When you see him, the first thing that comes to your mind is love. Seems like a fairy tale come true, am I right?
Or have you fallen so deeply in love with him that it’s hard to see clearly that he isn’t the one for you, even if you hear it as advice from others?
I know it is hard to find a solution while we are being consumed by the problem.
There is something about him that makes you feel free.
That pure, true, perpetual love that dominates your thoughts whenever the two of you are together. You feel defenseless, at ease, just yourself.
However, we know that the reality is quite different and the harsh truth is that even you are aware of that.
Creating scenarios where the two of you are in a happy relationship is one of the most dangerous things you can do but realizing that you are the one who loves harder will help you handle the situation later on.
Don’t be a girl who will do anything for the relationship to work.
Don’t be the one doing all the work and giving everything that you have to one person when they act like nothing matters.
You must realize that he isn’t the only man in the world.
Maybe ‘the one’ is waiting for you around the corner, waiting to give you all of his love and affection and to truly focus on you.
Find your true worth and don’t settle for less
I have always wondered why women tend to settle for a relationship that is like a one-way street.
I certainly don’t do that. You must know your true worth before you’re able to give a piece of your soul to someone.
Every woman possesses the strength to be alone. Some realize that sooner, some later. However, don’t settle for anything less than you deserve.
Don’t live in a fantasy
Let’s be clear about something. Everyone has been fooled by a partner at least once.
Believing that he can change after you have read all the tips on the Internet is foolish.
You try your best because deep down in your heart, you think that he can change, that maybe if you show him your love again, his feelings will reignite like a phoenix rising from the ashes.
You admit to yourself that those feelings will develop. You wait and hope that he will eventually give you all the love that you deserve and desperately crave.
Most of the time, that doesn’t happen, so you need to gather your strength and break away from the fantasy that you have might have created.
Time will not save your relationship
Waiting for someone to love you back can feel like an eternity.
That’s not a problem for you, because you believe that he can change, that he possesses the ability to love you like you love him.
Maybe he is not ready to open up to you yet and he’s waiting for the right moment to come but honey, the perfect moment doesn’t exist.
We are the creators of those perfect moments.
I know it is hard to accept, but have you ever considered the possibility that he is not the right person for you?
That you loving him harder will not save your relationship and will not bring you closer together?
Have you ever contemplated the thought that he might never love you the way you love him?
Idealizing someone is wrong for you
People are masters of creating perfect worlds and perfect situations.
Living in a delusion is one of the worst things that you can do but when things are hard, everyone resorts to their happy place.
You meet someone, see something in them that is truly blissful, you fall in love with them, and then suddenly that perfect world starts to crumble.
It is shaken by bad thoughts and hopes that loving him harder will bring him closer to you and that he will change.
Let me tell you something. Life isn’t all rainbows and sunshine and flowers.
Maybe it was all fireworks in the beginning but the thing that most people do is think that that kind of love will last forever and that the other person will love you with the same intensity.
The truth hurts but you should face it
Facing the truth is hard but you must learn that not everyone who comes into your life will give you the love that you deserve.
I know it sounds depressing but learning the truth is better than to live in a fantasy; it’s a part of life.
There are many blogs and sites that will give you advice on how to salvage that kind of a relationship but in the end, the only thing that you can do about it is simply accept it.
Believing that someone will change doesn’t mean it will happen
I know, you love him, and you simply cannot believe that he will not change, so you love him even harder.
You believe that he can give you precisely what you need.
The truth is more than obvious, darling. Sometimes men are incapable of loving with the same intensity.
Maybe he needs to mature, or rather he doesn’t know what he wants at that particular time.
There are countless reasons for the cause of that problem but your belief that he can change is more than enough for you to justify continuing to be in that relationship.
Belief is a powerful tool. People believe in God and yet they wage wars because others don’t share their same beliefs.
Accepting the truth is the best medicine for you. You cannot force anyone to love you no matter how hard you try.
He already has an image of you, and because of that, he cannot see you any differently when you move mountains for him.
He has already made up his mind, and now it’s up to you to make up yours.
Some women blame themselves instead of moving on; they believe that they are not good enough for them and that they cannot give them what they want.
The thing is, that’s far from the truth.
Let go and you will feel free again
The best advice that I can give you is to just let go. Let go of the idea of changing your man by loving him harder and move on with your life.
Focus on yourself, on your well-being, and try to be the best version of yourself every day.
Let go of the thought that maybe you were destined for each other. Fate has its way of showing you that you are wrong, and the truth always comes out.
Live your life free of the shackles that you created in your mind by telling yourself he will love you the same, when deep down, you know that he will not.
Believe me, what is destined for you will find its way into your life somehow.