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19 Big Signs Your Ex-Boyfriend Is Acting Like He’s Over You But Actually Wants You Back

Are you going crazy or is your ex-boyfriend actually showing some of the signs that he’s over you, when in reality, he’s only pretending?

You don’t want to jump to conclusions, but out of the blue, you’ve started noticing that your ex wants you back.

You have no idea what his real feelings are but it looks as if he wants you to give him a second chance.

So, you spend nights Googling signs that may be able to explain to you whether your ex still loves you and whether he’s only acting like he’s over you.

While doing that, you’ve stumbled upon this article and you’re praying to God that it’ll be helpful.

You want to know your ex-boyfriend’s true feelings so you can know what you’re supposed to do.

Should you move on with your life and start looking for a new guy or do you still stand a chance with your ex? How can you know what you’re supposed to do?

Well, you’ve come to the right place!

If you want to be sure that your ex-boyfriend still has feelings for you and is only pretending that he has moved on, then keep reading.

I’ll try to give you a full list of signs that you should look for if you want to be sure that your ex still cares for you.

Signs your ex-boyfriend is only acting like he’s over you.

If your ex misses you, he’ll most certainly show different signs that he wants you to notice.

He’ll try to pretend that he’s over you, when in fact, he wants to get back with you more than ever. 

You just need to pay close attention to his behavior because it’ll most certainly give him away.

1. He tries to make you jealous

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If your ex-partner wants you back and believes that the two of you can make the relationship work, he’ll try to make you jealous.

He’s trying so hard to pull you back to him and he believes that jealousy is the way to go.

By pretending that he’s over you, he’ll try to make you chase him.

And how will he do that? There are numerous ways.

He’ll probably use his social media to post a number of photos with attractive girls all around him.

He wants his ex-girlfriend (aka you) to see that he’s moved on and that he’s living his best life.

Another thing ex-boyfriends like to do is share songs about starting afresh and moving on after the breakup, and acting as if they’re not heartbroken.

He will probably try to make you feel angry by blaming you for the breakup, no matter whether you’re the dumper or the dumpee.

The point is to push your buttons so that you’ll try to contact him and start a conversation.

Your ex wants your attention and he’ll do whatever it takes to get it!

2. He pretends that he’s too happy after the breakup

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A good sign that your ex-boyfriend is only acting like he’s over you is if he keeps acting as if nothing ever happened. 

He’ll try to completely ignore the fact that his relationship failed and he’ll do that by pretending that he’s over the moon.

It’ll look like he’s happier after the breakup than he ever was throughout the whole relationship.

To prove to you that he’s moved on, he’ll enter not one, but many rebound relationships.

But instead of assuring you that he’s actually happy, you’ll get the feeling that he’s forcing all of that just to get your attention.

Whenever he meets someone new, he’ll act all happy but in a week’s time, that relationship will be over and he’ll enter another one.

Over and over again, he’ll keep jumping from girl to girl, thinking that he’s doing himself a favor when actually, he’s only making it harder to let go of you.

3. One of the signs your ex-boyfriend is acting like he’s over you is that he hasn’t asked for his things back

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Once a relationship falls apart, ex-partners usually ask for their stuff back.

It’s a clear sign that your ex doesn’t want to have anything to do with you and that he wants to have a fresh start.

So, if your ex-boyfriend hasn’t asked you for his things back, you should see that as a sign that he’s acting like he’s over you.

He knows that if he takes back all of his stuff from you, you won’t have anything to remind you of him. And that’s not what he wants.

Instead, he wants you to think of him every time you see something that belongs to him. He wants to leave a few traces in your life.

Maybe he’s waiting for you to call him and ask him if he wants to pick up his things.

It’ll be a great opportunity to have a conversation with you and maybe even try to convince you that you should get back together.

He wants his ex back but in order to look tough, he’s acting like he’s over you.

4. He hasn’t given you your things back

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Another sign that your ex-boyfriend is acting like he’s over you is if he keeps finding excuses every time you ask him to get your stuff back.

If he’s not over you, he won’t want to give away the last things that remind him of you.

He’ll have trouble giving you back that basket of your things you left out at his place.

It makes him think of all those happy memories from the past and if he lets go of it, it’ll feel as if he’s letting go of you.

So, every time you call him to set up a time to go and pick up your stuff, he makes an excuse and tells you that he’s busy.

He can’t let you take away the last things that keep him in touch with you. It’d hurt more than he could take.

5. He tries to stay in touch with you all the time

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If your ex-boyfriend is only pretending to be over you, he’ll try to stay in touch with you all the time.

The no contact rule doesn’t apply to him, as he keeps talking to you.

If he hears from your mutual friends that you need a hand to move some furniture around, you can be sure that he’ll be the first one to knock on your door and offer you help.

He’ll make sure to show you that you can count on him all the time.

Besides helping you, he’ll keep sending you text messages or even invite you to hang out.

He’ll always be looking for a way to be around you, hoping that it will make you realize that you need him back in your life.

He wants to win you back and he’s trying every possible way to do that.

It looks like he’s still not over you but saying that out loud could make him look like a fool.

That’s why he keeps looking for ways to prove to you that you should give him a second chance.

6. One of the signs your ex-boyfriend is acting like he’s over you is when you see each other face-to-face and he can’t keep his eyes off you

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One of the telltale signs that your ex-boyfriend is acting like he’s over you is if he can’t keep his eyes off you.

Let’s say that you accidentally meet in public and now he wants to buy you a coffee.

You don’t want to be rude so you accept his invitation but you then notice something weird.

His eye contact is stronger than ever. He keeps looking you directly in the eyes and it doesn’t seem to come to an end.

At one point, it might even get awkward but it feels as if he can’t take his eyes off you.

Why is he doing that?

Well, he probably wants to remind you of all those times you spent hours gazing into each other’s eyes. He wants to reignite the old flame.

He’s acting like he’s over you when actually, he wants you back more than ever!

7. He stayed in touch with your friends and family members

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If an ex is done with you, he’ll also cut ties with your friends and family members.

He’ll feel that he needs to move on with his own life, without letting anything keep him in the past.

But if your ex is only acting like he’s over you, he’ll make sure to keep in touch with your friends and family.

He thinks that staying on good terms with the people who mean a lot to you is a great way of staying in touch with you as well.

By doing that, your ex wants to show you that you shouldn’t cross him out of your life completely, as he has a lot to offer you.

8. He texts you more than he should

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Whenever something new happens in your life, your ex is the first one to text you.

Even though your relationship is over and you haven’t been talking much about serious things, it seems like he knows everything that has been going on with you.

This is one of the clear signs that your ex-boyfriend is only acting like he’s over you and that he wants you back in his life.

Besides happy birthday texts, you keep getting ones for things you never knew he knew about.

Let’s say that you move into another apartment and a day later, you get the text, ‘Congratulations on your new place.

Hope you’ll spend some great times there.

You look at the number and it’s your ex’s. This may take you by surprise, as you never told him that you were moving into another place.

Is he being caring or is it too creepy? It’s up to you to make the decision but he’s definitely not over you!

9. He almost completely removed you from his social media accounts

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We all know how things work when it comes to dating in the modern online world. 

Every time a relationship ends, you block your ex on all your social media accounts.

It helps you move on faster and prevents you from seeing his face everywhere around you.

But when it comes to your ex, you’ve noticed one thing. He mostly blocked you, but you’re still able to see his posts on one social media profile.

Another thing that he has done is delete all of your photos except his two favorite ones.

What does that mean? Why did he keep those photos and why did he leave you unblocked on Instagram while deleting you from every other platform?

It may not make sense to you but it certainly means something to him.

The reality is that your ex-boyfriend is only acting like he’s over you when actually, he wants to have you back. 

That’s why he’s keeping a couple of your photos online and he’s letting you see his Instagram profile.

He wants you to miss him and this looks like a great opportunity!

10. He keeps doing the things you used to do together

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When you’re unable to move on from your previous relationship, you keep holding on to the things that you did back when the two of you were together.

And you’re ex is doing exactly that. By keeping his old routine intact, your ex-boyfriend is giving you a sign that he’s acting like he’s over you.

However, actually, he’d be the happiest person alive if he could have you back.

If you see him spending weekends the exact same way as you used to, or often visiting your favorite cafe where you first met, you should realize that he’s still not over you.

He wants to accidentally bump into you so he goes to places where you used to go together all the time.

He’s unable to cut you out of his life and he wants to see whether there are any chances for you to get back with him.

11. He tries to talk over the reason for the breakup

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If your ex-boyfriend keeps talking over the reason for the breakup, then you should see that as a sign that he’s only acting like he’s over you.

It’s okay to look for closure and talk about why the relationship fell apart, as this prevents you from making the same mistakes somewhere in the future.

But if your ex keeps calling you all the time and asking you to talk about the breakup, it’s turning into a joke, as there’s no point in talking about it anymore.

Things won’t change just because the two of you have gone over the same topic numerous times.

Still, it makes him feel that you’ll want to get back with him so he’ll keep convincing you until you admit that he’s right.

This can get tiring and he’ll try to repeat the same conversation over and over again until you cut off contact completely or get back with him.

12. He keeps mentioning good memories from the past

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Another sign that your ex-boyfriend is acting like he’s over you is if he keeps talking about your past.

He might text you out of the blue and ask you whether you remember your first date.

Or he’ll call you in the middle of the day to see whether you remember your first trip together.

The reason is quite simple; he wants you back in his life and he thinks that he can lure you in with good memories from the past.

He wants you to remember when you had great times together, thinking that it’ll make you wish for him back.

Trust me, an ex-boyfriend who is over the relationship doesn’t do that. EVER!

13. His new partner shows dislike for you

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If you want to know whether your ex is over you, you can look at his new partner and see the way she treats you.

It’s obvious that at some point, your ex will move on, into a new relationship, but it’s not obvious that his new girlfriend will openly show you that she dislikes you.

Why would she be doing that?

It’s probably because your ex-boyfriend has been talking trash about you and we all know that people spread rumors about others only when they’re not happy with the way the situation turned out.

If your ex had moved on, he wouldn’t be talking to his new girlfriend about you. He would leave you in the past and continue with his life.

But since he still cares about you, he had to do some trash-talking behind your back just to get your attention.

14. You receive late-night phone calls and drunk texts

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One of the clear signs that your ex-boyfriend is only acting like he’s over you is if he drunk-texts you or calls you in the middle of the night.

If he’s thinking of you instead of having the time of his life, he definitely wants you back.

So, if you get a drunk-call that sounds like he wants you back or a text message that was supposed to read ‘give me one more chance‘, you can be sure that your ex isn’t over you.

He’s only acting like he’s over you but sometimes he falls apart and shows you that he still cares about you.

15. He keeps partying all the time

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Anything that is done too much suggests a need to prove something to someone, and if you see your ex-boyfriend partying all night, every night, you should look at that as a sign that he’s acting like he’s over you.

He’s trying to drown his sorrows about you with loud music and a ton of alcohol, but it doesn’t seem to be working.

You’ll still appear in his mind and he won’t be able to stop thinking about you, no matter how hard he tries.

16. He tells you that he wants to stay friends with you

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It’s okay to stay friends with your ex but it usually takes some time to get there.

You need to get rid of all of the previous emotions that the two of you shared in order to be able to remain friends.

But if your ex-boyfriend keeps telling you that he wants to stay friends with you even though you just recently broke up, it’s a clear sign that he’s acting like he’s over you.

He wants to assure you that his feelings for you are gone and that he sees you only as a friend but he’s pushing it harder than he’s supposed to, which gives him away.

This shows that he still cares about you but he doesn’t want to admit it.

17. He praises his own self-improvement

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If your ex-boyfriend keeps seeking validation from you for his actions of self-improvement, it’s more than obvious that he’s acting like he’s over you.

He still has feelings for you as long as he keeps telling you about how much he has improved as a person.

He’s still looking for your approval, even though your relationship is over.

If you could only understand how much he wants you back in his life, it could all be better! 

18. He asks around about whether you’ve moved on

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Did he text your best friend and ask her whether you have moved on after him?

Has he asked around about whether you’re still alone or if you have found someone?

If he keeps doing that, then it’s a sign that your ex-boyfriend is pretending to be over you when in reality, he wants to have you back more than anything.

19. His body language speaks volumes

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If you want to be sure that your ex-boyfriend is giving away any of the signs that he’s pretending to be over you, then look at his body language.

Does he keep touching his face or playing with his hair whenever he’s around you? Do his legs shake or his feet constantly tap the floor?

Maybe he keeps cracking his knuckles or fidgeting while sitting?

These are all signs that he still feels nervous around you and that he’s trying to cover that up, but his body language is giving him away.

Instead of proving to you that he’s over you, he’s actually letting you know that he’s only pretending and that he still cares about you.

To wrap things up, if you want to be sure that your ex-boyfriend is pretending to be over you, then look for these signs.

They will decode his behavior and explain his real feelings to you.

Once you’re sure of where he stands, you can then make a decision on what you want to do next.

Do you want him back in your life or should you let go of him completely?

19 Big Signs Your Ex-Boyfriend Is Acting Like He's Over You But Actually Wants You Back

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