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15 Smoking-Gun Signs A Woman Wants To Sleep With You

What are the signs a woman wants to sleep with you? 

It’s hard to decipher her behavior because you don’t want to assume that she wants something more. Maybe she’s just being kind? 

Wouldn’t it make you look like a hormonal teenager if you assumed her kindness means she wants to bed you? Now that would be embarrassing. 

Good for you that there are a few things that’ll show you right away how interested she is. Her body language will give you a clear sign if you pay close enough attention. 

Maybe it’s not that simple when you’re checking her out constantly. You want her, too. 

That’s why your brain is so foggy and you’re worried that you’ll mess things up. She makes your body react in ways that you can’t control, which is exactly why you’re freaking out. 

The tension is too much to handle. Even on your first date, you knew that you wanted to bring her home with you, but you don’t want to disrespect her or overstep her boundaries. 

So, how do you know if a woman wants the same thing you do? Or should you simply stop reading into things?

Good for you you have me to help you understand this entire fiasco. 

15 signs a woman wants to sleep with you

1. She sends you full-body pics of herself

15 Smoking-Gun Signs A Woman Wants To Sleep With You

One of the obvious signs a woman wants to sleep with you is when she sends you full-body pictures of herself. She takes them in the mirror while accentuating her figure to get you to look at her. 

More often than not she’ll use the excuse that she doesn’t know what to wear. She wants you to pick out an outfit for her. 

That requires you to look at the way she’s standing and what she’s wearing. Bonus points go if she decides to wear something a little revealing. This way you know that she’s not playing around and that she’s serious. 

A woman doesn’t want you to objectify her when she sends you these pictures. If anything, she wants to show you that she’s a sensual being who wants to be appreciated. 

That’s why she’s so open about sending you these pics. She wants you to look at her and understand her silent invitation. 

2. She always tells you when her roommate isn’t home

When a woman wants to sleep with you, she probably won’t outright tell you as much. If you’re still in the friend zone, you may feel like she’s sending you mixed signals because of it. 

However, she wants to take things to the next level. You can be sure of it because she sends you a text saying that her roomie won’t be home for the night. 

You could easily read that as an invite to come over and spend some quality time together. I can tell you for certain that she wants you to knock on her door. 

If you’re still not sure if she’s actually inviting you over to do the nasty, then you could just see this as an invitation to watch a movie. Once you’re confident that she’s actually trying to get you to sleep with her, you can improvise from there. 

Your love life will become so much better once you start taking opportunities such as these. She’ll never tell you straightforward what she wants, so you need to capitalize on these little invitations.

3. She asks if you live alone

When you’re starting to get to know each other, nothing seems like an obvious sign that she wants something more. Especially with the rise of online dating, it’s tough to interpret the actual intentions of the other person. 

However, you don’t need a dating coach to help you identify these subtle signs. You may take this one with a grain of salt, but it should be obvious if she continuously tries to find out if you live alone. 

You know she’s using this question to get you to invite her over. She probably doesn’t live alone, so she’s trying to find a solitary place where you can do the deed. 

Sure, she could just be making small talk with you, I get that. However, once you invite her over and she shows up on your doorstep, you could just ask her what she wants. 

Understand the importance of consent, because assuming that she wants you to touch her could end in both parties being unhappy (to say the least). But, at the end of the day, this truly is one of the telltale signs that a woman wants to sleep with you. 

4. She invites herself over to your place

When a woman wants to bed you, she may not even ask for permission to come over. She’ll just show up at your apartment uninvited (she probably knows she’s welcome). 

Side note: If she’s doing this even though you explicitly told her not to, you may have a problem on your hands. But if you’re okay with this, then you may just get lucky tonight. 

Do you know that scene from the movie Love & Other Drugs? Where Anne Hathaways’ character shows up on the doorstep of the guy played by Jake Gyllenhaal? Well, it won’t be that romantic, but it definitely could end with her coat on the floor. 

This is such an obvious way to invite herself into your bed. Your only job is to open the door. 

5. She asks you to come over to her place

15 Smoking-Gun Signs A Woman Wants To Sleep With You

Not many women are open about this topic because we’ve been conditioned to believe that our physical needs are something to be ashamed of. That’s why she may not be straightforward, but she will invite you over to her place. 

This could happen when you’re separating after the date and you take her home. You’re kissing in front of her doorstep and things get heated quite quickly. That’s why she’s inviting you in – she wants more than just those kisses! 

Once you step into her apartment, she’ll immediately show you what she wants. You may need to make the first move if she’s a little bit shy. 

If you’re already in a long-term relationship with this woman, you may not think much of this. You’ve been over at her place a couple of times and nothing’s ever happened. If that’s the case, you should watch for other signs, too. 

6. She touches you a lot

If you’re not versed in the art of body language, then you could fall into a trap quite easily. However, this is at least an obvious one that you don’t need to think about a lot. 

So, you’re on a date with this woman and she’s continuously touching your hand over the table. She looks at you like she wants to devour you, but she’s only using the tips of her fingers to tease you. 

Please don’t tell me that you’re oblivious right now. 

Even if there’s a group of people around you, you should know what such a slight touch means. It’s a turn-on for you, but the first time it happens, you put it down to coincidence. 

For that exact reason, watch out for the moment when she touches you again. She’ll touch your thigh, your neck, behind your ear, your hair – anywhere she can reach, just to convey her message. 

It’s a surefire sign that she wants you to touch her too. This subtle physical contact isn’t something to be ignored. 

7. She looks seductively from your eyes to your lips

At this point, you know that when a woman looks at your lips, it’s a sign of attraction. And once she starts to lick her lips while also keeping eye contact, you’re kind of losing your mind. 

She’s trying to seduce you!

A woman who wants more than just to be your friend will do anything to make you take the hint. This includes trying to catch your attention even if you’re really trying to keep your focus. 

She’ll look from your lips to your eyes numerous times, simply to get you to understand that she’s up for whatever you have to offer. She’ll do it multiple times until you get the point. 

If you’re not sure about this, then watch if her eyelids are droopy. That’s the look every seductress has up her sleeve when she wants the pleasure you can offer. 

Pay attention to these little things and you won’t mess up your chances with her. 

8. She asks you to dance

One of the signs a woman wants to sleep with you is when she asks you to dance. It’s not just that she’s now really close to you, but she’s also moving her body in rhythm with yours. 

Dance has always been a perfect way to get to know someone’s body before you even take their clothes off. If she’s dancing provocatively while also letting you touch her, then you’ll probably take the same cab home tonight. 

A little dating advice, if I may? Take some dance classes. You need that confidence right now and you can’t mess this up. 

If she sees you have no idea what you’re doing, it could ruin the mood completely. Neither one of you wants that, trust me. 

Even if it’s just a straight-up slow dance, use this moment to silence even the smallest amount of doubt she may have about this. You have her in your arms now, this is your time to shine.  

9. She asks suggestive questions

15 Smoking-Gun Signs A Woman Wants To Sleep With You

It doesn’t matter if you’ve just met on a dating app or if you’re on your first date. When a woman starts asking you suggestive questions, you can safely assume that she wants to sleep with you. 

​She’ll ask you what your favorite color for a woman’s lingerie is and what your craziest hookup story is. This woman doesn’t have a filter and she doesn’t want you to hold back either. 

This will commonly happen when you’re trying to figure out if you’re compatible in the bedroom. She’s not shy to admit that she wants you and you may even get those words directly from her without much effort. 

But be careful. Most of the time, these questions are subtle and ambiguous. She may use words that could be understood in a few different ways. 

If you don’t want to make a fool out of yourself, you could ask her what she meant by the question. Yes, it may make her uncomfortable, but at least you won’t look like an idiot. 

Even then, it’s adorable to watch her blush because you’re so straightforward and she’s not able to do the same. 

10. She leans in to whisper into your ear

Well, that’s an interesting development. Her shirt is a bit too low-cut to think straight, especially when she leans in so close to you. 

You’re trying to keep your head high and to stop your eyes from veering, but it’s so tempting that you don’t know if you’re able to actually hold it together. 

When a woman leans into you to whisper something into your ear, there are so many sensations at once. You can feel her hot breath on your neck and ear, you can smell her wonderful scent, and you can feel her body radiating heat onto yours. 

You’re going crazy from this little moment of intimacy, but I can assure you that she knows what she’s doing. Do you really believe that she’s not doing this on purpose? 

When a woman does this, you can take it as a pretty strong sign she wants to sleep with you. She doesn’t even have to wear provocative clothes, she’s just trying to get a tiny bit closer to you to grab your attention. 

Now, what are you going to do? It’s up to you to move on from here. 

11. She kisses you passionately

One of the signs a woman is desperately trying to get you into her bed is when she kisses you passionately. I’m not talking mere pecks on the lips, but she’s using her entire body to get your attention. 

Her hands are in your hair, her body is almost melting into your own, and both of you are breathless from those kisses. Now that’s not what a goodbye looks like. 

It doesn’t matter if you just ended the date and you’re still in the car making out. She’s obviously telling you that she wants more from you. 

Sometimes, this could also mean that the woman is just very attracted to you. She’s trying to tell you that she enjoys your company just as much as you enjoy hers. It doesn’t have to lead to something more right away. 

But if things continue this way, she does want to sleep with you. Don’t doubt yourself too much – take the next big step (whatever that may be). 

12. She casually drops it in conversation

Women like being pursued. They like to know that the man is taking control of the situation so they can relax. 

Besides that, we’re not really taught to be very upfront about our desires. Our wants and needs have never been so obvious to us so they’re not obvious to others either. 

Especially men. 

That’s why she’ll try to bring it up casually during conversation. She won’t be too upfront about it, but rather phrase it in a way that confuses you for a moment. 

She’ll start by asking you what you think of her, if you find her attractive, or even if you’d sleep with her. This way she’ll know if she can be more confident in her own decision to give herself to you. 

If she’s already certain that she wants this and she doesn’t doubt her needs, she may even come out and tell you as much. Once you start talking about deeper topics, she’ll just throw this into the conversation. 

She’ll tell you that she wants to sleep with you and she’ll make sure that you understand that. A confident woman won’t wait for you to read between the lines, she’ll just go for it. 

I mean, what does she have to lose? You may think that she’s coming off too strong, but that’s exactly what you wanted, wasn’t it? 

13. She doesn’t back away when you touch her

15 Smoking-Gun Signs A Woman Wants To Sleep With You

She doesn’t just stand still when you touch her, she seems to encourage you to continue. You reach out to her to move a strand of hair behind her ear or to pick something off of her dress. 

She welcomes the touch and looks straight into your eyes to challenge you for more. This is one of the signs of a woman who wants to sleep with you because she won’t be shy about it.

If you start touching her hand, she’ll move closer to you. She’ll lean her entire body into the touch because she wants more from you. 

You’re probably just testing the waters. Her skin looks particularly soft tonight and you couldn’t resist the urge to caress it. So here we are, in this situation that you didn’t even think would turn this direction. 

She wants you just as much as you want her. 

Sometimes, you’ll touch her while she’s mid-conversation with one of her friends. She’s so hyperaware of your presence that she doesn’t stutter while talking, but she still leans into you so you can continue. 

14. She tries to put your attention on her body

Women have a few tricks up their sleeves. They usually take advantage of their knowledge of the male psyche. 

This means that she’ll do little things to catch your attention. She’ll play with her jewelry, play with her hair, touch her waist, and so much more. 

You’ll subconsciously follow her movements with your eyes. She’ll become a distraction from the very moment her own hands start to roam her body. 

You lost that battle the moment you lost eye contact with her and started to follow her hands while they moved down her figure. Do you think that she does that without knowing what it’s doing to you?

She knew that you were going to react this way. 

Once you lift your gaze back up to hers, she’ll look at you knowingly. Are you just going to ignore this moment? Hopefully, you understand that you need to invite her back home with you. 

15. She’ll straight-up say it

You’re so occupied with looking for the signs a woman wants to sleep with you that you completely ignore her words. You’re reading into her every move, but you’re not considering what she just told you. 

It doesn’t matter if it’s the first or second date, she wants you, so why should she beat around the bush? At the end of the day, the best thing you can do in order to get what you want is to ask for it. 

Even if you believe that it’s never this easy, it should be with a woman who knows what she wants. I understand why this is so confusing – you’re not used to it. Usually, you have to persuade a woman into doing the deed and you have to play a few games before you get her into your bed. 

This one isn’t like that. She’s different because she’s not afraid of her divine feminine energy and she wants to embrace it. 

Well, has she said it already? Then it’s time to cut the date short and give her what she’s been asking for. 

Final thoughts

More often than not, you’ll start doubting yourself when it comes to women and doing the naked tango. However, your body is able to pick up on these signs with little to no effort. 

You’ll feel like a teenager all over again. 

Just remember that these signs are never a substitute for verbal confirmation. It doesn’t matter if she gives you “the look,” you still can’t assume that she wants to sleep with you. 

Ask her. Only a firm and clear yes can be considered consent. 

The word no, uncertainty, or silence, all mean that she’s not ready for this step in your relationship. Respect this and you won’t have any issues. 

She may even want it more if she sees that you respect her boundaries. Who knows? Seventh heaven isn’t that far away when you fly high.

15 Smoking-Gun Signs A Woman Wants To Sleep With You

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