Do you kiss your significant other regularly? Is it something you do because you’re used to it or do you really want to? Have you noticed how much better you feel after a little make-out session with your loved one? And did you know that kissing is way more important than you might think?
Luckily for you, psychology can explain why kissing is so important in a marriage and I’m here to tell you everything you need to know about it.
You’ve probably heard someone say they refuse to kiss strangers because it’s such an intimate moment, but that same person was fine with other physical touches. Maybe it sounds confusing at first. But it’s actually very common.
The psychology of kissing states that this kind of contact with another person is seen as something extremely personal and intimate. No wonder there’s all that drama about “the first kiss”!
But the surprises don’t stop there. Did you know that there are many benefits to kissing the person you love? Yes!
When you’re kissing your partner, your body makes more of the hormone oxytocin. Many people call it the “love drug,” “cuddle hormone,” or “love hormone.“ And it can help you get closer to your partner and enjoy your relationship even more.
Emotional benefits of kissing
Do me a favor. Think about the reason we kiss the person we love. When I try to find an answer, I say that it’s a great bonding experience for the two of us. But it also just feels amazing. Of course, it can lead to some other physical actions, but kissing’s emotional importance is much stronger.
Do you remember the first time you held a cute baby or even a little animal? What was the first thing you wanted to do when you saw all that cuteness and innocence? I bet you wanted to hug them and kiss them to show your love.
Some people think that kissing is just something we do to get ready for some further physical action. But they’re wrong. When your lips touch your partner’s, you’re actually connecting on a level that’s much deeper than anything else. And it’s something you never do with other people.
Kissing encompasses your emotions and your physical closeness, and it has the power to strengthen your bond. More kisses will make you feel closer.
While you’re getting close to each other and leaning in for a kiss, your brain is getting ready to release a cocktail of chemicals. They are present to help you feel incredible. And their names are serotonin, oxytocin, and dopamine.
That rush you feel when you’re kissing your significant other is caused by your pleasure center. That center is located deep inside your brain, but its influence is great.
When you kiss and you stimulate this area of your brain, it feels like you’re taking a drug. But a good and healthy one! So don’t be surprised if you kiss your partner and then start to feel like you want more and more. It’s all happening because you’re experiencing the beautiful benefits of kissing.
Physical benefits of kissing
Most married couples kiss when they wake up, before leaving the house, when they get back home, and before they go to sleep. Sound familiar? And does it sound like love, or like something we do as a habit?
It sounds a lot like your habit of reading every night before going to bed, or checking your phone as soon as you open your eyes in the morning, doesn’t it?
However, the habit of kissing actually has many physical benefits that you probably never noticed. And here are some of them:
1) People who kiss each other regularly might live even 5 years longer than those who don’t.
2) The aforementioned cocktail of chemicals can increase your heartbeat to over 100 beats per minute. And do you know what else causes the same thing? A pretty good workout.
3) Your lips are extremely sensitive so when you kiss a person you love, you’re stimulating all the meaningful nerves in your body.
4) The blood rush that comes from kissing someone can actually heal blemishes on your face and even ease dermatitis.
5) If you want to make out with someone, you’ll need to use 29 of your face muscles. So, keep kissing your spouse and you’ll erase all of the wrinkles on your face.
6) I know that the exchange of saliva while kissing might sound gross, but it’s actually healthier than you may think. It can help you build a strong immune system and keep you healthier than ever.
Spiritual advantages of kissing
Another benefit of kissing your marriage partner is that your brain puts you in a state where you can synchronize with each other. That means that your connection immediately becomes much deeper. Everything connects. Your brain, heart, and your emotions.
The thing is, it’s easy to measure physical aspects, but it’s not really possible to measure the spiritual aspects. You can’t really gauge how big the spiritual part of kissing is, but when your bodies become in sync, it connects the two of you on a higher level.
Some marriage counselors even tell people who are having some problems in their marriage that they should try kissing each other every day. As we already said, a kiss is even more intimate than we give it credit for. And those counselors believe that it has the power to restore the bond that was once there.
Those couples might need to force themselves to do it at first, but after some time it will most likely forge a spiritual link that will bring them close to each other again.
I hope I helped you realize the benefits of kissing. If I did, then what are you waiting for? Go and kiss the person you said “I do” to and show them how much you love them!