Think aloud
No matter how much you love your partner, sometimes it’s not enough. When other important things are missing in your relationship, there’s really no point in fighting for it.
But saying goodbye isn’t as easy when you’ve been conditioned to think that love is supposed to be tough. All your life, you’ve heard stories about couples sticking through and fighting for each other.
So, should you really give up on your partner and call it quits? Or should you give your relationship another chance?
The bottom line is that some things are non-negotiable, and the moment you realize that your relationship lacks any of them is the moment you should reconsider your decision to fight for love.
Just because you love someone doesn’t mean that you’re meant to stay together. You can’t ignore all the other issues you’ve been dealing with simply because you like the person in front of you.
But when is the right time to pack your things and leave?
7 reasons to consider ending a relationship
There comes a time in every relationship when you sit down with yourself and have a talk. To stay or to go?
Now, the real question is how serious your issues are. Are you upset because your boyfriend still can’t tell what’s going through your head (aka he can’t read your mind), or are you facing some serious issues such as abuse?
No matter how much you love your partner, there are times when leaving is the best thing you can do for yourself. So, here’s when love isn’t enough and when packing your bags is a reasonable decision.
1. You have trouble communicating
We all have our bad days and moments when we don’t feel like talking. But don’t confuse that with serious communication issues.
If you and your partner aren’t able to talk things through and if you always end up fighting, then it’s time to reconsider your choices. Do you truly believe that love is enough when you can’t sit down and have a proper chat?
Being able to talk things through and understand each other is crucial in every relationship. It doesn’t really matter how much you care about each other; if you can’t communicate properly, it’s all in vain.
So, when was the last time you and your partner had a normal conversation? If you can’t remember, then it may be time to leave.
2. There’s a lack of trust
Love is worthless without trust. It’s like building a house with no foundations. At one point, you can be sure that everything will fall apart right in front of your eyes.
If you’re aware that your relationship lacks trust, the best thing you can do is think if it’s worth sticking by. When you’re 100% sure that nothing your partner does could change the way you feel about him, then there’s really no point in staying.
3. Your partner keeps lying to you
Have you recently realized that your partner has been lying to you? It doesn’t really matter if we’re talking about seemingly insignificant lies or some serious stuff; the fact that he hides the truth from you is enough to make you reconsider your relationship.
If you know that this has happened on multiple occasions, it’s unrealistic to expect him to change his lying habit. Maybe he’s so used to doing it that he doesn’t think anything’s wrong with it.
The best thing you can do is sit down and have a chat with him. If he acts defensive about it and tries to persuade you there’s nothing wrong with it, then it’s time to react.
I’m sure you don’t want to be in a relationship with a liar because you’ll never know where you stand with him.
4. You’re headed in different directions
Just because you’re in a relationship doesn’t mean that you’ll forget about your own life. But at the same time, it’s important for the two of you to move in the same direction.
If he’s working on getting that huge promotion and is planning to move towns while you, on the other hand, are planning to stay where you are, then something’s not working. The two of you should have the same goals for the future because that’s the only way for your relationship to work out.
When you’re headed in different directions, then how can you expect to meet at the same spot? Think about it for a second and try to figure out if you and your partner have the same plans for the future.
5. You’re not feeling happy
Honestly, if you have lately realized that your relationship isn’t making you happy, then there’s not much to think about. You can love a man, be obsessed with his personality, and consider him a great friend, but all those things together don’t mean that you’re going to be happy in a relationship with him.
Sometimes, we force ourselves to stay with someone simply because we know how good of a person he is. But that’s all in vain when you’re not compatible and not meant for each other.
This is a good time to ask yourself if you’re truly happy. Don’t try to sugarcoat it and be honest with yourself because the only person who’s going to feel the consequences of this relationship is you.
So, the real question is if you want to make your own life more complicated by choosing to stay with someone who doesn’t bring a smile to your face. Think about it for a second.
6. You’ve been cheated on
I think this one doesn’t require any explanation. When someone cheats on you, you walk away from him despite the amount of love you feel for the person.
If he could go behind your back, kiss the lips of someone else, and betray your trust, then the least you can do is break up with him. That’s the bare minimum that you should be able to do for yourself.
I’m sure that he’s going to give you all kinds of excuses and promise to change. But at the end of the day, he knew very well what he was doing. He made a conscious decision to cheat on you and that’s not something you should forgive him for.
Because the first time you accept his apology, be sure that he’s going to repeat his mistake. Once a cheater, always a cheater!
7. There’s some form of abuse
Is your partner abusive in any way, shape, or form? Does he make you feel uncomfortable? Do you feel like you have to walk on eggshells around him?
These are all reasons good enough to break up with a guy, despite the fact that you love him. When he doesn’t make you feel safe in a relationship, the best thing you can do is pack your things and leave.
Trust me, he’s not going to change. He’ll simply adjust his behavior for a couple of weeks to convince you to stay. After that, he will go back to his old routines.
Staying in an abusive relationship can never be justified. And even though it can be extremely hard to leave, you must remember that what you’re experiencing isn’t love. Just because your partner convinced you that things are supposed to feel this way, it doesn’t mean it’s true.
Someone else would die to treat you like a queen while he’s doing everything he can to tear you down and ruin your self-esteem. Notice the difference?