“Are you guys a couple?” “Yes, a couple of friends!” Everyone seems to think the two of you are in a relationship. You spend most of your time together, you share an incredible connection, and you can’t imagine your life without each other. But, how can you know if your love for him is romantic or platonic?
Understanding and defining love has never been an easy task. Not only are there different types of love, but… You can also love multiple people at the same time in completely different and unique ways.
For example, my best friend is someone who came to know every single aspect of my being over the course of years.
He’s been there for me through thick and thin and he’s supported me through all my adventures. There’s no doubt in my mind that I would be completely lost without him.
Then, there’s my boyfriend. He is someone who swept me off my feet the moment he came into my life. He made me the happiest I’ve ever been.
Not a day goes by that I don’t feel grateful for having him by my side. But, you probably guessed it, one is platonic love and one is romantic love.
So, how can you know whether your love for him is romantic or platonic? These two types of love are similar.
But, there are certain things that can help you differentiate between the two. If you’re struggling to understand your emotions keep on reading.
If your love for him is romantic, you probably want to spend every waking hour of the day talking to him. You get a weird feeling in your stomach whenever he gives you that look, and you can’t stop smiling whenever his hand accidentally brushes against yours.
You never really thought about him like that, but you suddenly catch yourself daydreaming about what it would be like to be with him.
Every time you receive a message from him, you spiral into an endless loop of questions “Do I like him? Do I like him not?” Argh, if only you could control your thoughts!
Don’t worry, these feelings become even more intense when they’re directed at someone you already know.
And if this is a newish friendship, you shouldn’t be surprised that you’re having a hard time figuring things out. You’re just a human, after all!
If your love for home is romantic, you’re probably nervous when you’re around him. You can’t help but ramble because you’re terrified of an awkward silence. You don’t want him to think you’re not interesting (or interested)!
Trust me, if your love for him was platonic, you wouldn’t be so nervous around him. The reason you’re nervous is that you’re desperate to spend more time with him. You’re getting nervous and losing yourself in your own words.
And if your love for him was platonic, you wouldn’t try to monopolize his attention. You go out of your way to avoid hanging out with the group because you want him all for yourself.
“But, I prefer hanging out with him because he’s more fun than all my other friends.” And how is that not romantic?
You’re having a hard time dealing with your emotions, and that’s incredibly endearing. Let me get you in on a secret – if he smiles and takes control of the conversation when he notices you’re struggling, chances are he feels the same way you do.
If your love for him is romantic, you probably take every opportunity you can to make physical contact.
You accidentally bump into him when you’re trying to reach for something and he just happens to be in your way. You casually offer to help him with that strange piece of fluff that landed on his face.
And my personal favorite, you sit so close to him that you can’t escape the scent of his cologne. Would you do that if your love for him wasn’t romantic?
Would you do that if you didn’t dream of him every single night? You wouldn’t, you’re just trying to get him to notice you.
And, you might be on to something. Sure, it’s possible he’s just being friendly, but it’s also possible he’s sending signals indicating he’s interested in you.
What if he’s going the extra mile to make sure he smells nice because he wants to get out of the friendzone?
If your love for him is romantic, you probably get jealous when you see him talking to other girls. You try not to overthink things, but you can’t help but get ticked off whenever you see him getting chummy with someone else. Argh, why can’t you keep him all to yourself!?
There’s nothing wrong with a little jealousy, but you have to admit that this specific feeling isn’t common when you’re in a platonic relationship with someone.
You wouldn’t get jealous when you see your best friend’s brother flirting with some random girl, would you? You’re acting territorial. You don’t want him to talk to other girls because you’re afraid he might “leave” you for them.
Trust me, you don’t need any more proof because you clearly have romantic feelings for him. Accept the situation, figure out what you want to do about it, and then do it!
When Harry Met Sally, Always Be My Maybe, 13 Going On 30, One Day… You might want to suggest watching one of these movies next time the two of you decide to hang out or have a sleepover.
These are true odes to one of the most popular storylines in cinematic history – friends turning lovers. While it’s true that movies aren’t a true representation of what happens in real life, there’s no reason you shouldn’t get your happily ever after.
Think about it, you will only ever regret the things you didn’t do. So, what’s the worst thing that could happen? You might sit on your feelings and let this guy move on with his life and meet someone new.
You might spend the rest of your life wondering what would have happened if only you had said something. Or, you might tell him how you feel and see where that takes you. It’s up to you!