Throughout the course of life, everyone has had their fair share of toxic relationships with those partners who couldn’t give them what they needed and simply didn’t know how to love them.
But still, with you, you found yourself giving each of them a second chance, an opportunity to back up their words with actions, only to be disappointed again and again.
And now, you’re repeating the same scenario, clinging to something that might be long gone.
You’re hoping that he’ll change, realize your worth, and start to treat you like a man should treat a lady.
Now pause for a second and be honest with yourself. Do you really believe he’s going to change?
Maybe you’ve failed to notice it because you’re deeply in love with him, but the truth is, he isn’t making any changes. He doesn’t want to change.
He already thinks he’s great and that he has a lady beside him who wouldn’t leave him in a million years.
But what he failed to notice is that you’ve been sad and lonely for a long time.
Maybe he plays mind games with you and when he actually realizes his behavior, he just blames it all on you and says it’s your fault.
It’s easier for him to justify his actions by saying you’re the one to blame for everything and not him.
His ego stays untouched and he maintains that high opinion of himself.
He fails to see your emotions because it’s easier to do so than to try and improve your relationship.
I know there have been a substantial number of times where he said he’d change and for a second, you actually believed his words.
But then once again, he failed you.
He only does that because for a split second, his mind becomes clearer and he sees he’s going to lose you.
Being left alone with his own emotions is something he fears.
He needs you, so that you can confirm that he still has power over you, but darling, he’s always going to be the same.
You should stop making excuses for him if he isn’t changing for the better.
The same fights and arguments will keep on repeating if you keep giving him another chance to prove himself to you.
Know when enough is enough.
Don’t say that he’s just going through a rough patch right now and that he’ll change later when the dust settles. He won’t.
That’s never a good reason why he’s being a bad boyfriend to you.
Don’t give him another chance just because he’s sweet and kind for a couple of days.
Those things shouldn’t come in portions.
Those are qualities that every guy has to always possess and show his lady, regardless of what he’s going through in his life.
He should devote his time to you and if he doesn’t have time for a relationship now, then why should he be in one?
You shouldn’t waste your time on someone who doesn’t have time for you.
Don’t make excuses for him, because he isn’t making any changes.
You shouldn’t justify all the bad emotions you have because you have given him countless chances to change and he never has.
All the tears that have rolled down your face don’t mean anything to him.
Love and respect are all you desire in a relationship. It’s tough to hear the truth, but someone needs to tell you that he isn’t going to change.
You might think you’ll get back the man that you had at the beginning of your relationship so you wait for him to return, but that isn’t the case here, as he doesn’t even notice he’s behaving badly toward you.
However, you shouldn’t blame yourself for his blindness.
You have given him chances to change countless times, and you’ve had the same arguments with him over and over again.
And nothing has happened. Everything has stayed the same.
That’s why you shouldn’t make any excuses for him because he isn’t making any changes.
You deserve to be happy in life so don’t waste your time on someone who doesn’t notice when you feel sad or lonely. Why do you put up with that?
You want to smile and have fun and he can’t provide you with that, so leave him.
You deserve so much more and from someone who knows how to love you.
With the right person, you won’t feel like you’re hard to love.
The only things that he cares about are his own feelings and needs. He isn’t attentive or caring about yours.
Take a moment to close your eyes and think about whether this is the man you want to spend the rest of your life with. No, you don’t.
You want to spend your life with a guy who’ll love you unconditionally and who’ll provide you with inner peace. And he can’t give you that.
So, stop making excuses for him, as he isn’t changing for the better.
That being said, don’t feel sad about this.
A couple of months after you give yourself time to heal, you’ll look back and think about this moment as another chapter of your life from which you only grew stronger and more gorgeous.
So, you’ll recover from this, you’ll heal and you’ll never repeat the same mistake again.
Remember, every bad experience is just another lesson to learn. People come and go, that’s just the way the cookie crumbles.
Nevertheless, someone who knows how to love you and who’s prepared to satisfy your needs and emotions will stay beside you.
You might be afraid to be alone in the meantime, but my advice to you is don’t be.
Why? Because you have all those people around you who care for you. You aren’t really alone, you’re just failing to find true joy.
But you’ll change that, and eventually, he’ll be just another ex.
You’ll start enjoying life and you’ll surround yourself with honest people who care about you and who will try their best to make you feel happy.
Don’t settle for someone who doesn’t know how to do that.