“I’m thinking she doesn’t love me anymore!
What do I do?” I have been asked this question by so many men already that I think that I could reply to it in my sleep.
Very often, men don’t pay much attention to their partner’s behavior, but they feel like something is wrong.
Something simply doesn’t feel right in your relationship and there you are wondering why it’s happening and whether there is a way to fix it.
Either way, there is a list of things that can help you win her back and show her that loving you isn’t hard at all.
You firstly have to understand that all relationships go through tough times and that love simply isn’t enough to keep a relationship going.
Having a relationship requires a lot of work and dedication, so I want you to know that without it, you won’t be able to win her heart back.
You will be able to win her back if you try hard enough and never give up on the love you have for her.
There isn’t a perfect relationship out there, because there isn’t a ‘one shoe fits all’ type of solution.
We’re here to help you find the possible reasons why she doesn’t love you anymore and how you can work on it.
Are these the first signs that show she doesn’t love me anymore?
You have been noticing a difference in her behavior and you are trying to understand what’s happening.
She doesn’t smile as much when she’s with you and you know that you’re not making her happy any longer.
Does this mean she doesn’t love you anymore?
She might just be moody and something might be on her mind that doesn’t allow her to show her love for you.
You can quite easily catch the early signs that she no longer loves you, so let us show you what you should look out for.
1. She doesn’t have time for you anymore
When you love someone, your initial thought is to always make time for them. The love of your life is always your biggest priority.
For that exact reason, if she doesn’t have time for you anymore, for reasons that just sound like excuses, there’s a good chance she doesn’t love you any longer.
At the beginning of the relationship, she would do whatever it took to spend time with you, but recently, it doesn’t seem like that anymore.
She always uses these lame excuses for why she can’t spend time with you.
Of course, if the reasons are valid, for example, if someone very close to her is sick or she has a job that requires a lot of her attention, you have to understand her.
On the other hand, if she doesn’t use these reasons but rather says things that don’t seem too important, she is just finding excuses for why she doesn’t want to spend time with you.
2. She avoids being intimate with you
A good sign she doesn’t love you anymore is if she avoids being intimate with you at any cost! She doesn’t even give it a thought.
If you make a move on her, to at least kiss her or hug her, she always pushes you away.
She can’t seem to understand your need for physical intimacy and she ends up hurting your feelings.
At the beginning of the relationship, she would always show you her love in every way possible.
Currently, she doesn’t allow you to touch her at all. Cuddling has become a struggle in itself.
When you go to sleep together, she doesn’t allow you to hold her and she gives you some lame excuse.
If you have always known that she doesn’t like cuddling, it’s not that deep; she doesn’t like it and you should respect that.
However, if she used to love cuddling but has become very distant from you, it’s a fair sign she doesn’t love you anymore.
3. She is indifferent
They say that there is a difference between hate and indifference and that indifference is worse.
When someone hates you, they have a very strong feeling associated with you, but indifference is something else.
When someone is indifferent, they simply don’t care what happens between you two. They lack any kind of sympathy or concern toward you.
You can see her indifference when you tell her something sad or happy that happened to you.
It’s obvious in the way she fakes a smile, listens half-heartedly to what you tell her, and simply continues what she was doing beforehand.
You don’t see any type of excitement in her eyes, no matter what you do for her.
There isn’t even any concern when you tell her about something that stresses you out.
You can see the way she fakes a response or an emotion and then goes on with her day like nothing ever happened.
4. She talks negatively about you
When your girlfriend starts talking negatively about you, it’s an obvious sign she’s falling out of love with you.
She doesn’t love you anymore and her friends have to hear about it.
You might have heard what she has said about you from people who are close to you, even though she has never mentioned those things to you.
The things that she says about you are hurtful and you know if she tried talking to you about them, you would have worked on it.
You would have given her the necessary space and an ear to listen, just to show her that you love her.
There isn’t a reason for you to not work on your relationship.
However, she still chooses to gossip about you and your relationship with other people instead of confronting you.
5. You constantly fight
Of course, every relationship has its moments.
You will find yourself in so many instances where you will forget why you’re even fighting, but you still continue.
Recently, there have been more and more arguments between the two of you.
She always finds something wrong with your relationship and she yells at you, and makes a scene.
You try to defend your actions but she doesn’t seem to listen to you one bit.
Instead, you fight more than you ever have, since the beginning of your relationship.
How long can you keep going until you’ve had enough? This is a huge sign that she doesn’t love you anymore.
She doesn’t listen to you and there are always things you two can fight about.
6. She flirts with other people
I know that some people don’t think of flirting as cheating, but there is always a certain intention when we flirt.
We want to appeal to someone in the best possible light and we are not ashamed to flirt with them. We just want to get a reaction from that person.
If your girlfriend starts to flirt with someone and it even gets to the point where you catch her doing so, she doesn’t love you anymore.
She knows that you wouldn’t approve of it but she still does it anyway.
Even though she knows that she will inevitably lose you by flirting with others, she doesn’t seem to mind that much.
Is she cheating on you? It’s a fair question to ask and it’s the clearest sign that she doesn’t love you anymore.
Can you imagine your partner being unaffected by how hurt you’d be because of their actions? There is no love involved in that.
She doesn’t love me anymore, but I have no idea what I’ve done wrong!
She has always been such a loving and caring person toward you since the beginning of the relationship.
You have just now started noticing that she doesn’t love you anymore, by the way she behaves.
Something in your relationship has changed. Whether it’s your behavior or attitude or it has nothing to do with you at all.
There are so many things that could affect the way someone perceives you and in certain instances, it’s not your fault.
But what if it is your fault that she fell out of love with you? What did you do? Well, here are a few possible answers to your questions.
1. You have become too possessive of her
Everyone likes their space. If you have become overly possessive of your partner, that can be very detrimental to your relationship.
Love isn’t shown by possessiveness but by your willingness to trust your partner even when you’re not around.
Being a possessive and jealous boyfriend simply isn’t attractive to anyone. It’s toxic and borderline annoying.
If you don’t trust her enough to let her live her life without constantly having to look over her shoulder, then you really have to work on yourself.
You have to figure out why you’re possessive and how to change that.
2. You’ve become too clingy
Being clingy is just a clear sign that you are extremely insecure. She doesn’t love you any longer because
she can’t do anything without you nagging her because you want to tag along.
It’s weird how your boyfriend can become a child when he doesn’t get what he wants.
Being too clingy is just going to annoy her and you’re guilt-tripping her into staying by your side.
She doesn’t even enjoy work because she knows that you’ll be all pouty when she gets home.
If she wants to go out with her friends, you’re right by her side, ready to go with them. This really isn’t OK.
3. You are not taking your relationship to the next level
One of the possible reasons why she doesn’t love you anymore can be because you aren’t taking your relationship to the next level.
She might feel like you two are very stagnant in your relationship and she doesn’t like that.
Did she want you to propose but you’re still waiting to do so? Are you planning to get married but you’re slacking off?
I know that not every woman out there is in a relationship just to get married.
However, if you as her partner don’t seem to acknowledge the importance of it while she is waiting for it, then it is a problem.
It can look like you don’t care about her enough to propose to her or marry her.
That can be very discouraging and demotivating. She won’t feel like she has a future with you.
4. There is someone else in her life
You might have done nothing wrong or you might have done everything wrong. At the end of the day, it’s her decision.
However, one reason why she no longer loves you can easily be that she already has someone else.
That person takes up a lot of her time and effort so she has none left for you.
Does she seem irritable when she’s around you, but she smiles when she’s texting someone?
Has she lied to you about whom she was going out with? Well, she probably has someone else she is slowly but surely falling in love with.
You can’t blame yourself for it and you shouldn’t want to win her back after this. There isn’t any way you can stop her from loving someone else.
Also, you should know your own worth. If she has someone else and chooses them over you, let her go.
You deserve so much better than a backstabber. You deserve someone who will love you and not leave you for someone else.
5. You don’t keep your promises
Seems trivial, doesn’t it? The thought that someone would stop loving you because you don’t keep your promises?
Promises are a huge deal to many women and breaking a promise can make them believe you don’t care about the relationship and they will move on.
If you don’t listen to what she says and ignore things that are important to her, of course she’ll stop loving you.
If you tell her that you’ll go out together, don’t leave her hanging. She sees your effort in how many promises you are able to keep.
However, if there aren’t many kept promises, she’ll know that you’re not serious about your relationship.
She doesn’t love me anymore, but can I try to fix it?
Can she fall in love with you again? Can she choose to give you one more chance and try to love you properly?
The answer to both of those questions is a big fat yes.
She can love you again if you make sure to follow a few easy tips to figure out where you two stand.
This will of course mean that you will have to confront her about your suspicions and actually talk things through.
You are more than capable of actually discussing things with her to win her back to be by your side.
1. Have a game plan
Think of her as a little kitten right now. If you don’t approach her slowly, she will run away.
I know that sounds silly, but have a plan for how you’re going to talk things through with her.
Communication is your first step so try to figure out when and where you’ll both feel most comfortable talking about this.
Create a safe environment where she won’t feel attacked, but rather understood.
Make sure to get all your points across. Tell her how you feel and why you’re suspicious that she doesn’t love you anymore.
2. Listen to what she has to say
After you have told her everything that has been on your mind, give her space to talk and just listen.
Hang on to her every word. This will show her that you genuinely care about her.
She will tell you everything she has been thinking and feeling.
It’ll get to the point where she will tell you what you have done wrong, but don’t get defensive.
Listen carefully and assess the situation. After you’ve heard her side, make sure to know how you want to proceed.
3. Promise to do better and stick to your promise
If she says she doesn’t love you anymore but she wants to try harder because she believes that she can fall in love again, make sure to tell her you’ll work on this together.
You have to make sure she knows that you will stick to your promise and give her every reason to fall in love with you again.
Show her that you can be the man she fell in love with and that you two will work as a team.
If she needs space, make sure to allow her that.
There are people out there who simply love to have some time apart from their partner so they can reconnect again later.
If she tells you that she needs a break or something, don’t be opposed to the idea right away.
This can be a great opportunity for both of you to collect your thoughts and try to become closer afterward.
Of course, this can be a very sensitive period of time, but define what is and isn’t OK for you both during this stage so that you can both be happy.
4. Respect yourself, even if she doesn’t love you
You won’t win her back by whining and clinging to her. That is what drew her away from you in the first place.
Respect yourself enough to know when and how to end things, even if it hurts like hell.
When someone you hold very dear doesn’t reciprocate your feelings, it can get very frustrating.
Her absence will hurt and the healing process alone will take you quite some time.
However, all that will be worth it if it means respecting yourself enough to know when it’s the right time to walk away.
I know that you love her, but sometimes love simply isn’t enough to keep someone by your side, no matter how hard you might try.
Don’t put yourself down, because you don’t deserve to be treated like that.
You have to respect yourself, because if she crosses your boundaries or breaks her promises then it’s your time to walk away.
5. Stop focusing on her
Have you ever heard that women go after men who always have their own thing going on rather than men who obsess over them?
Well, she might be one of those women.
Shift your focus from her to your own life, to your own goals and dreams.
Stop making her your biggest priority and turn to yourself. Stop focusing on her.
Pick up old hobbies, learn new things, and reconnect with other people.
Instead of staying at home and waiting for her to come back to you or to fall back in love with you, go out.
Live your own life and show her how much fun it can be to be part of it. You will make her wish to become a part of that life again.
Conclusion
If she doesn’t love you anymore, it might seem like the world is ending. You feel the way your heart is breaking under your ribcage.
That is what happens when you become too comfortable around someone and you stop putting the effort in.
You both felt comfortable. Because of that, you have found yourself in this situation where you have forgotten your own worth.
If she doesn’t love you anymore, it doesn’t mean that no one will ever love you again.
You will find someone who won’t love you only under certain terms and conditions, but will rather love you unconditionally.
They won’t mind giving you all of their time and attention.
You won’t have to doubt their love because they will make sure to show you how much they love you.
There will be hard times, of course, like in every other relationship, but you will know that both of you will work things out.
Because of that, the fact that your current partner doesn’t love you anymore shouldn’t be the end of your world.
It’s just one more learned lesson, one more obstacle in your life that can lead you to the right destination.
You can’t make someone love you and you shouldn’t want to.
You can’t make someone love you through loving them harder, especially not if they have already decided to stop loving you.
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