As social beings, we’re afraid of being lonely. This feeling haunts us, and every step we take is made to move us away from the path of loneliness.
That’s why our whole lives we look for someone to share our time with. Someone who’ll stand next to us and make these days less gray and sad.
We’re made to seek a partner because we believe that without them we’re destined to fail.
How could you be happy if you’re alone? How could you be happy if you still haven’t found someone to share your bed with?
Because of this state of mind, we’re faced with the same questions over and over again.
“When do you plan to get married? Have you met someone? What happened to your last boyfriend?”
All these questions are the result of our deep fear of loneliness.
In our heads, being alone means being sad for the rest of your life.
But not many people understand that you don’t have to be alone to feel lonely. It can happen even if you’re surrounded by a group of people – or even if you have a life partner you said “I do” to.
Loneliness has nothing to do with the number of people you’re surrounded with.
It’s connected with the way those around you make you feel when you’re in their company.
Just because you’re in a relationship, it doesn’t mean that you’re predestined not to feel alone ever again.
It doesn’t necessarily mean that you’ve saved yourself from that dreadful feeling we’re all afraid of.
On the contrary, being in a wrong relationship only intensifies it.
It makes you aware of how lonely you are despite sitting right next to your “life partner.”
When you find yourself in a relationship with someone who doesn’t make you happy, your loneliness grows.
It feeds on the negative feelings you feel for that same person.
The time you spend together is draining and tiring. And no matter how hard you try to resist these feelings, they don’t seem to go away.
You go to bed trying to convince yourself that you shouldn’t feel this way.
You’re in a relationship, you have a partner next to you, so you MUST BE HAPPY!
You don’t eat your lunch alone and you never fall asleep in an empty bed. You shouldn’t feel lonely in any way, right?
But there’s a trick. You can’t expect the wrong person to save you from loneliness. If anything, they’ll only make it grow bigger.
You feel more aware of every single thing that stands between the two of you and makes your loneliness grow.
At this point, you’ll probably try harder to change some parts of yourself.
You’ll try to shape yourself to your partner’s needs, thinking that it could lessen the feeling of isolation he evokes in you.
If you change for him, maybe you’ll feel closer to each other? Maybe there won’t be a wall between you two anymore?
But as time goes by, you’ll realize that nothing can change your feelings.
When you’re not made for a certain person, instead of love, there’s distance between you.
This distance separates your hearts and makes you feel like you don’t know each other.
As a consequence, you could be lying in his arms and he’ll still feel far away from you. He’ll be holding your hand and you’ll still feel isolated and alone.
That’s why it’s always better to be on your own than to be lonely in a relationship with the wrong person.
The moment you meet someone you aren’t completely sure is made for you, take a pause and prevent yourself from taking the wrong step.
The moment you think of being with someone only because you want to dodge those feelings of loneliness, make yourself stop.
Trust me, you’re not doing yourself any favors if you don’t. Instead, you’re only making your life harder.
Stepping into a relationship for the wrong reasons won’t ever bring happiness.
At first, you might be satisfied that you finally have someone, but as you get to know each other better, this sensation will start disappearing.
You’ll realize that the wrong person can’t make your loneliness go away. He can’t make you happy in a relationship.
The only thing he can do is show you what a life with someone who’s not meant to be yours looks like.
He can show you how lonely you can feel even when someone’s right next to you.
That’s why you have to make the right choice. The one that maybe looks scary right now but can save you a lot of pain.
Choose to stay single until you meet the right one. Because it’s always better to be alone than with someone who’ll make you feel lonely.
It’s better to focus on yourself and make yourself happy than to be unhappy next to someone who fails to be the source of your good spirits.
At one point in your life, you’ll be grateful for your decisions.
You’ll be happy that you listened to your heart and stayed away from those who weren’t meant for you.
That’s the only thing that can save your heart from pain.
It can save you from all those who are wrong for you and take away a piece of you the moment they decide to leave.
It’s then when you’ll realize that it was better all along for you to be on your own than feel lonely in a relationship.
Don’t think about what others have to say about it. They’ll always talk, no matter what you decide to do with your life.
As long as you’re happy with your decision, you know that you’re doing what’s right for you.
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