Breaking up with someone is not just hard, it’s brutal. One way or another, someone gets hurt.
That is why most of us stay in a relationship, even though we’re not happy and the relationship is unfulfilling.
Romantic love is powerful. It can convince a couple to stay together despite being in a relationship filled with unhappiness and disagreement.
I know you had high hopes that your relationship might last, but after a certain time, problems arise.
And now you’re thinking whether you should end it or try to fix it.
You pay a big price for staying in a relationship that has no future. You’re wasting your time – time you can’t bring back.
It’s the most precious gift God has given us. Maybe you are wasting it on someone who is not worthy of it.
A relationship can take a toll on us and wear you down. But you should know when it’s time to call it quits and move on with your life.
It’s hard to see the difference between a healthy relationship and one that’s reached its end.
While there are problems that are solvable, some major differences in a relationship could mean that you have to take a different path.
I know it’s tough to break up with a person you share a deep and emotional connection with.
I’m not saying breaking up is always the answer, but there are surefire signs that show it’s best to end your relationship.
1. Fights are more frequent
Everybody has problems in their relationships.
However, if your petty problems and little heat-ups become more frequent and turn into something bigger and more serious, then you should consider ending your relationship.
You and your partner will eventually fight over the silliest reasons.
A successful relationship isn’t one that doesn’t have fights at all.
Couples do have arguments, but their common goal is to sort things out, no matter how big or small the problem is.
They respect each other and know their relationship is more important than the fight they’re having.
Ego is a dangerous thing. It can overshadow your love and turn into a weapon of destruction.
When calm arguments without raised voices are replaced by constant bickering and attacks on each other’s character, then it’s time to talk with your partner about your future – or lack thereof.
2. You remember the good old days
Reminiscing about the past and not living in the present can be a dangerous thing to do.
Whenever you’re holding onto past memories, you can’t enjoy your present ones.
All you remember is the good old days, and temporarily, the happy past overshadows the gloomy present.
But the charm and joy will soon enough vanish into thin air and eventually, you will feel lonely even though you are in a relationship.
You think about the time you were madly in love with each other, basking in each other’s presence.
If you’re saying that things were good and now they’re not, you should consider breaking up with your partner.
3. Your expectations and needs aren’t met
When you start a relationship with someone, you expect them to fulfill your needs and emotions and your relationship will prosper.
Those needs are different and vary from person to person. Maybe you expect your partner to try new things or to spend more quality time with you.
As you’ve probably heard, communication is key to a successful relationship. If you don’t communicate your needs, how can you expect them to be fulfilled?
But if after communicating your partner still doesn’t put in the effort to make your dreams come true and doesn’t grow together with you, why are you still with him?
The best way to deal with this is to talk to your partner and see if he’s ready to try harder.
I know that you’ve thought about moving on, but you’ve caught yourself thinking whether you’ll find someone else.
Well, this can give you the boost needed to move on from your current partner if your needs aren’t being met.
4. You’re the one sacrificing
You know it takes two people to make a relationship work and you can’t be the only one sacrificing yourself for the sake of the relationship.
It doesn’t matter if you let him decide the big or small things, like which movie to watch or what to eat. He needs to reciprocate.
If he doesn’t, then you should probably talk with him about it and maybe move on if you can’t find common ground.
Compromise and agreeing on things is what constitutes a healthy relationship.
If one pulls all the strings, then the relationship might tip off-balance and eventually lead to unhappiness and grudges.
5. He constantly criticizes you
The goal of a relationship is to make the other person happy and feel good about both themselves and you.
But if your partner is constantly diminishing your worth and knocking your self-esteem, then it’s an obvious sign your relationship has reached a dead end.
Receiving criticism rather than a suggestion is never a good feeling. Maybe your partner thinks you can handle harsh words.
But the reality is everyone has his or her breaking point. Sometimes enough is enough.
Ignoring the problem and avoiding it will lead you nowhere. A relationship should mean that you grow together.
You should grow as a couple, building each other’s self-esteem and pushing each other to be better every day.
If your partner is criticizing your looks or actions, or makes rude comments, then you should confront him.
If he doesn’t understand that it’s a problem, then break up and move on.
6. Being away from your partner makes you happier
What makes a relationship special is that you get to spend time with the person you love and care about, and enjoy his closeness.
When you’re happy with someone, you impatiently wait to get off work just so you can spend some time with him.
However, a relationship might take a turn and something that started off as a burning desire has become dread to spend time with someone.
You start to question and doubt your partner as tensions rise.
If you find joy and happiness when you’re not around your partner, then you should definitely break up.
Spare you and him losing more time by being with each other. You clearly don’t work great together and why waste any more time?
Gather strength and face the ugly truth. Eventually, it will be worth it.
These are just a few red flags that mean you should break up for the sake of both of you.
Some problems are solvable and some relationships are worth saving. Unfortunately, some are destined to fail.