Many women have lowered their standards just for the sake of being in a relationship with a guy they like. Those are the guys who don’t deserve to have them in the first place.
It’s never a good idea to have unrealistic relationship expectations, but that doesn’t mean that you have to lower your standards.
It’s pivotal that you know what you want and what you need if you want to have a successful and fulfilling relationship or marriage.
The truth is that many people will be intimated by your ambitions and high standards. And instead of supporting you, they will try to drag you down however they can.
They’ll use different techniques and approaches to sway you so that you settle for ordinariness.
Nevertheless, you should never regret the way you are or how ambitious you are. That’s part of what makes you unique and a wonderful woman.
It’s completely normal if you don’t want to hang out with people or date guys who have no ambition or drive to achieve anything.
You shouldn’t feel the need to lower your standards so that those around you will feel more comfortable.
Here are a few other reasons why you shouldn’t lower your standards.
1. You may sacrifice your future happiness
It’s never a good idea to lower your standards just because you love someone. A healthy relationship consists of two people making each other happy, no matter what.
And if you settle for some guy who makes your life a living hell and who mistreats you, you’re decreasing your chances of being truly happy in the future.
You’re wasting your time on the wrong guy if you’re settling with someone who doesn’t fulfill your needs and doesn’t bring a smile to that gorgeous face.
You’re denying yourself the chance of finding somebody normal and worthy of being loved by you.
The worst thing you can do to yourself is lower your standards and settle for a poor relationship that only brings you misery and pain. It’ll block your path that leads to happiness.
On the other hand, being single is always better than running after the wrong man.
2. Being lonely doesn’t mean that you’re alone and vice versa
If your choice is to be alone, that means that you’re taking your time to realize your real self and your expectations in a relationship.
It’s all about getting to know yourself on a deeper level, listening to your heart, and doing things that bring YOU pleasure and that make YOU happy.
On the other hand, being lonely means something different. It’s a state of mind rather than a choice.
It means that you don’t feel a connection to anyone and as humans, we crave that. After all, we’re social creatures and we depend on each other.
However, that feeling will certainly pass once you find someone with whom you can connect on an emotional level.
When you think about it, you’re never alone, there’s always someone around you. But it’s not about just one person.
There’s nothing worse than lowering your standards and being in a relationship where you feel lonely and sad.
It’s one of the worst feelings you can have, being with someone day after day but still feeling an emptiness inside you. You can feel lonely and alone at the same time in a relationship.
Don’t lower your standards just because you don’t want to feel lonely. Why? Because you’ll settle for someone who doesn’t deserve you and you’ll wish that you were single again.
Being single means that you respect yourself enough to not settle for anything less than you deserve.
3. Having standards doesn’t mean you’re hard to love
Having standards doesn’t mean that you’re a high-maintenance woman who thinks she’s better than others. It means that you want to be treated the proper way and you won’t settle for anything less than that.
You want someone who’ll be there for you through thick and thin. Someone who’ll have your back when push comes to shove and who’ll take care of you when you need him.
There’s nothing wrong with wanting a man who is kind, gentle, and understanding. You would be a fool to think that you should lower your standards just because your exes didn’t make time for you.
Don’t worry about them, the past is the past and you learned your mistakes. The right guy will make time for you and you aren’t asking too much, believe me.
4. You may end up with a toxic guy
If you lower your standards, the chances are you’ll end up being in a relationship with a guy who is toxic and who takes you for granted.
It’s better to be alone than with a guy who doesn’t see your worth and who always plays mind games with you.
On top of that, such a guy will do anything he can to put you down and to make you feel like you’re not enough to him. He’ll force you to change and try to mold you as he wishes.
There’s a time and a place where you’ll find the right one. Wait for a guy who’s worthy of your love.
It’s always better to be single than in the arms of a toxic guy.
5. Good guys do exist
I know that you’ve been hurt countless times and that your faith in love has been shattered.
However, don’t lower your standards just because you don’t think good guys exist because they do. It’s just that they aren’t so easy to find.
An honest and caring partner is all that you want but that’s one of the hardest things to achieve.
You have to firmly believe that there are good guys out there and that not all men are the same. Then you’ll see that your luck will turn and you’ll find the right one who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
It’s more about that you had a habit of choosing the wrong guys in the past and nothing else.
There are good guys out there. They’re not extinct, you just have to be patient and not lower your standards.