Don’t we all hate the pressure that society and our family keeps putting on us? You don’t want to settle down with the wrong person just to keep up.
There’s pressure to find your real love, to get married, to have kids, and even to own a home.
If you fulfill all of those, you’re destined to lead a happy life.
At least that’s what they keep telling us.
They make us feel that if we don’t achieve any of those things by a certain age, the chances of living a happy and satisfied life decrease.
The second your family members realize that you’re not living up to their expectations, they start asking you questions.
Are you seeing anyone? When do you plan to get married? What are you waiting for?
And the more these questions keep being repeated, the worse you start to feel.
The constant pressure to finally find what society and everyone around you keeps asking for makes it hard to breathe.
You start to feel suffocated and you struggle spending time in the same room as the rest of the family.
Why? Because you know that sooner or later, they’ll ask you one of those questions you hate and it’ll feel as if they spilled ice-cold water all over you.
If you have found yourself in any of these words, I want to tell you something. You don’t have to settle down when others expect you to.
You don’t have to get married just because society sees a certain age as the norm.
You’re not supposed to turn your high school crush into your husband or your love from your early twenties into the love of your life.
Those things should never guide you through life and should never pressure you to make decisions you’re not happy about.
It’s always better to wait than to settle down with the wrong person at an early age.
Settling down is one of the most important steps that you’re going to take in your life. It’ll easily guide all of your future steps.
Do you want to rush things and end up living an unhappy life or do you want to wait until you find the right one and have a higher chance of being satisfied with your decision?
It’s always better to take some time before putting your signature on a piece of paper that ties you to a lifelong commitment to a certain person.
You’re supposed to spend your whole life with him and what would you like that to look like?
Do you want it to be rushed and pressured just because someone else thinks it’s the right time?
Do you want to wake up one morning and realize that you’ve settled down with the completely wrong person?
Someone who has no respect for you and who’ll never understand you, with whom you’ll never feel truly happy?
Does this sound like a good plan to you?
Or would you rather take some time, learn to love yourself, and wait for the one who’ll love you the same way (or even more)?
Would you rather meet your fair share of men in order to get an idea of what qualities you want your perfect one to have?
I’m aware of the amount of pressure you’ll be faced with.
Every day, you’ll log into Facebook and you’ll see one of your friends announcing their engagement.
You’ll see the photos of their wedding, honeymoon, and then their kids.
You’ll stare at them for a second and you’ll wonder why you aren’t as happy as they are.
The wider their smiles, the worse you’ll feel.
You think of all that pressure that keeps pushing you down. You remember the words your family keeps telling you and all of a sudden, it’ll all crash down on you.
Instead of having trust in your decisions, you’ll start to question them.
“Why am I so unhappy? Why can’t I find someone who’ll love me the way others are loved?”
But no matter how hard it gets, don’t ever settle with the wrong person only because you feel that your time has passed.
It’s always better to wait and settle down late than to make a wrong decision that will cost you time and energy.
There’s nothing wrong with being single for as long as you feel that it’s the best choice you could make.
There are no rules when it comes to love; some of us find it early in life, while some of us wait a bit longer.
But no matter what, no one should ever tell you that your time has passed because they don’t know a thing about you.
They don’t know how hard you fought to run away from toxic relationships. And you succeeded – you finally got the freedom you always wanted.
They don’t know how much time it took you to learn to be on your own and to learn to love yourself the way you are.
And now that you’re finally okay with it, do you want to sacrifice that just because others believe that they should be the ones in control of your life?
It’s better to be the last person on earth to get married than to be someone who settles down with the wrong person just to fit in.
You should always take your time and do the things that you know are right for you.
You should stick up for yourself and the decisions that make you feel comfortable.
Even if it takes years to find the right one, it’s better to take that road than to marry right away and live a life full of discontent.
Those who keep pointing fingers at you have their own battles but they don’t know how to deal with them.
So, they found a way to make themselves feel better about their lives by looking for mistakes in yours.
If they truly wanted all the best for you, they would always tell you to choose happiness over everything else.
They would give you the advice to listen to your heart.
But they can’t, because they don’t want you to have a better life than they have.
They want you to be on the same page as they are, even if it feels that you’ll end up unhappy.
So, please, don’t ever let society or anyone control your decisions.
Trust me, real love doesn’t need to be pressured. It comes naturally and sweeps you off your feet.
It steals your heart and only then will you know the right step that you should take.
No matter how long it takes for that to happen, it’s always better to wait than to live a life robbed of your happiness.
P. S. You’ll thank me later!