Relationships are tough to master. They either make you feel ecstatic or miserable.
The worst feeling is giving your 100% and receiving nothing in return.
However, there will come a time when you will feel like it is meant to be.
Everything will seem simple and spontaneous and you will start asking yourself: “Am I living in a fairy tale? Is this too good to be true?”
When you are over the moon and the only thing you want is for the relationship to last, it probably means that you are in a healthy relationship.
If you are not sure where you stand, these signs can help you understand your current position.
1. You feel respected
Mutual respect between you and your partner is one of the foundations of a healthy relationship.
When you have the impression that your feelings are valued, you will instantly feel more dedicated and committed.
Partners are equals and they should treat each other as such.
Feeling like one is more important than the other can result in low self-esteem and a sense that you are not good enough.
2. Your communication is at a high level
The two of you should serve as a support and an inspiration to each other. Respect should be a mutual and fundamental aspect of your relationship.
Feeling comfortable exchanging opinions with your partner is a sign that you two can communicate well.
When we feel that we talk for no reason and that our words are not listened to, we tend to stop expressing our opinions and beliefs.
For people who have communication issues, even the smallest interaction may bring about negative emotions.
When they try to speak up and finally bring down the wall they built around themselves, their main goal is for someone to listen to them.
If this doesn’t happen, they will return to their shell and their anxiety, while their negative thoughts will increase.
Feeling like your partner doesn’t care about anything you are saying causes negative connotations toward future communication.
On the other hand, partners who are in healthy relationships feel that no topic is taboo or forbidden.
They easily express their emotions and opinions and they are not afraid that they may say something wrong.
Feeling like you will not be made fun of because of something you say leads to free and open communication where nothing is off-limits.
3. You two trust each other fully
Trust is one of the most important aspects of every relationship but still, many people struggle to achieve it.
You cannot make people trust you. The only way to achieve trust is through your actions and deeds.
Trust is gained over time but it takes only one small act to break down everything that is built.
Like everything else in relationships, trust is also achieved mutually, through the commitment of both partners.
You cannot expect that your partner will trust you if he/she has no reason to.
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Also, the trust may be really hard to achieve if you previously had a negative experience with trusting people.
If you had this issue, then feel free to take your time and take things slowly.
Eventually, everything will fall into its place and trust will come naturally.
When you are in a healthy relationship, trust becomes usual and normal.
You gain confidence in your partner and you know that it can’t be destroyed easily.
4. You are yourself
Relationships are all about compromising and dedicating yourself to the other person but there is a thin line between being committed to your partner and completely losing yourself in that process.
In order to impress another person (especially at the beginning of the relationship), we tend to express white lies and hide who we really are.
This may seem harmless but as time passes, our dishonesty stacks up, and eventually, our tower of lies falls down, leaving us and our partner devastated.
Never let this happen! Healthy relationships are all about fully accepting each other.
There is no need to hide who you really are because time will show the harsh truth.
Another important aspect of being yourself in a relationship is the ability to continue with the life you led before you and your partner became a thing.
Don’t ignore your passions and hobbies just because your significant other doesn’t share the same desires.
By forgetting who you were before the relationship, you are letting yourself drown in your partner’s personality.
As an unknown writer once said, “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
5. You two have fun with each other
We all know that you can’t be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t understand your jokes.
Instead of rolling their eyes at you, find someone who will laugh uncontrollably at the stupid pun you just said.
Life is too short to spend time with a partner who doesn’t know how to have fun with you.
No matter how old you are, being young at heart can only help your relationship.
There will be tough times when you will feel like everything is falling apart.
At that point, you will need someone who will make you cry from laughing, someone who will talk gibberish just to make you smile.
You are never too old to have fun so don’t make yourself feel like you don’t need it.
Having a positive partner with whom you can laugh day and night can be a life-saver.
6. Your relationship is only between you two
When you are in a relationship, you want your love to be seen by everyone and this especially happens at the beginning of the relationship.
However, be aware that this doesn’t make your relationship more important than the other couples who keep their relationship private.
Healthy relationships are not about showing the world what is going on behind closed doors.
They should be about you two and the love and happiness you share with each other, not others.
Couples who don’t need to constantly kiss in public in order ‘to show’ they are in love are the ones who are truly and deeply into each other.
They probably have a genuine connection that can’t be influenced by others.
As no relationship is perfect, being private also takes off the pressure and need to always look content and happy.
Those loving photos that couples post on Instagram are not a measurement of love. Only you two should know what is really going on behind closed doors.
7. You can imagine your future together
When you are in a healthy relationship, you desperately want it to last. Your plans include each other and you can’t wait for the future to come.
“I” becomes replaced with, “We”! From time to time, you find yourself thinking about your goals as a couple and a warm feeling of happiness overcomes you.
If thoughts about the future don’t bring a smile to your face, then you two should probably start communicating more and working on resolving your issues.
You don’t want to be trapped but rather free and content with the choices you make.