Think aloud
What’s the meaning of the phrase “You complete me”? Have you ever thought about that? Some people will say it’s the most romantic thing your partner can tell you, others argue that it’s completely irrational. So, what do you think?
Being an independent woman, you don’t need someone to complete you, because you’re already whole on your own, right? But, when your special someone says that you complete him, you get all mushy-gushy. It’s okay, I get it.
We’ve been presented with this whole idea of finding a perfect someone and meeting our soulmate. At the same time, feminists in each one of us are screaming how we don’t need a man to feel complete. So, how are we supposed to know what’s the true meaning of the phrase?
Should you feel special next time your boyfriend tells you that you complete him? Let’s find out.
What’s the meaning of the phrase “You complete me”?
Imagine someone telling you this. How would you feel? As beautiful as it sounds, this phrase sometimes has a negative meaning. Some people see it as a red flag and the only thing in their minds at that moment is one simple word – run!
Others, on the contrary, believe that this is the purest way to express your love to someone. The real meaning of the phrase “You complete me” is still an enigma to most. I’d say both of these views are, in fact, two sides of the same coin.
If you wonder why let me explain it.
You’re well aware that before making a decision, you have to listen to the complete story, right? Only then you’ll be able to find a solution that will be close to the perfect one. It’s the same with this “problem”.
Most people believe that you can actually find someone who completes you and the meaning behind his words is going to be sincere. He won’t mean anything negative when he says this.
He’ll truly believe that you were the missing part of his life and that now, he has everything that he ever wanted. You’ll feel the honesty in his voice when he says this, there’s no doubt about it.
However, some men are players, cheaters, and womanizers (call them as you wish) and they don’t say these three beautiful for good intentions. There’s always a hidden meaning behind them.
Your relationship will turn into a toxic one and you’ll need to invest a lot to make it healthy (again). It’s not going to be easy, but if you both agree to work on the problem, it may be solved.
Saying romantic words simply to manipulate the other person, is a sign of narcissistic behavior and you should avoid that. This kind of man knows what to do to keep you by his side, just so he can prove his worth.
If he’s using these words, combined with jealous reactions, rest assured that he’s being possessive. In most of these cases, he’ll try to sabotage every relationship you may have because if he can’t have you, no other man will.
Okay, time for me to stop beating around the bush and explain the three most common cases when a man will tell you the phrase “You complete me” and the true meaning behind it. I hope you’re ready!
1. He wants to manipulate you
This is probably not something you want to hear right from the start, but it is what it is. He knows you’d like to hear this, so he’s going to tell you the phrase “You complete me” very often. I assume that before or after stating this, he asked you to do him a favor.
If I’m right, and he used this romantic statement to melt your heart and use you – he’s manipulating you. Some men are, as I like to call them, sweet talkers and they will do anything in their words, I mean power, to get you to do things for them.
They won’t bother to prove their love with actions, but they will rather sell you the story about how much you mean to them. If you suspect that guy is doing this, please, pay more attention and react as soon as possible.
2. He’s being possessive
Another not-so-beautiful thing to hear is that your man is being possessive and he can’t imagine his life without you. Maybe the relationship with you is the only bright side of his future and he wants to have you in his company. Your love and affection are his ego boosters and he doesn’t want to lose that.
The meaning behind his “You complete me” is not too far from the one previously mentioned. In this case, his self-esteem is low and he feels important by your side, he feels valued. So, he’s going to use this phrase to keep you close and away from other men that may show interest in you.
I’m sure that he knows you won’t be keen on leaving him after you hear how much you mean to him. After all, how can you leave someone who was completely vulnerable with you and told you how he actually feels? (Don’t fall for this trap!)
Sorry that I have to say this, but if you notice that this is the reason why he’s telling you that you complete him, don’t hesitate to leave him. This is only going to lead to even more toxic behavior and it’s going to be harder to find a way out.
3. He genuinely loves you
Indeed, this is the most beautiful meaning of the phrase “You complete me”. If you know that his love is pure then he’s telling you this because he genuinely loves the person that you are. He’s completely, utterly in love with you and he wouldn’t live his life any other way.
He chooses you every morning when he wakes up and you both know that you’ve found your soulmate in one another. You know that he’s not going to hurt you, not even unintentionally and the love you share is unconditional.
There’s no other person you’d rather be with and you are an absolute match! Enjoy with your special someone. Nurture your healthy relationship and keep being the couple everybody admires.
This type of love will come naturally and you’ll simply know when it happens. Your heart will know he’s the one and you won’t need to check it online at all. However, in the next part of this article, I’m bringing you some genuine signs that you’ve found the one who completes you.
5 genuine signs you’ve ACTUALLY found someone who completes you
Although I’ve told you that you’ll know it when the right guy shows up in your life, I’ve decided to take some time and write this part as well. In case you still haven’t found THE one, this may be really useful in the future.
So, how can you know? What are the signs that he’s actually that special someone you’ve been waiting for all along? Let me break it down for you.
He’s going to help you to complete that puzzle you’ve been assembling for years now and you won’t even have to ask for his help. You’ll be sure that you can count on him when life gets stormy and he’ll be there to celebrate even the smallest wins with you.
He’ll push you to fulfill your goals and he’ll make sure you’re happy. Your perfect someone will encourage you to have a life outside of the relationship because he understands that you’ve had a life before him.
You’ll simply want to be in his presence because it will feel right. You don’t believe me? Here are 5 genuine signs that you’ve actually found someone who completes you. Once you do, you won’t have to double-check the meaning of the beautiful phrase, “You complete me”. Trust me.
1. You can be yourself around him
All those quirks you have, your sometimes silly and childish behavior – he absolutely adores that! You can be yourself around him, and there’s nothing weird about it. He appreciates everything you are and doesn’t fail to let you know that.
Being able to show your true colors to the one you love is precious. Not many people have that privilege, so you should consider yourself a very lucky gal.
2. You have a life outside of the relationship
Of course, you go out on dates, and you spend a lot of quality time together, but you exist outside of your relationship. You have your own friends and you spend a lot of time with them (without your partner). Having alone time is another perk on the list of blessings in your life, don’t you agree?
You’ve found someone who values your personal life and even encourages you to take yourself out from time to time. He knows how important it is for a healthy relationship and he’s doing everything in his power to maintain it that way. I don’t have to mention it’s vice versa as well, right?
3. He’s your biggest support
Even at your lowest, you know he has your back. He’ll always be in your corner when you’re fighting battles and he’ll cheer you on. You can count on him to push you to reach those goals you want and he’ll make sure all of your childhood dreams are fulfilled as well.
He’s going to support every decision you make and he’ll encourage you to apply for that new job. You don’t have to worry that you won’t succeed, because he’ll make sure you reach whatever you strive for.
4. You don’t need each other; you want each other
It’s crystal clear – you don’t need each other; you want each other. You enjoy spending time with him and that’s why you’re craving your get-togethers. However, for you to be happy, it’s not necessary that you see each other often. Just the thought of him brings you peace.
You’re not needy or clingy, and you know that you can conquer the world on your own. But you both know it’s easier when you have someone by your side.
5. He makes you happier
You don’t hold him responsible for your happiness and it never depends solely on his presence. It’s your job to make yourself happy and you’re aware of that. However, when you’re with your person, the levels of happiness you both feel drastically increase.
With him, you’ve learned the true meaning of pure happiness and you don’t compromise on it anymore. You both strive to be joyful on your own and when you’re together it’s a state of elated bliss!
How to tell him he completes you too?
Here are a couple of examples that you can use to tell your special someone that he completes you as well. You can be the first one to say these beautiful words, or if you’re texting, you can answer his message using something from the list.
1. You’re my special someone and my life would be meaningless without you. I love you, baby.
2. You give me courage when I want to give up and you’re bringing out the best in me. Thank you for being the one I always wanted.
3. I’d be lying if I wouldn’t say that you complete me too. You mean the world to me.
4. You fill my life with laughter and I’m happier because of you. Thank you for that.
5. You’re completing my world solely with your existence. I’m sure we belong together.
6. I feel safe by your side and nothing can change that. Thank you for being my shelter during storms.
7. I’m so happy that I can be myself around you. I think this is a sign of pure love.
8. You complete me in a way I never thought I needed to be completed. Thank you for being the missing piece to my puzzle!
9. I think I’ll always feel incomplete when you’re not by my side. It’s some sort of an addiction I guess, but we all have our own vices. I’m blessed that you’re the one I got addicted to.
10. “To be fully seen by somebody, then, and be loved anyhow – this is a human offering that can border on miraculous.” – Elizabeth Gilbert
