Think aloud
It’s pretty obvious and straightforward when a guy friend likes you. On the other hand, when a mcoworker has a crush on you, then it can be a little less obvious. Luckily, there are signs a male coworker has a crush on you, so you can solve that mystery once and for all.
Don’t get me wrong, the workplace is a great place where you can meet a bunch of awesome and wonderful people. Some of them you’ll consider your good friends, while you might share a deeper connection with others.
If you think about it, you spend most of your time with these people and you get to know them pretty well. You learn things about their personal lives, so it’s pretty normal for an office romance to flourish in such an environment.
While you may engage in some small talk with some people and consider them as just people you work with, there’s a real chance you can get to meet the love of your life at your workplace.
Depending on the level of attraction, a male coworker might become your next boyfriend.
If you’re wondering about a male colleague who started being flirty with you and asks you a lot of personal questions, you’ll want to know whether he’s doing that just because he’s a nice guy or if he has feelings for you.
Before you even think about engaging in a workplace romance, it’s important for you to know when a guy is being flirty and when he’s just being nice.
I know it’s difficult to decipher a man’s behavior sometimes and that also applies to your work colleague, who seems to have some feelings for you.
You can’t seem to figure out whether he’s falling for you hard or he’s just being nice and wants to get to know you better.
Workplace relationships can be quite complicated, which is why most people would say they’re more complex than other relationships.
I don’t disapprove of romantic workplace relationships at all, but the truth is they can be complicated.
You might be wondering whether there are signs a male coworker has a crush on you? The answer is yes, there are.
It’s important to pay close attention to his body language, as most men express their feelings through theirs.
Those body language signs that they show in their face and posture always tell the truth when it comes to what they truly feel.
It can also be hard to figure out whether a male coworker likes you because most colleagues are really helpful toward each other, which can be mistaken for attraction.
You can create many strong friendships at work but if your male coworker gives you more attention than others, then that’s a sign that he likes you.
Maybe you feel the same way as he does or perhaps you don’t like him.
Whatever you feel, those emotions can have a real impact not just on your friendship or relationship with this guy, but also on your professional life.
Nevertheless, given the amount of time you spend with these people, you shouldn’t be scared if you catch some feelings for a male coworker.
If he has a crush on you, then he may not be totally upfront in telling you that because he’s aware that those feelings should be left outside of work.
It’s important not to jump to any conclusions about whether he likes you or not, as this can affect your professional relationship with him.
Pay attention to the signs a male coworker has a crush on you and you won’t have to wonder whether he does like you.
1. He can’t take his eyes off you
As I said before, body language plays a crucial role when deciphering a man’s feelings, especially if he’s your male coworker.
This can be a big sign that he has a crush on you, since he won’t be so obvious about his emotions and tell you he likes you directly to your face.
You know what they say: the eyes are the gateway to the soul.
And any guy who has a crush on a female coworker won’t be able to take his eyes off her.
If you’re wondering whether or not a male coworker has a crush on you, then pay close attention to his eyes.
Does he spot when you change your hairstyle? Does he notice the color of the shirt you wear every day?
And does he know whom you last talked to before you went on a lunch break?
All these things show you that he pays close attention to you. He remembers all those subtle details because he can’t take his eyes off you.
You may even notice that the way he looks at you is quite different from how he looks at the other women at work.
If you have the feeling like his eyes are following you wherever you go, then know that he has a huge crush on you.
When you two make eye contact and stare at each other for a couple of seconds, he might give you a gentle smile and look away.
That’s a good sign your male coworker has a crush on you.
Men are visual creatures. They’ll be the first to notice a physical change in you, especially if they like you.
And when a guy sees a woman that has everything he desires, he’s going to find it pretty irresistible to look at her over and over again.
2. He asks about your love life (a lot)
There’s normal workplace chit-chat and then there’s a guy asking you about your love life and trying to figure out whether or not you have a boyfriend.
If he gets really personal with his questions, it’s probably because he has a crush on you and doesn’t want to be just a friend to you.
Otherwise, he wouldn’t ask you so many questions about your love life.
Instead, he would stay away from that tricky subject and wouldn’t mention it altogether.
Maybe he snooped around your social media instead, to try to get as much information as possible, just so he can know what your relationship status is.
However, you should be careful about whether or not he’s trying to find out for himself.
Maybe a friend of his finds you attractive and wants him to ask you because he’s too afraid to approach you himself.
​Another telltale sign that he has a crush on you is when he asks you about your weekend plans or how last night was.
He’ll be visibly relieved when he finds out that you were alone or you spent your night with friends.
Whatever the reason might be, if you notice he asks about your love life a lot, then know that he likely has a crush on you.
3. He brings you coffee whenever you need it
We’re used to being taken care of by people who love or like us, right?
Well, if this male coworker brings you coffee for no particular reason, without even asking if you want one, that’s a dead giveaway he has a crush on you.
It actually shows that he wants you and your attention.
That’s why you’ll see him bringing you coffee or any other beverage, even if you didn’t ask for it.
However, be careful. Maybe he’s just being considerate and you’re nothing special to him, which is why you should watch out for other signs, as they might give you the answer you need.
4. He chooses to sit next to you in meetings
Does the guy you suspect has a crush on you choose to sit next to you?
It seems like he always ends up right there beside you, and you can’t seem to shake the feeling that he likes you more than just a friend.
In addition to that, if there are other subtle signs a male coworker has a crush on you from the list that you noticed, then he has seriously fallen for you.
Those meetings that you have all the time give him the perfect opportunity to be as close to you as possible.
He may ‘accidentally’ touch your leg or give you a pat on the shoulder just so he can establish that physical connection with you.
He’ll use this opportunity to be a bit flirty with you in a not so obvious way. Either way, it’s a sure sign a male coworker has a crush on you.
When you think about it, it’s quite cute what he’s doing just to get your attention and let you know he likes you.
He wants to show you he’s attracted to you.
5. He finds ways to touch you ‘accidentally’
Maybe he bumps into you quite a few times during your work shift and when you’re on your lunch break.
You see how his hand gently touches yours and how quickly he takes it back.
Or when he compliments you about your new outfit, he’ll use that opportunity to say, for example, “Let me feel the material,” and oh boy, let me tell you that he doesn’t actually care what your outfit is made out of.
Unless you really think that he’s interested in the material or you strongly believe that it’s a coincidence that you two are always bumping into each other in the hallways, then he’s definitely drawn to you.
When you have a crush on someone, it’s normal to be naturally drawn to them.
6. He’s always eager to help you
Let’s say you have a male coworker who’s always there for you and makes your tasks easier to complete.
Do you really think he only considers you a friend?
This guy is a male colleague who doesn’t just help you but guides you or lets you in on some secrets of the job.
When you need help, he’s the first person to come to you and assist you.
If you notice that he’s always there for you, then that’s a clear sign he has a crush on you.
He does everything he can so that you don’t ask any other colleague for help other than him.
Trust me, he likes you and he uses those opportunities to show you how supportive he actually is.
He wants to be there for you when you’re in trouble.
His ultimate goal is to ignite a romantic spark between you two during the time you spend together at work.
But that’s not all. He might go as far as to pretend that you need help, just so he can spend some extra time with you.
7. He sends you text messages outside of work
Text messaging between coworkers about non-work stuff is rare nowadays. Everyone seems to want to separate their private and working lives.
Your coworkers might add you to their social media profiles if you have worked with them for a long time but why does this guy add you on his and keep sending you text messages outside of work?
Well, that’s an obvious sign he has a crush on you. He’s trying to establish a connection with you outside of your workspace.
Luckily for you, he’s aware that nothing should happen in the workplace itself.
He knows that and that’s why he’s trying to work his magic outside of work.
On the other hand, if it’s normal for you to connect on social media with your colleagues, then you might not find this as big of a thing.
However, if he unexpectedly sends you text messages at night asking how your day has been, then there might be more to it than you originally thought.
If his messages are thoughtful and well-mannered, then that’s another sign a male coworker has a crush on you.
8. He notices and remembers small details about you
It’s a well-known fact that girls pay attention to every single detail about the guy they like. But did you know that men do the same as women?
If he notices and remembers every single detail about you, and that includes your new haircut or the fact that you’ve changed your perfume, that means he has a crush on you.
Also, another thing that he’ll do if he likes you is remember that you posted something a couple of days ago, as maybe you went on a trip, and he’ll ask you about it.
That’s another sign a male coworker has a crush on you.
Better yet, if he remembers your birthday and gives you something you really, really wanted, then you’ll know he genuinely likes you.
9. He finds ways to hang out with you outside of your workplace
It’s absolutely normal for you to take the friendships that you’ve created with some of your colleagues beyond the workplace.
It’s not that rare to see or hear about how a bunch of colleagues go out and have a few drinks, have lunch together, and so on.
However, if this particular guy has a crush on you, then he’ll try to find ways to hang out with you alone outside of work.
He may ask to be your gym buddy or invite you to go over some ‘work-related’ stuff over dinner.
If he does these things, then he sure doesn’t just consider you a friend.
You even might be the first person he approaches before inviting anyone else to an after-work get-together.
He’s just working up the nerve to ask you out on a date, that’s all.
If you’re still unsure whether or not he has a crush on you, then notice his reaction the next time you reject his offer.
Does he look sad and disappointed? If so, then you know for sure he has feelings for you.
10. One of the obvious signs a male coworker has a crush on you is when he’s overly protective of you
One of the biggest signs that a male coworker likes you is the fact that he always takes your side whenever you’re in trouble.
He gets overly protective and the ‘hero instinct’ in him starts to kick in.
Whether it’s helping you stand up for yourself in meetings or when someone talks badly about you behind your back, he’s there to protect you and defend your honor.
And the best part is that he’s not pretending to be like that, as that’s actually who he really is; a real man who knows how to protect the woman he likes.
He couldn’t remain quiet if someone talked badly about you even if he wanted to.
Instead, he defends you and goes to extreme lengths to let everyone know how great you are.
11. He can’t help but shower you with compliments
Obviously, this isn’t a subtle sign, but if he compliments you all the time then you know he has a crush on you.
However, don’t think that he’ll just give you some generic compliments. No, he won’t.
He won’t be like other guys who’ll give you a common compliment such as, “You look great,” or something similar.
He’ll invest more time and effort so that you know how much he likes you.
He might say how he loves your cute and unique smile or how elegantly you look while walking down the hallway.
If he gives you these types of thoughtful compliments, then you know he’s paying attention to the finer details of who you are.
He’s simply mesmerized by your beauty and he can’t help himself but compliment you every time he sees you.
12 He’s playful with you
Can you say that the two of you get on really well? Perhaps you have some inside jokes that no one else in your workplace understands?
If you do, then the two of you have created a deeper bond and he certainly has a crush on you.
It’s one of those subtle signs a male coworker has a crush on you that you might not be aware of.
He jokes around with you because he wants to show you he has a funny side too and that’s why he’ll be more than happy to crack a few jokes when you’re near him.
He’ll probably blush and stutter every time he does.
If he has a crush on you, you’ll catch him staring at you intently while he’s telling you an inside joke.
He does that because he’s waiting for your reaction so that he can give you a smile and continue making you laugh.
He might even give you a funny nickname just to tease you a little bit. And we all know that men love to tease and love to be teased.
13. He changes shifts to match yours
There’s zero chance that he would get the opportunity to see you if you were working opposite shifts.
This is why he’ll try to arrange his so that both of you are working at the same time, and he’ll do that as often as possible.
You’ll suddenly notice how he’s always at work the same time as you, and you’ll wonder whether this is intentional or not.
Well, let me tell you that it’s all part of his plan to get your attention.
In addition to that, if he offers you a ride home or asks to join you when you’re working late, then you know that he’ll do everything he can to be your boyfriend.
You can tell by the way he behaves toward you whether his feelings for you are genuine or not.
If he uses every opportunity to spend some time with you in your work environment, then the chances are he’ll do the same if you start dating.
14. He asks you out
Well, if you haven’t noticed by now, then this sign says it all. If he asks you out, then you know he’s trying to have an office romance with you.
He doesn’t want to hang out with you and a bunch of other coworkers, but he wants to give you his utmost attention, so he’ll ask you out on a date.
After finding out that you’re single and ready to mingle, he asks you out and now you don’t have to wonder anymore whether he has a crush on you or not.
He definitely likes you!
And who knows. Perhaps your male coworker will end up being the love of your life!
