Love and relationships shouldn’t be hard. There, I said it! The truth that we have all been so adamant to ignore.
Like all the people that we have loved will disappear when we admit this to ourselves.
Our entire lives, we have been taught that relationships are a lot of work.
We have been told that we have to make great sacrifices, that men out there are only going to love us if we give up such a huge amount of ourselves.
You thought that in order to be loved, you simply couldn’t be yourself, because that would seem too easy and love isn’t supposed to be easy.
Love is supposed to be this great fight that we battle for the rest of our lives. We fight with each other. We fight for each other.
It’s always a fight. An eternal misunderstanding. An everlasting agony.
Love should always be at the center of all our misfortune and pain. Isn’t that right?
You and I have watched our mothers fight for places in men’s hearts our entire lives.
Their fight was silent, only visible to those who saw their exhaustion and paid attention to their whimpering late into the night.
A woman’s fight is in the way she keeps the household together even when she doesn’t have the energy anymore.
She would die before admitting that she fights for a man’s approval, but that’s exactly what she does.
Love shouldn’t hurt. Love shouldn’t be hard.
You and I shouldn’t feel like we are being stabbed in the chest whenever we fall in love again.
No one should feel like love is their main source of complications in life, because it’s a constant battle.
We fight about who cares more, or who cares less. We fight for each other on a daily basis, because we don’t know another way to love.
The only thing we do know is that if our rib cage feels like it’s constricting our lungs and our eyes are full of tears, then it must be love.
You think that you’re hard to love so you let yourself settle for a man who isn’t good enough, and is not ready to fight.
You must feel like a train wreck right now. Is it really like that? You even fight the idea that love should be easy because you only know misery and pain.
The men whom you have dated or the man you’re currently with always say that you two are meant to be together, even if it hurts you.
He hurts you and you let him, because isn’t that what love should feel like?
You are a wonderful human, so listen when I tell you that love should be easy.
When the right person comes into your life, you will try to fight out of habit but he will only smile at you.
He will smile at you and hold you tight, show you that he won’t leave and that he’ll do better.
He’ll do better than any of the men before him. So stay single until you find a man who will make love seem easy.
He will make love feel like your first morning coffee after a good night of sleep.
You will feel your tears withdraw and the pieces of your heart fall back into place.
When you’re with the right man, he will make love feel like a lazy Sunday afternoon, when your house is clean and you’re at peace.
Just like when you are finally lying down on your freshly washed sheets after a very long day.
That is what the right type of love will feel like. That is why I’m telling you that the right man will make love seem easy.
It feels like everything’s in order. Like the missing piece has settled into place.
Your relationship will be centered around agreements and plans for the future that just seem to head in the right direction.
You will know what I’m talking about when he comes into your life and puts everything aside to show you his love.
You will feel overwhelmed. He will put you at the top of his priority list and he will show you how you should have been treated all of these years.
He will make you look forward to every conversation and every new day that you spend together.
There will be no dreaded fights, but more comfortable silence.
Your relationship will revolve around helping each other and being there for each other.
It will revolve around mutual love and the need to grow together as perfect lovers.
You will realize that you have romanticized fights where there simply couldn’t be a winner, while he will always find a way to make you both happy instead of searching for the upper hand.
There is nothing romantic about hurting someone or being hurt.
If you have a relationship where your issues could be put onscreen and be considered a drama, your relationship is not healthy.
I am sorry to break it to you, but this is not the right relationship for you to be in.
When you fall in love with the right person, it will be effortless. It will be simple and beautiful.
When you find the right person for you, you will realize that love should have always been easy, because inside his arms, you feel safe and sound.
You will feel like you have come home after a very long day at work, because he will be your home.
When you’re with the right person, love will seem easy even in the hardest times.
Even if you do struggle, even if you do have trying times, love will still feel easy.
He will make sure that he never hurts you, that you never cry because of him and that you never doubt him.
Because that’s how a real man is supposed to be. That’s what real love is supposed to feel like.
So I promise you, if you stay single and wait just a little while longer, love will come your way.
In that moment, instead of feeling a weight on your shoulders, you will feel the weight being lifted off of you.