You meet a guy who seems to need a bit more time to figure out what he actually wants from you. He wants to be sure that he’s making the right decision.
So, as a woman who respects other people’s feelings, you give him time and space so he can understand his emotions.
That whole time, you’ll be waiting because you fell for him and no one else seems good enough compared to this special one.
From time to time, he texts you and asks you to hang out. Sometimes, he cancels those plans because he has other things to do but you never complain.
You don’t want to pressure him or make him feel like he has to put you first because you still have no idea what the two of you are.
He sometimes calls you but hangs up in the middle of a conversation because he has another call.
And it’s fine but if only he would call you back when he’s done talking to other people.
Instead, he leaves your messages unread and his tagged photos reveal a secret.
He’s having the time of his life with his buddies and other girls while you’re waiting for one word from him.
But then again, he takes you out. Yes, it’s usually out of the blue, in the middle of the day, and he never calls you to tell you to get ready.
Instead, he knocks on your door and expects you to get all dressed up in a few minutes.
And you never reject him because how could you reject a man for whom you have such strong feelings.
So, you go out with him. After staring at his phone for good fifteen minutes, he leaves without a word.
On the way out, he tells you that he’ll call you later. Then, you go home and ask yourself whether there’s a name for this thing you and he have.
Can you even call it a thing when he keeps giving you mixed signals over and over again?
He wants you but then bails on you every time something else comes up. He feeds you on crumbs of love but always fails to give you his maximum.
You’re somehow stuck in his life but your hearts are far away from each other.
And there’s one obvious reason why you feel that way. You’re his backup plan and that’s all you’re ever going to be.
No, you aren’t in an almost relationship with him. That step is way above your current position.
Instead, you’re a second choice, an option he calls when everyone else is busy.
You’re a backup plan.
A girl who’s available every time he wants to have some fun, a girl who’ll let him play with her feelings because she’s in love with him.
To him, you’re a girl who’ll wait for him till the end of time because you don’t want to chance losing him.
You believe that he will change, and choose you for once.
But no matter how many chances you give him, you’ll always be his option.
The one he calls when he’s bored and has nothing else to do, the one he leaves when a better opportunity is on the way.
And do you want to be that girl for the rest of your life?
Do you really want to be a girl he’ll tell his friends about only because she gave him a zillion chances?
You’re letting him treat you the way he does and you’re the only one who has the power to stop it.
So raise your standards right now or you’ll forever be his backup plan.
No, his feelings won’t change because he already has what he wants from you.
His wishes are fulfilled and you’re the one who’s not getting what you want.
So, let him know that you won’t tolerate his behavior anymore. You’ve had enough of forgiving him and giving him chances.
It’s obvious that you and he want completely different things from each other. He wants to have you there, as an option when everyone else is busy.
You want him forever, as the only man you’ll give your love to.
Those two things are far away from each other, two completely different spectrums that will never meet in the middle.
If you don’t do something about it, he will always look at you and see a backup plan.
Not a girl he could give a chance to, not a girl he likes but needs more time to express his feelings to.
You’ll be an option, a second, or even third choice he runs to when everyone else is busy.
Do something about it and let him see that you won’t tolerate his behavior anymore.
You don’t want to be just an option, no matter how much you love him.
It’s better for you to lose him than be stuck with a guy who has no real intentions with you.
To him, you’re just a game and he’ll keep playing it as long as you let him.
But once you press the stop button, his tricks won’t work on you anymore.
You won’t run into his arms every time he calls you because he has nothing else to do.
You won’t be giving him chances when he clearly doesn’t deserve them.
It’s better for you to be single than to lose your sanity on a guy who sees you only as a backup plan.
It’s better to focus on yourself and learn to love the person you are than to seek love from someone who’ll never be able to give it to you.
You don’t want to be a backup plan. If he doesn’t see your worth, walk away from him before he drains every atom of energy out of you.
Walk away from him before you give him your whole heart and he throws it away like it means nothing to him.
You deserve love. If this guy isn’t willing to give it you then leave him and learn to love yourself in return.
Don’t settle for anyone until you find the one whose effort reflects yours.