I know when your partner pulls away from you, your mind goes crazy and you expect the worst. You think he doesn’t love you anymore.
Luckily, there are signs he no longer loves you that can help you notice that.
Maybe you think he loves you, but his actions, or rather his behavior toward you, say otherwise.
A woman’s intuition is pretty strong.
Maybe you’re having a hard time comprehending that he might want to break up with you but the little things that he did at the beginning of the relationship are now gone.
Trust me, no matter how hard it is to hear this, it is better to be happy alone than in a toxic relationship with a man who doesn’t deserve you and doesn’t want you in his life.
Figuring out that your significant other, the person you love, doesn’t love you anymore can be heartbreaking.
Breakups are hard, no matter who breaks up with whom. Feelings inevitably get hurt, and the truth is that maybe he doesn’t want to hurt you.
However, knowing those red flags in a relationship can help you figure out your next step.
All of us have dreamed about having a healthy relationship, but ignoring the warning signs can mean your downfall.
We become so focused on the signs that show our relationship is the way we want it to be and ignore those little things.
Before we begin, it’s useful to know that most of the warning signs that he no longer loves you have to do with him not putting enough effort in to begin with.
Whatever the case might be, neither of you would be happy to accept the fact that your relationship is about to fall apart.
Because people are afraid to face the problem and the bitter truth, most people live in the denial they have created.
Accepting the worrying signs and the ugly truth would mean their love life is in a crisis that can’t be resolved.
So, why do people fall out of love in the first place?
Well, the reasons your loved one doesn’t want you anymore could be numerous.
Maybe he feels invisible in your relationship.
Most long-term relationships face this problem because there comes a point in time when one partner feels like they are being taken for granted.
Love becomes this cold thing that you don’t feel anymore.
When you have to deal with this problem, heartbreak is inevitable. No one likes to know that they are not being treated in the proper way.
Maybe you both act more like roommates than lovers now.
Or maybe your relationship was not built on a solid foundation.
The reason why people fall out of love could be because your relationship started off poorly, and all of a sudden, you are being left alone.
Maybe your relationship was the product of an affair or he was just looking for something more casual.
Those types of relationships could never withstand or overcome any real obstacles.
Their foundations are too weak and it’s clear that you are not each other’s soulmate.
Another obvious reason why people fall out of love is that they are in love with someone else.
It is pretty normal to find someone else attractive, but them thinking that they love another person while they are still in a relationship with you is a huge red flag.
If they focus those feelings on another person, it is hard, let alone nearly impossible, to truly love your partner at the same time.
Maybe your relationship has been tested.
As we know, like anything in life, a relationship has to face its ups and downs.
If hardships or difficulties have pulled you away from each other, such a relationship will face a breakup.
Maybe you have lost your job or didn’t get the promotion you needed at work. Such things can shake your bond and really test your relationship.
Sometimes a couple falls apart simply because they cannot work together toward a solution, as they are not on the same page.
Another reason people fall out of love might be because they hold on to grudges.
Having past resentment and holding grudges are some of the worst things to do in a relationship.
Constantly mentioning something from the past and remembering those hurtful situations will tear your partnership apart.
It’s hard to work on your relationship if your partner is constantly bringing up situations where he felt hurt.
It’s okay to talk about them at the time, but a healthy relationship will move on and grow from them.
It could simply be that the attraction is gone.
True love means your partner is always attractive to you. When that is gone, you stop having fun, and your relationship becomes boring.
Physical appearance is part of feeling attracted to someone but it’s the unsaid things that make a difference.
Appreciating your partner and having compassion for them ignites attraction. When those things are gone, breaking up becomes an option.
Now that we have covered why people fall out of love, we can focus on the biggest signs he no longer loves you.
The thing to remember is to recognize these signs by noticing the overall change in his behavior toward you and then get a grip on your own life.
1. He avoids your text messages
When a man wants you and when he is crazy about you, he will make time to send and reply to your texts, no matter what.
Even if he is busy at work or he is at the gym, a man who truly loves you will find five minutes to reply to you.
So, if that is a clear sign that he loves you, then the opposite is also true. Does your man ignore your text messages or ignore you on social media?
It might be a good sign that he has grown tired of talking to you.
While the beginning of the relationship was pretty intense, you always wanted to see each other, and there was a lot of texting back and forth, now it seems like that has disappeared.
It is pretty normal for texting to decrease over time, as you get to know each other better.
But if he ghosts you and disappears for a couple of days at a time, then honey, it is a telltale sign he doesn’t want to hear from you, and maybe he is considering breaking up with you.
2. He gets pretty annoyed with you
As you slowly open up at the beginning of the relationship, your partner learns about those little things that make you great.
And if he loves you, he will find them cute and sweet. Your quirkiness becomes attractive to him.
However, if he no longer loves you, everything about you annoys the heck out of him. Even breathing or doing nothing annoys him.
If a guy no longer loves you, you existing will become unbearable to him.
This is one of the first signs he’s tired of your relationship and it doesn’t take a relationship expert to tell you that.
The negative emotions pile up, and eventually, he will break up with you.
So if your quirkiness was attractive to him in the past and now everything you do frustrates him, you should definitely take it as a big sign your relationship is not working anymore.
Maybe he is having a hard time at work, or he is going through some tough times, but he could always ask his friends for advice.
However, if you can’t pinpoint the exact reason why he is annoyed at you, then maybe he is simply having second thoughts about your relationship.
3. He stops showing affection
Showing affection toward your partner will boost their self-esteem and your love life will blossom.
If you want to make your partner feel special, those little things will make all the difference.
However, if holding hands, gentle kisses, and cuddling have disappeared, these are worrying signs that he no longer loves you.
If he were still in love with you, he would seize every opportunity to touch you and hold your hand.
An obvious sign he no longer loves you is when he stops being affectionate and you notice a tremendous difference in that department.
Like I said before, maybe your partner is going through some tough times and it scares him to open up about his problems to you.
Whatever the case might be, your best solution would be to confront him about it and try to work things out. If not, then it is time to say goodbye to your relationship.
4. He criticizes you
When the words, “I love you for cooking us dinner,” are replaced with, “How badly could you mess up cooking spaghetti?” it is a good sign your partner has fallen out of love with you.
He has become overly critical of you and finds faults very easily.
He tries to diminish your worth and wants to make you feel inferior to him but you should never let his words lower your self-esteem.
If this is happening to you, then you should try to find a way to instantly break away from this pattern and move away from such a guy.
You should practice self-love and try to find your inner happiness.
Believe me, life is too short to spend on someone who doesn’t value everything you have to offer.
Don’t cry over those types of guys. If they don’t see your worth, then someone else will.
In a healthy relationship, your partner will accept your strengths and weaknesses.
He needs to understand that you are also a human being with flaws.
If he didn’t accept that from the beginning of the relationship, then maybe his love toward you was never authentic in the first place.
5. He doesn’t care about how you feel anymore
When your partner becomes distant and cold toward you and dismisses your feelings, he no longer loves you.
Maybe he shows some inconsistencies with this type of behavior.
Maybe sometimes he is harsh and insensitive toward you, and then he might feel guilty that he acted that way and try to be all nice and sweet with you again.
Believe me, those nice and sweet comments that he dishes out will stop eventually, because it’s clear that his feelings are gone.
This hot and cold behavior he displays is because he feels guilty about not loving you anymore.
He feels guilty, but at the same time, he doesn’t have the strength to confess his lack of feelings toward you and end things.
He will try to make you miserable, so your only option would be to break up with him.
I know that this is manipulative behavior from his side, but it is better for you to end things than to be with someone who doesn’t meet your emotional needs.
6. He asks for space
Asking for space when you are in a long-term relationship might solve some problems, but if you only recently started your relationship, and he is already asking for more space, then you are in trouble.
The thing about asking for space is that a man sometimes does this because he likes another woman or he wants to try to get her in the bedroom.
I know it is hard to hear that, but that can be the bitter truth.
Maybe he already met a particular woman or women, and he has already done that behind your back, meaning he has cheated on you.
Men find it difficult to explain their feelings and be upfront.
Instead, they do things that will make you pull you away from them, and eventually, your only solution will be to end things.
It’s not always the case that he has found another woman.
However, if you had a really big fight recently, or you did something that made him angry, then the explanation I just gave you could be your answer.
He simply grew bored and wants ‘more space’ all of a sudden, meaning he doesn’t want to spend time with you.
7. Compliments are scarce
Complimenting your better half means you find them attractive and notice minor differences when they happen.
When he no longer gives you compliments about your appearance, or when you get your hair done or buy a new dress, he has lost interest in you and he no longer loves you.
This is usually the case when he gives you negative compliments about your appearance or if he compares you to other women.
And let’s be real, no one likes to be compared to someone else.
His level of attraction toward you has decreased if he says things like, “That dress looks awful on you,” or, “You gained a few pounds,” or something similar.
You should not spend a minute more on such a guy because he doesn’t see how beautiful and exceptional you actually are.
There are other guys out there who would give anything for a date with you, so why should you spend your time on someone who doesn’t show affection and doesn’t appreciate you.
8. You don’t feel special anymore
There are many signs which show that he no longer loves you, but this one hurts the most.
You spend your time and effort on a person, thinking he will make you feel special, but those hopes fade away and they leave you disappointed.
You are a true gem, an extraordinary girl who deserves to be loved every single moment of every day.
If your partner cannot bring out the best in you and make you feel special, then he doesn’t deserve you.
9. He keeps secrets from you
Picture this for a second: You and your partner are sitting watching a movie, and suddenly his phone rings.
He goes to the other room, grabs his keys and jacket, and runs off, telling you his friends are calling and he is going out.
Sounds familiar? Well, when we talk about having a healthy and strong relationship, trust and honesty play significant roles.
If you live together, you have to share everything, no matter how small or insignificant something is.
However, if he keeps secrets from you or hides his phone every time it rings, it is a warning sign that he no longer loves you.
He simply doesn’t want to tell you anything, because he doesn’t think you are important to him any longer.
10. You have problems with your intimate life
At the beginning of the relationship, the sparks were flying.
You were all over each other, but now you barely touch each other and he seems really unhappy about your intimate life.
He doesn’t want to cuddle, starts ignoring you when you tell him you have issues in the bedroom, and there is no action under the sheets between the two of you.
Those are all signs that he no longer loves you.
11. He stops making compromises
If one person is the only one who works on a relationship, it will have problems.
But why should you make all the plans, sacrifice all of your time, and put all the effort into your relationship, and still feel not appreciated or loved by your partner?
You should not be the one who changes your plans all the time just because it suits him, nor should you accept him as he is, while on the other hand, he criticizes you and tells you how bad you are.
No one likes having to compromise, but it is one of the most important things you must do in order to build a strong relationship.
12. He gets angry at you easily
No one likes it when their partner is angry, let alone if they are the reason why.
However, if your partner is angry for no reason, then I’m sorry to say, but it is one of the worrying signs he no longer loves you.
What was once a happy and great relationship has now become a really stressful and exhausting one.
If he has grown impatient with you and often yells and gets angry for no valid reason, it will feel like he doesn’t love you anymore.
You should never settle for such behavior because it might develop into a toxic relationship.
Now, you might ask, “What to do if he no longer loves me?”
The best thing you can do right now is talk to your boyfriend. Communication is the key to a healthy and strong relationship.
Talk to him about your feelings and needs and about everything that is troubling you.
Let those negative emotions go.
Ask him questions like, “When did you realize you didn’t love me anymore?” or, “Why have you become so distant?” and suchlike.
Try to stay as calm as possible and don’t raise your voice. It doesn’t need to escalate into a full-blown fight.
You are just two human beings trying to make things work. If you don’t get any answers from him, then he might not be worth talking to.
If you have opened up a dialogue, try to find out what he wants to do.
Maybe it is not the case that he no longer loves you, but he is confused about his feelings and wants your help to figure things out.
I know it can be challenging, but sometimes feelings fade and it becomes very confusing.
Even if the feelings fade, sometimes it just needs a spark to feel the same way as you did in the beginning.
Listen to the things he says and try to be understanding. If he doesn’t want to put any effort into your relationship any longer, then it’s not worth saving anymore.
You can always set a timeline for how long you will try to make things work again. And if things stay the same, then it is time to move on.
You may need to consider breaking up.
This is the last thing that you want to happen, I know, but sometimes it is just inevitable.
You can give it as much time as you want, but some people are not meant for each other.
If your relationship does not show any signs of improvement, you can call it quits.
Talk to your partner and see what he thinks. Maybe you two are on the same page.
Maybe he realizes that you two have problems and he wants to try to rekindle the old flame.
Whatever it is you do, a relationship should never feel like a burden to you.
Breakups are never easy, but sometimes they might be the only way we feel happy again.
Take care of yourself and try finding things you enjoy doing and learn how to live your best life. With or without him.