What’s the worst dating advice you’ve ever been given?
There are probably many instances when you’ve asked someone for advice and all you heard was a mediocre answer that didn’t solve anything. You wanted to know what you needed to do but you were left with more questions than answers.
That’s why I’m here right now to help you out. When you hear these little suggestions from others, just stop listening to whatever this person is saying.
I know that it sounds extreme but advice about love shouldn’t be given with no effort whatsoever. A person would have to consider each side of the story before giving guidance and they should be able to use empathy.
However, many people are not able to think things through. So instead of getting annoyed at this point, let’s just make a list of the dating advice you should never listen to or follow.
1. “You have to act like you don’t care.”
As women, we’re often told that we shouldn’t act as if we care about the man we’re pursuing. Your friends will tell you that showing too much interest will only tell him you’re too available.
The sentence ‘men love the chase‘ has been used so often that it has become common knowledge. Do you truly want an immature man who doesn’t love you, however?
It’s all fine and dandy until you’ve spent days, weeks, or months pretending to be someone you’re not. You act as if he’s not the person for you when in reality, you truly want him.
This is the worst relationship or dating advice because people need to understand that showing interest isn’t going to doom you. It’s going to distinguish a real man from a boy.
Only a boy will be threatened by a woman who obviously isn’t scared to show what she wants.
Society says that we’re supposed to be a damsel in distress until the moment a man comes and saves us. We’re not supposed to know what we want.
However, you can fight that stereotype and show him that you know exactly what you’re looking for.
2. “You’ll know when the right one comes along.”
I think you’d agree with me when I say that we mistake anxiety and panic for love. We think that heart palpitations, shivers, and nausea are signs that someone is made for us.
We call the anxiety we feel love and treat it as a sign that someone’s right for us but it’s not. You won’t just feel a spark between you two by doing nothing more than seeing him.
This is one of the worst pieces of dating advice ever because it also implies that you don’t need to work for your relationship.
This stereotype exists so that you think everything will simply fall into your lap and you won’t have to work for it at all.
I’m not saying that love needs to be hard work. Sometimes, a relationship simply isn’t going to work out and you’re better off without that person.
However, there are so many people out there who made things work out simply because they communicated about it. They made sure to listen to their partner and adjust their behavior.
That’s exactly why you can’t judge whether you’ve met the one by simply saying that they make you feel giddy.
3. “Opposites attract.”
You’re probably wondering why this is one of the worst pieces of dating advice in this world? Well, let me answer that for you.
You can’t just explain this to people without sounding like you’re a little crazy but hear me out.
While opposites can attract each other, so can people who are similar, and either way, you just can’t build a relationship simply on the attraction.
It may be true that opposites attract in the sense that if you’re very aggressive or easily irritated, you need to find someone who’s a bit more on the chill side of things.
But think about this. When you read a book you like, don’t you also want to recommend it to your partner? If they don’t like reading, you’re left brooding over it and it can make you sad.
If you’re extroverted and your partner is introverted, you can’t really force him to go out with you, which can also leave you unhappy as you feel like he doesn’t understand your wants or needs.
Do you see what I mean when I say that opposites shouldn’t ‘attract’ each other? You can’t expect something from your partner and then get mad at them when they’re not fulfilling those expectations.
4. “You can’t kiss him on the first date.”
And why not, exactly? This also ties in with believing that you’ll look too available if you allow a guy to kiss you on the first date and God forbid that you’re the one to initiate it.
The thing is that sometimes the moment is just right.
For example, you’re on a date with this man and he walks you home. You had an amazing time and it was one of the best dates you’ve ever been on.
He leans in to kiss you but your friends’ words echo through your brain. And that’s how you lose an absolutely amazing man.
You listen to your friends because you think that they’re right. However, the poor guy gets the memo that you aren’t that into him.
Kiss that man if you want to! You’re the only one who can make this decision.
If you’re scared that he isn’t going to call you ever again just because of a kiss, then he isn’t the right man for you.
5. “Wait a while before you reply.”
I’ve seen my friends do this when they’re texting with a guy and I can’t believe that they still believe this is something that should be practiced.
As stated before, if he gets scared because you’re assertive, then that’s his problem. If you want to talk to him, then talk to him!
When you’re waiting for a guy to respond to you, how do you feel? You feel like he doesn’t care enough about you, like you’re not his priority.
That’s exactly what he feels like when you don’t reply for hours. Do you truly want him to feel like this because of the way you act toward him?
When you’re honest with a guy and he’s honest with you, you can create a genuine connection. You don’t need to wait to reply to his texts, honey.