Think aloud
“She blocked me on everything. What does it mean?”
The question that’s been bothering you ever since you’ve found out you can no longer contact her. You constantly search for the answer but you can’t really wrap your head around the “why.”
“Is she mad at me? Was it something I did? Maybe she really doesn’t love me anymore and wants to close that chapter of her life?”
All these questions are valid since it can be very difficult to understand why your ex-girlfriend blocked you not just on social media but everywhere else as well.
More often than not, ex-partners end up on the list of blocked people. This is especially true in today’s dating scene when we’re easily connected with others through various social media platforms and other apps.
If your current girlfriend becomes your ex-girlfriend, there’s always a chance she might block you on everything. Besides deleting your phone number and going no-contact, she might choose to get rid of your presence on her social media too.
Unfriending and ignoring your texts and calls don’t sound as intense as blocking you, so she decides on the latter option. And going through an intense breakup can force a woman to do such a terrible act.
However, now that you’re just another one of her exes, it still stings and you’re hurt by her actions. After all, you planned your future with her and she chose the easy way out.
It’s not that she cut off contact with you that’s really hit you. It’s the fact that she blocked you on everything and proved to you and herself that you no longer have any place in her life whatsoever.
Why did she block me on everything?
I understand that all these negative thoughts are stacked in your mind and that you’re only looking for a way to get closer to her.
But first things first: Why did she block you on everything? What are the possible reasons behind her decision? She could’ve not contacted you at all, but she opted for this move, and you’re not really sure why.
You’ve been thinking about the last times you heard from her and all those conversations make you even angrier and frustrated. You’re an emotional wreck and you can’t seem to move on.
She was your best friend, your lover, your everything. Then out of the blue, she blocked you and it seems everything you two shared means nothing to her.
It’s such an immature move and you never thought your ex was capable of it. And yet, here you are looking for your answer. Before I get into details about how you can win her heart back (if you’re thinking about it), let me first explain why she decided to take this step in the first place.
1. She wants to move on from you
One of the most common reasons your ex might block you on WhatsApp, Snapchat, Tinder, or any other social and dating app could be that she simply wants to move on.
When your long-term relationship gets terminated, it’s hard to move on with your life. You contemplate what the hell happened and try to find a way to get back together.
However, as time heals all wounds, so do emotions change over time. Maybe your breakup happened a couple of months ago and she’s since found a way to live without you.
If that’s the case, then she’ll definitely block you on everything because she doesn’t consider you her number one guy anymore. She knows that if she allows you to see her posts and vice versa, that would only set her back.
I understand that you’re hurt because of the breakup, but what’s even harder is to see that your ex-girl blocked you. Maybe you want your ex back and the last thing you need right now is to be denied the opportunity to contact her.
But ask yourself: Is this really what you want? Do you even need her? Or can you find happiness within yourself and move on as she did?
2. She’s angry at you
There could be various reasons your ex might be angry with you and therefore decided to block you.
Maybe you were in a long-distance relationship and she couldn’t take it anymore or she didn’t know how to handle the pressure that comes with it. As a result, she blocked you because she had no more energy or will to wait for you or to fight with you.
Perhaps you blamed her for something she didn’t do, like texting another guy. Or you accused her of spending more time on her work than with you. The scenarios vary greatly.
Maybe both of you knew that this wasn’t going to work out and the last time you heard from each other, you had a big fight and she told you she wasn’t able to take it anymore. She didn’t have the strength to keep it going because the same problems kept resurfacing, so she wanted out.
So after you officially broke up, she blocked you on everything because the anger was too much to deal with. She knew that if she kept talking with you that would hurt both of you and she didn’t want that.
Therefore, blocking you seemed like the best option and that’s why she did it.
In that case, don’t be surprised if she texts you the next day or two. Once her emotions settle down and she realizes that she’s made a big mistake, she might unblock you and give you a second chance.
3. She wants to keep her distance from you
Did your breakup end on good terms or did you have a big argument? Maybe you’ve said some things you didn’t want to and everything went haywire? It could be that in minutes, your significant other turned a new page and decided to be your greatest enemy?
If that’s the case, then she’ll block you from everything because she wants to distance herself from you. She needs some time and space for herself and doesn’t want to see any signs of your existence anywhere around her.
She’ll block you on all of the platforms there are because she can’t stand to look at your face since it reminds her of a time when she was happy with you.
At first, it may seem to you like an unnecessary move, but this could be the best choice for both of you. If you continued talking to each other, there’s a possibility that your fight would’ve ended much worse than it actually did.
All that anger would’ve crept up on you and things could’ve escalated at one point.
But you shouldn’t worry too much about it. As days go by, the anger you feel toward each other will lessen and both of you will calm down. You might even give your relationship a second chance.
​The best relationship advice that I can give you right now is to expect the unexpected.
But from now on, don’t seek validation from her, and always hold your ground. Also, keep in mind that if your ex blocked you on everything, that means you won.
4. She’s intentionally trying to hurt you
You were scrolling through your social media all day when, all of a sudden, you realized that your ex blocked you on everything. As awful as it sounds, she could be doing this to you because she wants to hurt your feelings and nothing more.
She knows that you still care about her and that this move will hurt you the most. And when a woman who used to be your girlfriend chooses to block you on social media, it’s definitely one of the worst things that could happen to you.
She’s perfectly aware that you’ll stalk on her and that you’ll wonder about the reasons behind her decision. You’ll keep telling yourself that it’s all your fault and you’ll think about ways on how to turn the tables around.
And honestly, those are all things she wants you to do. She’s making you question your own worth. She’s indirectly controlling your own thoughts and actions.
She wants you to feel sorry for all the bad things that happened between you two. And even if she was the one who dumped you, she still wants you to suffer.
Also, she’s ghosting you because she wants to make you be the bad guy and shift all the blame on you. But keep in mind that both parties are responsible for what happened.
You can’t allow her to influence you now that she’s no longer part of your life. Don’t give her the satisfaction of knowing that she succeeded in her quest of bringing you to your knees.
Her actions are just a reflection of her, so don’t even bother looking for an excuse for her behavior. Focus on yourself. She isn’t worth your time or energy. Your life is better without her anyways.
5. She’s already dating someone else
There’s a possibility that your ex started a new relationship or is dating someone else and doesn’t want you to find out about it.
Maybe she still cares about you and wants to protect your feelings. Or it could be that your relationship ended recently, which makes it suspicious that she’s already found someone new.
If this sounds familiar to you, then the reason she’s acted all weird for the last couple of months was that she was probably cheating on you with another man.
In that case, she believes that blocking you prevents you from seeing the truth and finding out that she’s already moved on after you. The truth is, she doesn’t know how to express herself properly and can’t admit that she’s no longer in love with you.
So, instead of confronting you as a normal human being should, she chose to hide herself and her new man from you. But that way, she only rubs salt into the wound and makes the situation even worse than it is.
She blocked me on everything. What should I do next?
Now that you know the possible reasons she blocked you on everything, the worst mistake you could do is to ignore the truth to avoid the pain that comes afterward.Â
Accept the things as they are and don’t delude yourself.
“But she blocked me on everything. What can I do about it? Can I call her from a different number? Should I drive to her house and ask her to explain herself? Or should I ignore her and wait for her to reach out to me?”
Well, it’s never easy to answer these questions since your next move depends on why she blocked you in the first place.
If she’s already dating someone else, then there’s no chance that you’ll ever get her back, even if you turn up at her doorstep with a huge bouquet of flowers.
Sometimes, all those lingering feelings and words you never had the opportunity to express can make you do unthinkable things. You might be pretending that you’re over her and post tons of pictures of yourself having the time of your life, but deep inside you know that you’re suffering.
Instead of pretending to be someone you’re not, here’s what you should be doing if your ex-girl blocks you on everything.
1. Stay calm and collected
There’s no need to exaggerate because things could escalate very quickly if you lose your cool. After all, you’re not the first man on planet earth who’s been blocked by his ex.
Remember that overthinking won’t lead you anywhere. If anything, it just prevents you from being able to plan your next move. Your mind will be in a constant mess and that won’t do you any good.
You might even start blaming yourself even though you did nothing wrong. Living with regret is something you’ll never like.
Give yourself enough time to collect your thoughts and don’t forget, you have the upper hand now. There’s plenty of other fish in the sea.
Even if she doesn’t come back to you, that doesn’t mean it’s the end of the world. It means that she wasn’t your soulmate in the first place and sooner or later, she would have left you for another guy.
Blocking you is a blessing and not a curse. Maybe you’ve saved yourself from experiencing heartbreak all over again. Have you ever thought about that?
2. Hold your head up high and don’t try to contact her
At times, you’ll feel like everything is lost and that the only thing you need right now is to hear her voice again. You believe that her words will comfort you somehow and that the moment you see each other, you’ll both run into one’s arms and everything will be fine.
I’m sorry to be the one to burst your bubble, but it’s unlikely this is going to happen to you. Life is not a fairy tale, believe me. No matter how hard it is to ignore her, even if she loves you, that’s the only healthy thing you can do right now.
It’s obvious that she doesn’t feel like talking to you. She’s not even interested in seeing your face again. Otherwise, blocking you would never have been her move.
In this case, hold your head up high and respect her wish. Let her do whatever she pleases and don’t try to contact her. You’ll only feel worse and the emotions you had for her will resurface.
You got to show her that you’re not desperate and that you won’t sit around in your room all day and wait for her to text you again. You’re not the kind of a man who begs for a woman’s attention and love, am I right?
Maybe your ex wants you to feel pain and anger, but you’re in control over your own emotions. Don’t let her win this game!
3. Don’t try to pass her a message through mutual friends
Now that you don’t have access to any of her social media or her phone number, it’s almost impossible to contact her. But you might start asking her friends or your mutual friends to pass along a message to her.
However, no matter how hard you want to have a face-to-face conversation with her, you shouldn’t let yourself get to the point where you’re involving others in a mess that you and your significant other have made.
If she doesn’t speak to you, then why should you beg others to get hold of her? Don’t stoop to that level and instead, keep your dignity and ignore her too.
After all, your happiness doesn’t depend on her and one phone call won’t magically solve your problems or change her emotions.
4. Work on becoming a better man
The moment your ex blocks you, your entire world suddenly comes crashing down. You think that you’ve done something terrible and that it’s your fault she’s no longer with you.
But truthfully, the post-breakup period is the perfect moment to start rebuilding yourself and working on your flaws.
You must redirect all of that bad energy to all the other aspects of your life that need improvement. Try to become a better man for the next girl who comes your way.
Work on increasing your confidence, physical appearance, and emotional strength. You have all the time in the world now to do all the things that make you happy and fulfilled. And before you know it, your ex-girlfriend will be just a distant memory who helped you change your life for the better.
That way you’ll prove to yourself and to others that you’re worthy of love and that you’re a real man who knows what he wants in life.
Remember that you don’t owe her anything. Even when she contacts you again after bumping into you somewhere, don’t let that impact you in any way.
The best medicine for a breakup is to be satisfied with yourself.
5. Don’t stalk her!
“Ever since she blocked me on everything, I feel totally lost.”
It’s easy to fall into the temptation of stalking your ex-girlfriends to see what she’s doing once she blocks you on everything.
It may be through your friends’ accounts or you might even decide to create a burner account to spy on her. But you have to stay strong and never allow yourself to do this.
I get that you’re quite devastated right now, but there’s a reason your relationship ended. And even though you don’t see it clearly yet, there’s also a reason she blocked you on everything.
Once you acknowledge and accept the truth, you’ll realize that you weren’t meant to be together forever and that being with her would only prolong the inevitable.
She blocked me on everything. Does this mean it’s over between us?
The reality is that you’re not in a relationship anymore. You have to keep your dignity and not contact her again.
You acted maturely and showed her the way ex-partners should be treated, even if your breakup was chaotic.
Just because you both realized that you can’t function together anymore, it doesn’t mean that you should go and block her. Yes, she hurt your feelings, but you’re both mature adults and you shouldn’t resort to childish games.
Blocking you can feel like a slap in the face, but the truth is she’ll spend more time thinking about you than you’ll spend thinking about her.
She’ll always question her decision even after you found someone new. But there’s no need to get stuck in the past – instead, focus on your future!
Go out there and enjoy your life to the fullest. You never know what will happen next. Maybe she unblocks you and tries to contact you again. And if that’s the case, the only thing left to do is to wish her all the best and move on.
