Are you wondering whether he wants to kiss you?
Let’s imagine this: You’re on a first date with a guy you like. He’s charming, handsome, and a true gentleman.
Your date has been great and the only way to end it beautifully would be with a gentle kiss, right? But you don’t know if he wants to do that.
Well, luckily for you, there are signs showing he wants to kiss you, which you shouldn’t overlook.
You may ask yourself whether you’ve made a mistake thinking he wants to kiss you, or that maybe he doesn’t like you.
You shouldn’t worry, though, because in most cases, guys aren’t always obvious about kissing, especially if they’re shy.
Maybe he’s being flirty with you and even so, he doesn’t make the first move and kiss you.
You feel the sexual tension between you two, but you don’t know if he does.
In most cases, your crush won’t be upfront and ask you whether he can give you a big smooch.
That being said, it would be much easier for you if you could read the signs he wants to kiss you.
I know that hanging out with this particular guy makes you happy and you have a great time together.
That’s a good sign your dating could move to the next stage and turn into an actual relationship.
No matter how experienced you are, the first kiss is always nerve-racking and sometimes awkward.
You don’t know how or when it’s going to happen, but if you pay attention to the signs that I’ll mention in this article, maybe it can ease the tension you feel when you’re on a date with your crush.
If he shows you the signs he wants to kiss you, then you won’t need to ask him directly about his feelings toward you.
You’ll already know he likes you if he wants to kiss you.
I know that surprise kisses are the most magical and the most thrilling ones, but sometimes you want to know when one’s coming.
I know you’ve been wondering whether guys really give off vibes that they want to kiss you, and the answer, surprisingly, is yes.
However, some of them are subtle, while others are a little more obvious.
First of all, when you’re wondering whether the guy wants to kiss you, you should definitely observe his body language.
His behavior and body language will change altogether. The interesting part of this is that he won’t even be aware of it, so he can’t hide it.
These are some of the most obvious signs he wants to kiss you:
- His pupils dilate
- This guy hugs you a lot
- He hesitates to leave you
- This guy slowly ‘invades’ your personal space
- He showers you with compliments
- This guy fidgets
- He gazes at your eyes
- This guy mimics your own body language
- He ‘accidentally’ touches you
- This guy stares at your lips
- He puts on romantic music
- This guy’s voice softens
Now let’s explain them briefly, one by one.
1. His pupils dilate
The first sign that a guy is attracted to you and wants to kiss you is when his pupils dilate, which is something that people simply can’t control.
A guy is so mesmerized by your beauty and grace that his adrenaline pumps faster and his pupils dilate.
This is especially noticeable if you’re not in a dark place and you see his pupils dilating.
Let me tell you that you shouldn’t overthink it, as he’s totally into you. He feels like the timing is right and he’s going to kiss you right there and then.
And the truth is, if you’re close enough to see his pupils, then you’re close enough to be kissed.
2. This guy hugs you a lot
You know, guys aren’t that much different from girls. They also think about the first kiss and know it’s a big deal.
If they’re really into you, you can expect the magical moment of you two kissing to happen at the end of the date.
But before that happens, the guy needs to set the mood in order to create the perfect moment.
One way to do so would be with a lot of hugging, but not just with ordinary hugs, but those long, awkward ones.
If he hugs you a lot, that means he’s taking his time to pluck up the courage to kiss you.
He doesn’t pull away quickly, but instead goes in for a long hug.
It might be awkward for you, and you might wonder what he’s doing, but he just wants to kiss you.
The problem is finding the right moment to move in for one.
3. He hesitates to leave you
A guy who isn’t interested in you and didn’t have a great time on your date won’t stick around for too long.
He’ll walk you to your door and quickly get in his car. There won’t be any awkward pauses or anything like that.
But a guy who likes you will try to gather the courage to kiss you.
You might notice that all of a sudden, he’s getting closer to you, lingering around as if he has something to say to you.
But he doesn’t, he just wants to kiss you.
The guy might not have the guts to say that he wants to kiss you, but with a little help and encouragement on your side, maybe you can help him overcome his fear.
Give him a hint that you like him, and he’ll make the first move, trust me.
And if he kisses you, then you can be sure he isn’t just a friend to you, but something more.
Maybe he dawdles in the doorway before he leaves, and that’s because he’s picturing in his mind the right moment to kiss you.
This is one of the cutest signs because even though he wants to do that, he gives you a chance to say you’re not the type of girl who kisses on a first date.
But if you feel the same way he does, you can tell him that you had a great time and he’ll go for it.
4. This guy slowly ‘invades’ your personal space
If you’re comfortable with the guy, you won’t have a problem if he’s getting in your personal space, right?
You have to give him the opportunity to get closer to you, and if he does that, then you can be sure he’s attracted to you.
However, he won’t get closer to you for no reason; he does so to touch or kiss you.
The real purpose for this distance shortening is because he wants to passionately kiss you.
You can’t experience your first kiss with a guy when you’re a few feet apart, am I right?
You might have experienced this in the past, but you didn’t notice that it’s a sign that a guy wants to kiss you.
Or maybe you did, but you didn’t like the guy.
Now that you’re on a date with a guy you like, you can encourage him to make the first move by not backing away when he gets closer to you.
By doing this, you’ll make it easier for the guy to kiss you.
5. He showers you with compliments
A guy rarely showers a girl with compliments on their first date, but if he feels really attracted to you, and can’t resist the urge to kiss you at the end of the night, then he’ll flatter you in all kinds of ways.
He’ll do that to set the mood for what’s going to happen later on.
Maybe he notices your hair color and compliments it, or how adorable you look when your cheeks are flushed, which are both sure signs he really likes you.
And if you were unsure about whether or not the guy wanted to kiss you, now you shouldn’t even think about it. It’s as clear as day.
Obviously, you’re not some random girl whom he took out on a date. He enjoys your company, and he wants you to know that.
He might not say anything funny or teasing at that particular moment, but he’ll definitely flatter you about something if he wants to kiss you.
Maybe he compliments your figure, face, or the way you dressed for your date.
It doesn’t matter, all you have to know is that he’s creating a romantic mood so he can make a move.
6. This guy fidgets
As I said at the beginning, the first kiss can be nerve-racking but also quite a thrilling experience.
Both people are feeling nervous and scared, by which I mean positive nervousness, the butterflies in the stomach kind of nervous, but guys know they have to work up the courage to make the first move and physically connect with the girl.
Now, if you know that the guy you’re dating right now is super-confident around other women, and you don’t know why he’s acting nervous or fidgety, the reason might be because he wants to kiss you.
He’s sending you clear signals that he wants to kiss you and you might not even be aware of them.
Well, his nervousness comes from his fear of approaching you to kiss you.
If he’s acting fidgety, that means he has something else on his mind and isn’t paying much attention to what you have to say.
He’s probably had a million scenarios in his head already, like if you turn your head in the opposite direction, what to do with his hands, and so on.
You simply mesmerized him with your beauty and charm, and now he doesn’t know how to get closer to you, which is why he’s acting nervous and fidgety.
This is a telltale sign the guy wants to kiss you right there and then.
7. He gazes at your eyes
People underestimate the power of eye contact but you shouldn’t. It’s well known that the eyes are the windows to the soul.
This may sound like a cliché, but it’s the truth. You can tell a lot about a guy just from staring at his eyes.
Nevertheless, that’s a topic for another article, as we’re talking about kissing here.
If the guy maintains eye contact for a long period of time, then you can be sure he’s ready to kiss you.
By looking straight into his eyes, you can tell exactly what he wants from you.
Of course, he finds your eyes beautiful, but that’s not the point at this time.
If the guy gives you that look, then he’s definitely going to make a move and give you a passionate kiss.
8. This guy mimics your own body language
It’s not just his eyes or smile that say a lot about the guy. His other body language also plays a crucial role while figuring out his intentions.
Notice his behavior if you’re wondering whether or not he wants to kiss you. Look at his posture, for example.
Does he mirror you? Or maybe he touches you the same way you touched him a few minutes ago?
These are all obvious signs he wants to kiss you, but it’s not just your posture that he’ll mimic. He’ll also mirror your energy and disposition.
He’ll try to adapt his conversation flow to yours, or maybe he’ll show excitement when you smile, or he may lower his voice to match yours.
You can test this theory by deliberately changing your own tone of voice and observing whether he does the same thing.
This is an obvious subtle sign that he wants to kiss you. Most guys who are shy will use this approach without even knowing it.
9. He ‘accidentally’ touches you
A guy who wants to kiss you will suddenly feel clumsy and nervous but he will also find ways to touch you all the time.
He may stroke your hair or touch your arm, or maybe he’ll move a hair from your face while making a joke about it.
The point is, he’ll find any excuse to touch you and to make sure you feel comfortable.
Most guys won’t be too aggressive with touching on the first date because they will first test your boundaries to see how you react.
Don’t worry, though, as if a guy is a gentleman, he won’t go too far. He’ll gently touch your arm or your waist to pull you into him.
That’s when you know the magic is happening, so just enjoy it.
10. This guy stares at your lips
You might feel annoyed if you catch a guy looking at your lips while you’re talking, but don’t be. He’s only mesmerized by your mouth, that’s all.
He might even compliment you on your lips, which is when you know he’s going for it. He’ll lean in and then he’ll kiss you.
If you catch him looking at your mouth, be sure that he’s thinking about a scenario where he’s touching your lips with his.
Maybe he’ll even touch your lips slightly before going in for a kiss, and if so, prepare yourself to be swept away.
11. He puts on romantic music
If he puts on a romantic song with only the two of you in the room, there’s no doubt he wants to kiss you at once.
A guy will rarely make the effort to make you feel comfortable if he doesn’t like you. He’ll simply enjoy the present time and never text you again.
But if a guy puts on a seductively slow song, then you know he’s trying to set the mood for what’s about to happen next.
Don’t expect every guy to do such a thing, but know that there are hopeless romantics out there, you just have to be patient and wait for one.
12. This guy’s voice softens
According to several scientific papers, when a guy really wants to kiss you, he’ll start to whisper his words.
This goes together with passion and closeness.
You know he’s going to make the first move when his voice softens and he whispers there and then that he really likes you.
You can expect that the gap between you two will shorten while he’s doing this because he’s creating the perfect opportunity to kiss you.
So, the next time you’re wondering whether a guy wants to kiss you or not, pay attention to his voice and movements.
It’s a straightforward way to know what to expect at the end of the date.
That being said, how do you get a guy to kiss you?
You should know that sometimes, guys are just shy and insecure about kissing you.
On the other hand, you can always give him certain hints that he won’t make a mistake if he gets closer and kisses you.
But first, you have to break the ice with him.
If you really want to share a deeper connection with the guy you’re dating, you have to make sure he knows how you feel about him, whether you tell him verbally or show him physically.
Don’t be too disappointed if you can’t break the physical barrier first.
It can be awkward to touch a guy on the first date, and you don’t want to be pushy or clingy.
It may take time for the guy to realize what you really want, so don’t be discouraged if he doesn’t notice the hints at first.
Keep trying and make him feel comfortable around you. Eventually, the guy will kiss you after making physical contact.
Another thing you can do when you’re on a date with him is highlight your lips.
You can always draw attention to your lips to make sure he knows you won’t reject him if he goes in for a kiss.
You can add a dash of lipstick or pucker them up, it’s up to you to decide what to do.
This’ll definitely increase your chances of a guy wanting to kiss you and generally, guys don’t back away when they notice this hint.
A guy will for sure get the courage to kiss you if you highlight your lips.
You can also go in for a cheek kiss if you’re brave enough.
There’s a difference between a guy’s kiss on the cheek and when a girl does it.
If you want him to initiate your first proper kiss, you can definitely give him a little push by kissing him on his cheek first.
This is a clear sign that you’re attracted to him and he likely won’t miss it.
Most guys know what it means and then won’t back down from making the first move.
Another hint that you can use is the age-old, “I’m cold,” trick.
Despite hearing about this a thousand times, it actually still works.
You just have to pretend that you’re cold and you want him closer to you to warm you up.
This will trigger his feelings inside and he’ll instantly hug and want to kiss you.
Most shy guys respond to this hint very well because they’ve seen it on social media or in movies so they notice when it happens.
However, if this doesn’t work out, you can always go back to some more basic techniques to get a guy to kiss you.
On that note, it’s also important to know what types of kisses there are and their meanings.
There’s the kiss on the cheek, which means affection and support, despite any physical attraction you might feel between the two of you.
A kiss on the lips means that he’s passionately attracted to you and wants to date you.
Then we have the kiss on the hand, which stands for admiration and a desire for love.
If he kisses you on the hand, then you know he’s romantic and it shows he respects you.
A peck is a short kiss, and it can be on the cheek, lips, or forehead, and can have different meanings.
Maybe the guy likes you but isn’t ready for a relationship yet.
A closed-mouth kiss probably means that you’ve just started dating and that he likes you, although he isn’t sure whether you’re ready for a proper kiss yet.
A slow kiss means passion and attraction, as simple as that. It’s a truly mind-blowing experience if he kisses you like this on the first date.
Most guys won’t have the courage to do such a thing, though if they find the bravery to do so, then you know he likes you and enjoys every second spent with you.
Believe it or not, most shy guys will be upfront and direct about admitting their feelings for you.
The first kiss is something that’ll happen only once, and most girls have a tendency to overthink it.
You just have to clear your mind and let your emotions do the work.