When you look at your love life right now, does it only stir something painful in your chest or are you happy?
If the thought of love only makes you sad then there might be an actual reason behind it.
Let’s be honest, we hate being told that we’re the problem because it does hurt to hear it.
However, what if you’re doing something that is sabotaging your love life?
There are so many things that we do without even realizing it.
We are accustomed to these things and we might not even realize that what we’re doing is bad.
Of course, a lot of it is due to previous heartbreaks or any type of trauma.
Thankfully, however, once you realize that something you’re doing can potentially ruin your love life forever, you can actively work on changing that.
If you do realize that you’re doing something from this list, make sure to work on yourself and improve on it.
1. Stop comparing yourself to other women
Let me start this off by saying that other women are NOT and will NEVER be your competition. There is enough room for all of us in this world.
You need to realize that you can be inspired by these women and you can be friends with them, instead of looking at them as your worst enemies.
Stop comparing yourself to other women and believing that just because they have done something before you, that they had it easy.
Be inspired by other women to work more on yourself.
Don’t just sit around and think about how someone has a thinner waist or how someone has a better job.
Work on bettering yourself instead of losing time on comparing yourself to other women.
2. Stop jumping into relationships
We’re all scared of being alone and lonely.
You may be scared of sleeping alone or eating alone. You simply want to share those experiences with someone!
That is completely understandable. However, what if I told you that jumping into a relationship is just going to ruin your love life?
You are going to realize somewhere down the road that you don’t like this person as much as you thought you did.
They don’t meet your wants or needs properly but you’re scared to leave and be alone, so you stay with this person that you have lost all feelings for.
Listen to me when I tell you that you need to be alone. You can’t just be somebody’s before you become somebody yourself.
Don’t jump into a relationship just for a quick fix because otherwise, you will never be truly happy.
3. Stop hiding your emotions
We women have been taught that if we’re emotional, then we’re crazy, right?
They say that we’re too sensitive, too vulnerable, too gentle and then we internalize all that.
However, how are you going to have a happy love life if you hide your emotions?
Playing hard to get and pretending to be cold and unaffected can’t help you in a long-term relationship.
You need to be vulnerable and emotional. You need to put yourself out there and tell your partner when he means the world to you.
If he says that you’re being too emotional, then he simply isn’t the man for you.
4. Stop letting your past decide your future
You can’t let your past define you.
I know that you might have gone through a train wreck of emotions and bad experiences, but it has all made you stronger.
You have gone through heartbreak and misery and now, more often than not, people take you for granted.
However, that doesn’t mean that your soulmate will be the same. He’ll treat you right and he’ll show you what it feels like to be loved and appreciated.
He can’t come into your life and show you true love if you keep on holding on to your past.
You need to let go of your past and look forward to your future. You need to give him a chance.
5. Stop settling for the bare minimum
Another thing that ruins your love life is when you settle for less than you deserve.
You need to realize that you have the right to ask for the things you want and need.
You can’t keep on settling just because you’re scared to speak up.
Your love life will feel the consequences because you will always end up with men who think that they can treat you however they please.
You deserve the entire world and more. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
6. Stop sabotaging your own growth
If you think that you can love someone without loving yourself first, then you are greatly mistaken.
You need to be able to work on yourself, day in and day out, and this isn’t negotiable.
Your love life will suffer if you continue to be the same person so use the opportunities you have to work on yourself and become a better person.
Don’t just sit around and wait for the right one. Rather than that, become the ideal partner for a man who will love you endlessly.
Start a new hobby, read a new book, and don’t just think that by sitting around, you will be able to achieve perfection.
It’s hard to hear, I know, but you are not ready for love if you’re not happy by yourself.
7. Stop thinking that love has a timeline
I have seen so many people have this set timeline for themselves.
They have it all planned out: when they are going to get married, when they are going to have children.
Love and life shouldn’t have a timeline. Everyone does things at their own pace and you should too.
If you thought that you were going to get married by the age of 25 and you’re still single, it doesn’t mean that you have to jump at the first man who offers you a ring.
Love doesn’t have a timeline. You can date for years and years before you decide to get married.
Take your time. Figure yourself out and make sure that you stop doing the things from this list that just might ruin your love life.