If their love hurts more than it heals, let it go. It’ll leave you with pain that never goes away, it’ll leave you with scars that never fade, it’ll leave you with tears that never dry.

If their love traps you rather than it sets you free, let them go because it’ll suffocate you. If their love is judgy rather than accepting, let it go because it’ll never make you feel like you are good enough. If their love fills you with insecurity rather than confidence, let it go because it’ll destroy your self-esteem.

If their love makes you anxious rather than relaxed, let it go because it’ll damage your mental health. If their love takes you for granted rather than appreciating you, let it go because it’ll burn you out. If their love surrounds you with shame rather than pride, let it go because it’ll drag you to a dark place of self-hatred and self-blame.

If their love scares the shit out of you rather than comforts you, let them go because it’ll leave you with regret that never goes away, it’ll leave you with memories that never fade, it’ll leave you with feelings that never lie.

If their love comes in a time when you’re not in a good place to be with them, let it go because they’ll bring out the worst in you. If their love competes with your ex’s, let it go because you’ll sabotage a connection before it happens. If your head is full of doubt rather than hope, let it go because you’ll make them pay for someone else’s mistakes.

If their love asks too much of you, let it go because you can’t give what you don’t have. If their love forces itself on you, let it go because you’ll run away from it. If their love isn’t what you’re looking for, let it go because you’ll keep it until you find the one you actually want.

If love feels more wrong than right, let it go because love is a privileged choice, a powerful force, a beautiful miracle.

Let it go because no one deserves to be a temporary fix, no one deserves to be the rebound, no one deserves to come second. Let it go because no one deserves to be treated less than, no one deserves to be treated unfairly, no one deserves to be treated badly. Let it go because no one should be bad in love, no one should be selfish in love, no one should be abusive in love.

You were never born to hurt in love, suffer in love, or break in love. You were born to love, to be loved, and to make love.

By Farah Ayaad for ThoughtCatalog

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