I used to think that there was a rule book for dating. You had to wait a certain number of days before calls or a set number of hours to text back.
You had to have it all together or at least appear like you do. You had to say the right things, look the right way, make all the right moves at the right time.
You couldn’t be overeager because then you would look needy. You couldn’t be too much of anything right off the bat because it would make you look desperate or unattractive.
But, I think that’s a load of crap. All of it.
And, I refuse to let my love life be dictated by a rule book made to censor my true self in hopes of acceptance.
Because, if I am going to date you, you need to see the real me. You need to see the awkward, quirky, imperfect mess.
You need to know that if I enjoyed your company, I am going to tell you. You need to know that I’m not always going to say the right things. I’m not always going to look as put together as that original filtered photo you saw of me.
So, if you’re looking to play the “who can act less interested?” game, I don’t want to be part of it. I don’t want to be the girl that is acting like she is okay with being one of multiple girls you are pursuing.
I don’t want to be the girl that hides all of her true feelings behind a cool and collected exterior.
Because I have a lot of things I want to pursue. But, pursuing someone who only wants a fair weather fling is not on my agenda.
So, I’m just looking for you to be real with me. I am looking for you to be okay with being vulnerable and honest.
I am looking for someone that won’t waste my energy on guessing games and waiting by the phone.
And, I think that you’ll find that this could be very refreshing for you too because I am going to be up front with you. I will give you the same respect that I am looking for from you.
I will treat your heart with care because that’s what I expect from you.
In dating, being direct isn’t always looked at as the cool thing to do. But, I don’t want to be the cool girl. I want to be the girl who knows what she wants and what she’s worth.
So, if you’re the kind of guy who incorporates a lot of mind games in your courting strategy, then please keep moving.
I have done my time trying to be the perfect dating prospect. Now, it’s time for me to just be myself.