he would’ve stayed. The right man would never leave the love of his life, no matter what the reason might be. He would never walk away and pretend like you two were never a thing.
When you find the right man, he will hold on to you and your relationship. He will work things through and remind you each day that you’re the one for him.
But until the right guy comes along you, don’t just stay locked up inside your head.
Live your life. Experience everything that this world has to offer and stop wasting your time waiting on someone who obviously can’t see your worth!
This is your time to get up and do something that your future self will thank you for. You’ll heal faster, I promise you that! Just please, make your life worth living and stop living in despair.
He’s definitely not worth it.