It’s a well-known fact that breakups are hard to endure. You picture your life with this one person, and once they’re gone, you’re left wondering if you’ll ever be able to love again.
Now that he’s gone from your life, you feel broken. You feel like a part of you is missing.
And no matter how hard you try to ignore those feelings, you can’t seem to think straight.
The pain he left is haunting you, and you can’t hide away from it. Even when you give your best to forget the experience, there comes a memory that makes sure to remind you.
So, you spend your nights in bed, unable to fall asleep as you literally feel like you’re falling apart. Your heart wants to escape out of your chest and you try to control yourself so you don’t end up sobbing like a child whose parents took away her toy.
You’re left alone in the world where being alone feels like the biggest punishment.
Everyone seems to have someone, and you’re all by yourself. You have no one’s arm to hold and no one’s shoulder to cry on.
You keep asking yourself if this feeling of brokenness will last forever. Will you remain this way even after years pass? Will you always be that one girl who never managed to recover from her breakup?
So, before you attribute more of the negative traits onto yourself, you need to realize one thing.
The way you feel right now is perfectly normal and it won’t last forever. Just because you have to make tremendous efforts to get up from bed these days, it doesn’t mean that you’ll live this way for the rest of your life.
This feeling will pass and you’ll pick yourself up from the ground.
And right now, all of the things that are going through your mind are only the aftermath of losing the person who meant the world to you.
You’re feeling broken because you’re afraid of facing yourself once he’s gone.
All this time, he was right there next to you. He was the one who helped you move through life easily.
He was your biggest support and your best friend. All in one person.
And now that he’s gone, you’re afraid that you won’t know how to love anyone else besides him. You’re afraid that you’ll have no idea what to do on your own.
You’re on your own and have to deal with your emotions by yourself.
He won’t be there to comfort you when you’re feeling down. He won’t be there to hold you in his arms when tears are streaming down your face.
Right now, you’re the only person who can help you and you’re afraid of what that brings. You’re afraid because you’re not really sure that you can make it on your own.
But if you only knew that you were much stronger than this, you wouldn’t even consider crying right now.
You’re feeling broken because you’re afraid that you might never feel this way about someone else.
When you fall in love with someone, you don’t really think about losing them. You don’t really plan your life with them while having another person in mind.
And now that he’s gone from your life, you’re afraid that you’ll never be able to love someone as intensely as you loved him. You’re afraid that you lost every chance of having the life you wanted just because your relationship ended.
But what you don’t realize is that after the one who broke your heart comes the one who wants to fix it. After an ex comes the next.
Just because you feel like you’ll be forever alone, it doesn’t mean that your fearful thoughts are reality. It doesn’t mean that you’ll never be able to find someone who’ll love you the same, or maybe even more.
Let time do its job. Let it show you that your fears will be a part of the past in a year’s time.
One day, you’ll be laughing at them, trying to figure out why were you so scared to begin with.
You’re feeling broken because you gave every piece of yourself to someone else.
Your time, energy, efforts – they all went into the hands of this person.
And now that he’s gone from your life, it’s obvious that he took all of that with him. So, you feel like you’re left without anything and you don’t really know how to move on.
It’s normal that you feel this way. For Pete’s sake, you put all of your trust into the hands of this person. In your head, it looks like a part of you is missing.
But in no time, you’ll be able to recover. You’ll realize that you’re still yourself and that you didn’t lose anything only because you shared it with someone who’s no longer there.
Your worth doesn’t change the moment someone walks out of your life. If anything, it only grows as it teaches you how to move on after someone you loved more than yourself.
And not everyone can do that.
You’re feeling broken because you’re afraid to be alone.
We don’t often admit this, but most of us are petrified of being alone.
We give ourselves to those who don’t deserve us only because we think that they can fill the void in our lives. They can help us find the happiness we keep seeking.
But it’s wrong to think that you’ll instantly be happier once you have someone by your side.
To be honest, sometimes those who enter our lives to help up only end up hurting us. They rob us of our happiness and leave us down on our knees.
So, you have to stop thinking that your life is over just because your relationship ended. You have to stop thinking that the only way to be happy is by having a partner.
Believe me when I say that it’s in your alone time that you’ll realize your real worth. You’ll see how much you’re capable of and realize that no one can ever take that away from you.
If anything, it’s better to be alone than to feel lonely with someone else.
Keep these words in mind and don’t ever forget them.
You might feel broken today, but before you know it, you’ll laugh at your old self who couldn’t see her own worth.