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20 Surest Signs Your Ex Girlfriend Is Pretending To Be Over You But Actually Still Cares

Maybe you’ve started noticing some signs your ex-girlfriend is pretending to be over you, but how can you know for sure that she still cares?

I’m here to help you figure out whether your ex still has feelings for you or not.

If there’s any chance of the two of you ever getting back together, you’re going to know about it now.

All you need to do is read these signs your ex-girlfriend is pretending to be over you, and you’ll find out the truth.

People are different, but people in love all have something in common; they all show the same signs of deep feelings.

Your ex-girlfriend is probably trying to hide how she really feels about you.

She might be pretending to be over you just to protect her heart from any additional pain.

Breakups always hurt and naturally, no one likes getting hurt, which is why we pretend to be over someone we still actually care about.

Pretending to have already moved on helps us eventually do so for real.

As a result, exes always want to look like they have really moved on, even if they haven’t yet.

Your ex doesn’t want you to know that she still loves you, but she’s showing you that, whether she wants to or not.

Keep reading and you’ll be able to see right through her act.

1. She still communicates with you quite often

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One of the clearest signs your ex-girlfriend is pretending to be over you is if she still talks to you on a regular basis.

A person who doesn’t like you would avoid talking to you.

When they’d communicate with you, you’d clearly sense that they weren’t so happy about it.

On the other hand, your ex always seems happy to chat to you, which proves that she still wants you to be a part of her life.

If she was really trying to get over you, she would have ended all contact.

By staying in touch, she’s showing you that there’s still a chance for the two of you to be happy together.

2. She pretends she wasn’t staring at you

She can’t control it no matter how hard she tries because you’re always catching her eye.

Eye contact is one of the most powerful body language signs your ex-girlfriend is pretending to be over you.

She keeps looking at you, but when you notice it, she averts her eyes.

Sometimes, she gazes at you as if she’s daydreaming but she looks away when you catch her.

From childhood to old age, people always do this when they’re in love. We simply want to look at the person we like and we can’t help it.

People don’t even notice that they’re doing it, but it’s such an intense need that they can’t resist it.

Your ex can’t help but look at you and this is a very good sign.

3. She’s somehow always around

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When people break up, they don’t usually keep seeing each other, especially not often.

If your ex-girlfriend seems to be constantly around, it’s a sign she’s not over you yet.

Ex partners who are over each other will even try to avoid places where they could run into one another.

No one wants to run into their ex no matter who was the one who initiated the breakup.

It’s simply awkward and embarrassing… but if there’s still hope for giving the relationship another chance, exes want to see each other.

4. One of the signs your ex-girlfriend is pretending to be over you is that she pretends she has a reason to meet up

Maybe your ex even comes up with excuses to see you. If she’s still into you, she’ll call or text with a silly reason to meet up.

It might even sound like a legitimate reason but you then discover that it wasn’t necessary to meet up for that.

Some things can be resolved with a simple phone call, but your ex uses these reasons to see you in person instead.

Maybe she needs your advice on something that’s bothering her and she asks you to meet her for coffee.

Perhaps you left something at her place and she wants to see you to give it back.

It can be a trivial reason, but your ex will find one just so she can get together with you.

Once you see each other face-to-face, she may even flirt with you.

5. She wants to remind you of all the good times you had together

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Your ex likes to reminisce about your past together and seems to be trying to make you do the same.

She often mentions the good times you had together and maybe even tags you on an old photo of the two of you.

Maybe she talks about the happy memories you shared, but she could also mention the problems you had.

In that case, it will be clear that she wants to try to solve those issues so you can be together again.

She might even apologize or finally see your point of view.

Regardless of what exactly she talks to you about, if she reminisces about your past together, it’s a good sign.

6. She pretends that she’s happy just to make you jealous

Maybe she brags about her new relationship, a new job, or a new car, just to get your attention.

When we want to make someone jealous, we will pretend to be happy without them, but that happiness will seem fake.

She might be posting a lot of pictures on social media that show her having a great time with her friends.

This could be just her way of trying to make you jealous.

Why would she want to make you jealous if she was over you? If she’s doing this, she clearly still has feelings for you.

7. She offers to help

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You mentioned a certain issue you’ve been dealing with, and your ex offered to help.

Normally, people don’t help out those they don’t care about, especially if the person in question is their ex.

Yes, if you are one of the rare people who stayed friends for real, maybe it’s because of that but it’s much more likely that it’s one of the signs your ex-girlfriend is pretending to be over you.

If she didn’t like you anymore, she would have never offered to help you.

Maybe she even postpones her other responsibilities and puts helping you at the top of her list of priorities.

If that’s the case with your ex, she clearly still cares about you deeply.

8. One of the signs your ex-girlfriend is pretending to be over you is that she can’t keep her hands off you

Everyone likes to touch the person they’re attracted to.

We’re not even aware of it, but when we like someone, we have the need to connect with them in a physical way.

Maybe she touches your knee, shoulder, or elbow…

She doesn’t even notice that she’s doing it but whenever you’re together, she can’t keep her hands off you.

This is one of the clear signs your ex-girlfriend is pretending to be over you.

If she didn’t like you, she wouldn’t want to be near you and would flinch when you touch her.

9. She has a new boyfriend who looks just like you

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When a girl isn’t really over her ex, it’s very likely that she’ll start dating his lookalike.

Yes, everyone has a certain type of person they’re attracted to, but this is not just a type of guy; it’s basically you.

Her new boyfriend even has the same hairstyle and hair color that you have.

He seems like a carbon copy of you and even other people have commented on the resemblance.

This is a clear sign that your ex-girlfriend hasn’t moved on yet.

She still wants to be with you, but since she can’t, she’s with someone who looks like you.

10. She shows body language signs

A girl’s body language can tell you much more than she will; you just have to notice the signs.

Maybe she touches her face when she’s near you, licks her lips, or plays with her hair.

She could blink more often than usual, avoid your gaze, or keep touching her nose.

Maybe she seems nervous and it shows in her movements. She might keep checking her nails or tapping her foot.

One of the signs your ex-girlfriend is pretending to be over you is if she pretends that she’s bored.

She could purposely yawn when you talk or look around to make it seem like she doesn’t care.

Pay attention to these body language signs and if you notice them, your ex probably isn’t over you.

11. She’s working on herself

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Has she suddenly started working out and paying more attention to her appearance?

She probably changed her profile picture and looks better than ever.

Has she bought herself new clothes and changed her hair color? Maybe she even got a new job or bought a new car.

If your ex looks better than ever, she isn’t over you yet and she might even start showing off to get your attention.

Maybe she’s trying to win you back or get over you, but she clearly hasn’t moved on yet.

12. One of the signs your ex-girlfriend is pretending to be over you is that she stalks your social media profiles

Obviously, when someone’s stalking your social media profiles, they care about what you’ve been up to.

Maybe your ex-girlfriend doesn’t like or comment on your posts, but it doesn’t mean that she’s not looking.

If she’s pretending to be over you, she probably won’t show any sign of it but she certainly looks at your profiles.

Unfortunately, unless some of her friends know about it and let you know, you can’t really check this but you can check her profiles, though.

She’ll probably post something that’s actually a secret message for you.

Maybe it will be a song you used to dance to or a quote that seems to be about your relationship.

I also mentioned that she could post things to make you jealous.

In that case, the things she posts will seem too good to be true, and that’s usually because they are.

13. She gets jealous

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Ever since your relationship ended, she has had no right to question your motives, actions, or behavior.

She shouldn’t even care about what you’re doing or why, but what if she does?

If your ex gets jealous, she still has some feelings for you and the same goes if she gets envious.

She wants to know what you’ve been up to and makes remarks about it.

Maybe she’s been badmouthing you to your mutual friends and you’ve heard about it.

If that badmouthing sounded a lot like jealousy or envy, she still cares about you.

Maybe you started dating someone new, and she’s clearly upset about it.

She tries to hide that she’s jealous but you can see the expression on her face change when she sees you together.

If your new girlfriend and your ex know each other, you should definitely look for signs a girl is jealous of another girl.

14. She pretends to have a reason not to give you your stuff back

Does she always make up some sort of an excuse not to return your things?

There could be two possible explanations for this.

One is that she has negative feelings about you so she doesn’t want to see you but couldn’t she just send you your things or ask a friend to return them to you?

This is why the most likely explanation is that she’s not ready to say goodbye.

We hold on to the things that remind us of our ex because we’re not ready to let go and your stuff is the only thing left of you in her life.

You asked her for your things back a few times already, but she always has an excuse not to give them back.

She’s actually hoping that you’ll need them at her place again because she wants you to come back.

It’s not just one of the signs your ex-girlfriend is pretending to be over you, but also a sign she wants you back.

15. She leaves her things at your place

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Women often leave something at a guy’s place when they want to have an excuse to see him again. Trust me, your ex-girlfriend is no different.

Leaving something at your place gives her an excuse to text, call, or even come to see you.

It makes it possible for the two of you to still be connected by something, in a way.

If she didn’t even want to end the relationship with you in the first place, she’ll probably do this.

She makes sure to see you again at least one more time by leaving something behind.

If she asked for all her belongings back instead and didn’t hesitate to take them, she’s not pretending.

A woman who is truly over you will just want to give you your stuff back and take hers so that there’s nothing left.

16. One of the signs your ex-girlfriend is pretending to be over you is that she talks about you to your mutual friends

Does your ex ask your friends about you? If she still cares for you, she’ll want to know what you’ve been up to.

Since she’s pretending to be over you, she can’t ask you directly but she’ll surely try to find out something about you from your mutual friends.

She’ll want to know whether you’ve started dating again, how you feel about her now and how you’ve been feeling since the breakup.

Your ex may also ask about someone new she saw you with, where you live now, and whether you’ve mentioned her lately.

If she had no interest in you anymore, she wouldn’t bother to ask around about you.

It’s important to check whether she asked about you only a few times or if it has turned into a habit.

The more curious she is, the more she still cares about you.

Your friends will probably notice that she’s a little jealous too.

Both curiosity and jealousy are signs your ex-girlfriend is pretending to be over you.

17. She always responds positively to your texts

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Regardless of whether you text her early in the morning or late at night, she always responds positively.

She seems happy to get to talk to you and responds to your texts quickly.

Clearly, she wants to keep communicating with you. Why would she want that if she was over you?

She even wants to keep the conversation going and to continue texting.

While the two of you are messaging, you even talk about your feelings and the relationship you had…

She most likely wants to get back together. You should keep an eye on the signs that she’s testing you, though.

If you hurt her before, she’ll want to test you to check whether she can trust you with her heart again.

18. She constantly texts you

One of the most obvious signs your ex-girlfriend is pretending to be over you is if she keeps texting you.

You only text those you want to communicate with, right? Also, you wouldn’t bother to message someone you had no feelings for.

Your ex constantly sends you texts, funny memes, and maybe even calls you.

If so, she clearly thinks about you a lot more than she would if she was over you.

Why would she have the need to constantly communicate with you if she didn’t care about you?

She’s showing you that she wants you to stay a part of her life.

Your ex misses you and longs to hear your voice, so she calls with a lame excuse.

She wants to hear you say “I’m sorry for making you question our love.”

When you see these signs your ex-girlfriend is pretending to be over you and you want her back, you should tell her that.

19. One of the signs your ex-girlfriend is pretending to be over you is that her friends tell you about it

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Even in kindergarten, girls ask their friends to approach the boy they like to tell him that they like him.

This doesn’t change that much when they become women, it just becomes more subtle.

If she still has feelings for you, her friends certainly know about it. She might ask them to tell you, but even if she doesn’t, they probably will.

As long as they think that you’re good for her and know that she’s still into you, they’ll try to get you back together.

Maybe they’ll talk to you face-to-face, but they could also just send a text out of the blue.

Either way, they’ll at least try to hint that she still has feelings for you.

However, it doesn’t have to be her friends, because her family members might reach out to you instead.

20. Her new boyfriend can’t stand you because she’s just pretending to be over you

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Well, it’s only natural for the new man in her life not to be thrilled about a man she used to love… but what if she still does?

She’ll probably talk to him about you, and he’ll sense that she’s not over you.

Maybe he won’t leave her because of it, but he will hate you, and that hate will be mixed with jealousy, which you will notice.

Her new boyfriend wouldn’t want to have anything to do with you anyway but if she’s not over you, he’ll really hate your guts and it will be obvious.

One of the signs your ex-girlfriend is pretending to be over you is if her new partner knows that she’s just pretending… even if you don’t.

Now that you know your ex isn’t over you yet, what can you do about it?

You have to think about whether you want to give your relationship another chance or not. If you still care about her too, give her a hint.

On the other hand, if you’re over her, don’t fool around with her heart.

Make it clear that it’s over, that you have moved on, and that she needs to do the same.

Good luck!

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