You should strive to become a woman like this before you get into a new relationship.
Everyone has different reasons for why they get into a new relationship. Some people are in constant need of a partner because they don’t know who they are outside of one.
Other people fall in love easily. They fall in love at the drop of a hat because they’re able to see the good in everyone they meet.
We don’t have to make our own love rare just to make it real. We can love often and still make that love solid. But don’t you think that heartbreak keeps bringing you down so much that you stop going forward?
Memories of past lovers and past mistakes keep haunting you. You’re completely broken and bruised from all those times you tried to make someone love you. They didn’t see your potential but you were able to move on.
Moving on doesn’t mean that you need to jump into a new relationship right away. It means that you need to focus on yourself.
Let the past hurt but don’t let it break you into pieces. Don’t let that hurt and pain lead you into the arms of another bad decision.
When I tell you to become a better version of yourself, this includes just a few changes. Because you need to become a woman like this if you want to be in a healthy and loving relationship.
You need to become a woman who has a purpose outside of the relationship.
There are too many women in this world who tie their entire meaning of life and their whole self-worth to a man. That’s when the love you feel for that man can become toxic. It can start eating you from the inside out.
You become all of the worst things that you never wanted to be. Jealousy starts creeping in the very moment you see that your partner has a life outside of the relationship.
You need to focus on yourself. What do you want to do with your life? What’s your purpose that makes you wake up each day? What makes you the happiest?
Once you focus on these things, you’ll understand that life is so much more than just a compilation of moments that you spend with your man. He’s supposed to be nothing more than the icing on the cake. The cake is so delicious even without the icing but it just makes it more enjoyable.
Stay single until you become a woman who loves herself.
When I tell you that you should become a woman like this, I don’t mean that you need to hype up your Instagram profile or that you should flex about how much money you make.
When I say you should love yourself, I mean that in the sense that’ll remind you that you’re enough just the way you are. It’s not about all the fancy things that come together with you wherever you go. It’s about you as a person.
Also, once you start to love yourself, you’ll understand the importance of boundaries. Without them, you won’t be able to have a healthy relationship with anyone.
Once you set your boundaries, you’ll also be able to respect the boundaries of your partner. You’ll know how to set them, respect them, and maintain them. Doesn’t that sound like the best thing in the world?
Stay single until you open your mind.
With an open mind, you can understand everyone’s point of view. There are such amazing people in this world and one of those could be the partner of your dreams but you won’t be able to love him properly or let him love you in his own way unless you keep an open mind.
You need to remind yourself that so many different people in this world have had so many different experiences. There are no two people in this world who have had the same exact trauma or who have the same story to tell. You can’t expect your new partner to treat you like your last one.
It’s so important to keep your mind open while also maintaining your boundaries. So when things get tough, you’ll take care of yourself while also understanding your new partner’s viewpoints.
Stay single until you learn to live with your pain.
You’re a woman who has been through so much in her life and it seems like you’re carrying so many burdens that it’s too hard for anyone to share the weight with you. However, that hurt and pain become worse as time goes on, simply because you’re so adamant about swallowing every part of it so that no one can see you’re hurting.
You hide it, you dissociate from it, and you bury it deep within yourself. You haven’t felt the full extent of your own emotions for such a long time and you’re not even sure whether you’re able to do so. But you need to learn how to live with your past and deal with it healthily.
If you don’t, then at times when you get triggered, you may start to take it out on your partner. I know that you need to learn how to protect yourself but you also don’t want to hurt another human being.
If you end up hurting someone else, then it’s possible that you’re going to guilt-trip yourself into an awful relationship. You’ll stay because you’ll start to believe that you’re the reason why that person acts abusively toward you.
Once you figure out that life doesn’t revolve around your romantic relationship, you’ll become a woman like this. That’ll turn you into the type of woman that every man will fall head over heels for.
Nonetheless, you’ll also know how to find the one guy who’s good enough for you. You’ll find the man who’s perfect for you because you’ll have become the kind of woman who knows what she wants and she goes after it.
Once you do that, once you become her, you’ll be ready to love someone else fully.