Being stuck in a relationship is absolutely awful.
You stay because you don’t want to hurt the other person, even if they don’t deserve it. You’ve been together for so long that the people around you haven’t even known you without each other.
You’ve always been together but the spark is gone. It’s been gone for a while and you’ve just been trying to ignore that fact.
For such a long time, you’ve tried to revive it in silence. You didn’t want to create a fuss or make your partner angry, so you just found a way to hide it from him.
Is that really the best idea? Who knows but for you, it was the only option available.
You’re simply not ready to let go and move on with your life without that person.
You two have been through thick and thin, you’ve grown together, you watched each other change and created a life around each other’s wants and needs. However, you’re absolutely miserable.
Your best friend has been going on for months already, telling you that you need to leave him because if you don’t, you’re just going to stay unhappy for the rest of your life.
She doesn’t understand. Of course she doesn’t!
She thinks that it’s so easy to just pack your bags and walk away, even though you’d be leaving your entire life behind. This may sound a little bit dramatic to others but you know exactly what I mean when I say that.
You’ve planned everything out. When you remove him from the equation, you don’t know who you are.
Who are you if you’re not going to spend the rest of your life with this man?
Besides that, you can’t even remember all the reasons why you want to leave. You feel like you’ve been stuck in this relationship for so long that you’ve completely forgotten why you were so unhappy.
You stopped paying attention to him and you don’t get mad anymore, simply because you don’t feel like it’s worth it at this point.
You’re so miserable but you can’t even remember why. That’s what happens when you have a long list of reasons that have just been piling up throughout the years.
You were convinced that he would change. You were so certain.
There’s no fixing this, though. You can’t recall what you need to fix or you may just remember a couple of reasons but not everything.
You just want to run away from him and move on with your life but he makes everything so hard.
Just when you believe that you’ve gotten the courage to tell him everything and leave, he love-bombs you. He makes you feel like the most cared for and loved human being in the world.
That’s when he decides to change, for just a few days, so that he can manipulate you into believing that he’s capable of making you happy. So you stay.
Every single time, you stay. You stay next to him and then you watch him fall back into his own patterns.
There are so many times in life when you’ll have to walk away without being ready for it.
You’ll have to walk away from things that don’t serve you anymore just because you don’t feel like they don’t belong in your life any longer. It’s not a bad thing, it’s just confusing.
If there’s nothing actually wrong, then why are you leaving? You’re waiting for that epiphany that’ll remind you why you wanted to be with him in the first place but it’s not coming.
You are not ready to leave him and everything that you’ve built together. You’re not ready to explain to your friends and family why you’re walking away from him, even though staying by his side hurts even more.
Pretending as if you care is breaking you into pieces. It’s just pure chaos.
You can’t get one thought through your head without feeling the way it spirals back to him and how you don’t want to be with him anymore. It always goes back to the thought of breaking up with him but also to the memories that you’ve made that keep you from leaving.
So how long are you going to wait? Are you going to just sit around and keep believing that one day everything will be all right again?
Do you truly believe that you’ll find a way to love him again the way you did at the beginning, even though his touch disgusts you right now?
I’m here to tell you that it’s okay. It may sound like such a cliché but it really is fine.
You have the right to make this decision in your life. Your internal compass is showing you the direction in which he can’t follow you.
Your mind is telling you that you have to walk away from him even though your heart still breaks at the thought of making him sad with this decision. But you owe it to yourself to make yourself happy.
You owe it to yourself to choose your own happiness and your own life over a man who obviously isn’t able to give you the things that you want and need in your life.
It’s completely okay to be selfish right now.
Even though the people around you could turn you into the villain of the story in a matter of seconds, they’re the ones who have never walked in your shoes.
You’re the only one who feels the mayhem that has been creating a lot of confusion in you.
You don’t even have to explain yourself to anyone. I know that this thought may make you unhappy but believe me when I tell you that you don’t have to clarify anything to anyone.
Tell him that you’re leaving and simply refuse to explain your actions to others. If they want to love and support you through this hard time, then they’re welcome to.
If they want to leave, then they were never your friends to begin with. That’s what you need to remember.
It’s okay to be selfish and choose yourself right now. You’re not happy and you have to pursue that happiness.
Being stuck in this relationship won’t help you. It’s already over and you know it.
Make that decision for yourself and finally move on.