Every relationship has its ups and downs. Nobody expects you to be in a perfect relationship, as perfection doesn’t exist.
However, if you have ever woken up feeling sad, thinking about how you would really like him to cancel on you today, then something seems wrong.
Relationships should make you feel stronger and better, like you have support from the person standing next to you.
When you find yourself in a relationship where something doesn’t feel right, what should you do?
You still believe that your partner is worth your time, but things are not the way they used to be.
Numerous reasons can be the source of an unhappy relationship, but how can you know what is wrong with yours?
We all make mistakes, and it is important to notice them in order to improve them.
Over time, they can make your relationship suffer and, eventually, break.
If your relationship recently ended and you are wondering what went wrong, I will try to show you some of the mistakes that you or your partner shouldn’t have made.
Even though they may seem minor, they build up over time, and at one point, everything overflows.
You two lost the romance
Never kill the flame of romance in the relationship! No matter how long you two have been together, romance is the spark that keeps you moving forward.
You should never forget that your partner is an emotional human being and that you two should never stop expressing romantic gestures toward each other.
Simple things like a heart shape drawn on a sticky note, stuck onto your phone so you can see it as soon as you grab it, or a voice message saying ‘I love you’, or a hug at the end of the day will never go out of fashion.
Caring for each other and expressing those feelings from time to time can elevate your relationship to another level.
On the other hand, ignoring your partner and leaving him feeling neglected for a long period of time can lead you two to a break-up.
You didn’t support each other
When you stop supporting your partner, it can make him feel like he is not good enough for you.
As time passes, this feeling grows and he starts feeling more and more neglected.
Relationships are about support and having each other’s back.
Even if you feel that your partner is not right, you should tell him that when you two are alone.
Never point out his flaws in front of others as his feelings always need to be more important than other people’s opinions.
You hid your emotions
If you ever feel that something is wrong, don’t hide it from your partner. You are in this together and you should share your emotions with each other.
Hiding them deep down won’t bring you any good, as that is a time bomb that can explode at any minute.
Instead, sit down with your partner and express your feelings.
Trying to work something out is better than sweeping it under the carpet. Explain to them how you feel and what you would like to change.
If you keep quiet, things will stay the same. You will still be unhappy and your relationship will sink deeper and deeper.
You lied about yourself
In order to leave a better impression on someone, we tend to lie occasionally.
We usually don’t see those lies as a big deal because they feel harmless, as their only purpose is to fascinate our partner at the beginning of the relationship.
However, white lies tend to turn into greater ones and then, you create an inaccurate picture of who you are.
At one point, once you stop pretending, your partner begins to realize that he doesn’t really know you.
If you lie about the things you like or dislike, you will become sick of the untruths and you will start to feel like you are not yourself.
Feeling unhappy, your relationship can never be successful!
Lies are a temporary attempt to impress your partner, but they usually end up being the reason for ending the relationship.
You wanted to control him
When you start to control your partner, things begin to break. If you want him to change then he’s probably not worth your time.
To have to listen every day to commands like, “Do this,” or, “Change that,” makes you feel like you are not in a romantic relationship but in a parent-child one.
If your partner is an adult then you should start treating him like one.
Wanting to control a person who is fully capable of taking care of himself is an act of cowardness, as his personality is probably too strong for you.
You took him for granted
No one likes to be taken for granted and still, a number of relationships have this problem.
Being in a relationship with someone doesn’t mean behaving whichever way you like, as your partner doesn’t have to stay with you.
Everyone leaves when they don’t feel respected enough.
You can’t cheat on, lie to or insult the other just because you two are together.
We all need to be appreciated and understood, especially by the one we share a bed with.
Don’t expect that he is supposed to give and you are supposed to take. Instead, change it up.
Both of you should equally dedicate yourself to the relationship.
When one starts to feel like they’re giving 100% while the other is just taking and taking, without giving anything in return, the relationship becomes doomed to fail.
Remember that you should make him feel special, the same way he does you!
You were constantly fighting
At one point in a relationship, you will fight and that is completely fine!
However, if you fight on a daily basis, mostly over insignificant things, then something isn’t right.
Think before you start making arguments in your head. Is that thing really worth fighting over or is it insignificant and you are just overreacting?
Sometimes, we want to feel like we are always right but too much fighting can make your relationship feel like an unhappy place.
Instead of creating this environment, try to think about what is really worth the fight.
Sometimes you could have had a bad day and you put that onto your partner, but this is not a good way to let your emotions out.
Constant fights turn your relationship into a battlefield where no one can be a winner!
Mistakes can happen but it is important to acknowledge them at the right time.
When you see what you did wrong, you can work on it and make sure not to make the same mistakes in your next relationship.
It can be hard to change your negative habits, but keep in mind that the reward for change is a healthy relationship where you will feel happy and satisfied.