Unfortunately, you can’t help someone who won’t accept your help. Maybe you want to save him, but it’s hopeless if he refuses to be saved.
The world is full of broken people in desperate need of guidance and salvation. Many of them want to feel better and heal but they don’t know how to achieve that.
In a way, maybe we’re all broken to some extent. All of us have been through certain things in life that damaged us.
We’ve all at some point been desperate and felt our whole world came crashing down.
Somehow, we all fought our demons and managed to survive.
Due to our painful past, we have this inbuilt need to help our loved ones when they’re in pain. The sad truth is that we all have to help ourselves much more than others.
Life takes us through a lot of tests, and some choose to give up instead of fight. They simply go with the flow and hope for the best.
If you let difficult things in life define what your life looks like, you’re not really living it. Taking care of yourself is important even when things get tough… and you can make yourself happy.
Unfortunately, many just give up and don’t have the will to turn their lives around.
Those who go with the flow want to help them and somehow think that they are capable of saving everyone.
And some people are actually worth saving, but there are many who can’t be saved.
As the wise old saying goes: You can lead a horse to the water, but you can’t make them drink it.
You can offer them guidance, but if they don’t want you to save them, you can’t help them save themselves.
Maybe you’re even in love with a man who falls into the category of broken people who won’t let anyone save them.
Even you try your best to save him, it’s hopeless if he refuses to be saved.
If he doesn’t want to admit to himself that there’s something terribly wrong in his life, you can point it out until you’re blue in the face – he won’t change.
It’s not your job to open his eyes and force him to see what’s wrong, let alone fix it.
How can you change someone who likes being the person they are? Read this if you keep making excuses for him even though he isn’t making any changes.
Maybe he doesn’t know any better, but maybe he doesn’t want anything to get better.
If he’s fine being where he is, you can’t kidnap him and trap him in a fairytale.
He might be perfectly fine with being the broken person he is, and there’s nothing you can do about it.
You’re not there to save him, and you can’t save him by giving him all of your love.
Some people are okay with being toxic and some simply don’t want to face the ugly truth.
If your soft heart can’t deal with his toxicity any longer, you have to walk away from him.
Not everyone is ready to face their pain and some just want to run away from anything that’s hurting them.
No amount of love or care will stop them from taking the road they decided to take.
Stop being scared of losing a person who clearly isn’t good for you.
Don’t give your heart to toxic people and don’t convince yourself that they’ll change one day.
If a man has major issues and doesn’t want to acknowledge that, you’re not going to change him.
Instead, his toxicity will pass on to you – you’ll change and become like him.
Regardless of how in love with him you are, you must put yourself first. You can’t take care of him, but you can take care of yourself.
Don’t end up becoming the one who needs to be saved.
Stop convincing yourself that he’s a nice guy who had a bad life. Yes, maybe life was too harsh on him, but that’s not an excuse.
Bad past experiences are not an excuse for bad behavior.
All of us have some inner battles we need to fight and overcome, and we have to do it alone.
We have to be strong enough to defeat our demons and to be able to do that, we have to want it. Some people simply don’t want to be saved.
You can’t fight his battles for him if he doesn’t want to even acknowledge his demons.
If your love and care can’t get him to want to change, nothing will.
All your efforts will be in vain if having you around doesn’t help him become aware of his state.
We often lose ourselves while trying to save someone else. If your love isn’t enough to get him to work on himself, you have to let him be.
Don’t get lost in your love for him to the extent of forgetting that you need love too.
You didn’t hurt him, and you can’t heal his wounds either.
Sometimes, people change, yes, but only if they want to change. You can’t force him to be a better man if he’s fine with who he is.
Save yourself – because you’re the only person you can really change. Don’t let him drag you into his dark world while there’s still light in yours.
If he isn’t willing to receive your message, he sure won’t understand it, let alone do something about it.
You can’t change a man who doesn’t want to change. Maybe you want to save him, but it’s hopeless if he refuses to be saved.
Don’t you ever forget that – it’s one of the most important lessons you can learn in life.
Don’t sacrifice yourself for someone who never wanted you to. Let him go and wish him the best. Because, one day, he might decide to save himself.
Now, you need to decide to save yourself instead.